Author miranda561 Posted May 8, 2020 Author Share Posted May 8, 2020 4 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: I'm going to bow out of the thread. I don't really think going in circles is helpful for you. Fair enough. But i did make a valid point? How can i meet someone whilst being in lockdown. Im sure im not the only one with the same dilemma 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted May 9, 2020 Share Posted May 9, 2020 9 hours ago, miranda561 said: Fair enough. But i did make a valid point? How can i meet someone whilst being in lockdown. Im sure im not the only one with the same dilemma Not really. You had plenty of time before lockdown to get this off the ground. We all gave you advice about this months ago in your other thread about it. And you've had opportunity during lockdown to communicate more meaningfully with him. You've done neither. You do next to nothing and still and expect results. Best of luck . 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author miranda561 Posted May 9, 2020 Author Share Posted May 9, 2020 12 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: Not really. You had plenty of time before lockdown to get this off the ground. We all gave you advice about this months ago in your other thread about it. And you've had opportunity during lockdown to communicate more meaningfully with him. You've done neither. You do next to nothing and still and expect results. Best of luck . 😳😳 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted May 10, 2020 Share Posted May 10, 2020 20 hours ago, miranda561 said: 😳😳 Look...you really seem to want to do it...so do it. Life's short. GL. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author miranda561 Posted May 10, 2020 Author Share Posted May 10, 2020 14 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said: Look...you really seem to want to do it...so do it. Life's short. GL. Thanks for the encouragement 😅😁 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted May 21, 2020 Share Posted May 21, 2020 (edited) So did you? What happened? My advice to women is don’t chase/pursue men. Most men will tell you yeah, sure, do it. Because most men, like everyone else, like to be admired and desired. Doesn’t mean that’s what they find most attractive coming from a potential partner. I think if a man is into you and thinks you’re into him, he will reach out... jmo Edited May 21, 2020 by Cookiesandough 4 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 21, 2020 Share Posted May 21, 2020 I agree. I think a lot of men while flattered will still devalue you for coming after them, especially if they don't have the best self esteem or they're worried about whether a woman is promiscuous or not. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted May 21, 2020 Share Posted May 21, 2020 16 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: So did you? What happened? My advice to women is don’t chase/pursue men. Most men will tell you yeah, sure, do it. Because most men, like everyone else, like to be admired and desired. Doesn’t mean that’s what they find most attractive coming from a potential partner. I think if a man is into you and thinks you’re into him, he will reach out... jmo This is very true.....if HE is into you THEN HE will let you know....women that chase are often considered to be needy and/or clingy. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author miranda561 Posted May 21, 2020 Author Share Posted May 21, 2020 (edited) 47 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: So did you? What happened? My advice to women is don’t chase/pursue men. Most men will tell you yeah, sure, do it. Because most men, like everyone else, like to be admired and desired. Doesn’t mean that’s what they find most attractive coming from a potential partner. I think if a man is into you and thinks you’re into him, he will reach out... jmo I agree wholeheartedly with you. The only reason i decided to make more effort with this person in particular is because initially..well for quite some time he wanted to pursue something with me. And for whatever reason i wasnt forthcoming and he ended it saying "i knew nothing was going to happen between us". Due to how i was hot n cold with him all the.time. Had he never shown any interest i wouldn't have given him a second look. Because I've always been the type of person to need a mutual interest. The last we were in contact he mentioned meeting me etc. So i guess it was down to me to say something next. But i haven't 😶. Its with this whole quarantine thing going on..i just think how are we going to meet. Sorry if that went on a bit 😂 Edited May 21, 2020 by miranda561 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author miranda561 Posted May 21, 2020 Author Share Posted May 21, 2020 1 hour ago, simpycurious said: This is very true.....if HE is into you THEN HE will let you know....women that chase are often considered to be needy and/or clingy. This guy would say he wants me to call him more often. Well anyway at that particular time i wasn't calling him like he wanted and then he gave up. And said "i knew things wouldn't go anywhere with us".. I was the furthest from clingy and needy. I even said maybe you need a clingy woman..and I'm not that to which he replied clingy women scare him. 😂 1 Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted May 21, 2020 Share Posted May 21, 2020 I think everyone is different in regards to how much is too much or what's not enough. I like having some ME time to do things I enjoy especially during peak season but some are in desperate need of constant communication. I guess it's like "TO EACH THEIR OWN" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author miranda561 Posted May 21, 2020 Author Share Posted May 21, 2020 4 minutes ago, simpycurious said: I think everyone is different in regards to how much is too much or what's not enough. I like having some ME time to do things I enjoy especially during peak season but some are in desperate need of constant communication. I guess it's like "TO EACH THEIR OWN" Yeh same. I think i get carried away with me time though...and when a guy like that whos been in relationship after relations hip is probably used to more frequent contact from the other party at least. He said his ex used to claim he didnt call her enough. And theres me..the opposite of her Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted May 21, 2020 Share Posted May 21, 2020 Just now, miranda561 said: Yeh same. I think i get carried away with me time though...and when a guy like that whos been in relationship after relations hip is probably used to more frequent contact from the other party at least. He said his ex used to claim he didnt call her enough. And theres me..the opposite of her Just have to find the right balance. There's no clear cut answer kinda a "feel it out" type deal. Just DON'T BE BORING. Boring someone is a sure fire way to end things quickly. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author miranda561 Posted May 21, 2020 Author Share Posted May 21, 2020 10 minutes ago, simpycurious said: Just have to find the right balance. There's no clear cut answer kinda a "feel it out" type deal. Just DON'T BE BORING. Boring someone is a sure fire way to end things quickly. I've never been boring 😯. At least he said im not unlike people he met in the past. Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted May 21, 2020 Share Posted May 21, 2020 2 minutes ago, miranda561 said: I've never been boring 😯. At least he said im not unlike people he met in the past. How NOT boring are we talking? Can you give examples ? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author miranda561 Posted May 21, 2020 Author Share Posted May 21, 2020 14 minutes ago, simpycurious said: How NOT boring are we talking? Can you give examples ? What do you find boring in a woman/girl. From your personal experience. And for one im not a shallow individual who takes selfies and puts up videos about makeup all day long...that makes me less boring. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted May 21, 2020 Share Posted May 21, 2020 4 hours ago, simpycurious said: How NOT boring are we talking? Can you give examples ? Yes simpy can you give us examples of what you find boring in a girl 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author miranda561 Posted May 21, 2020 Author Share Posted May 21, 2020 58 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Yes simpy can you give us examples of what you find boring in a girl I just love how the guy i was talking about was saying how a lot of women he spoke to in the past were boring. Must think so highly of himself to say that 🙄😂😂 1 Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted May 22, 2020 Share Posted May 22, 2020 7 hours ago, simpycurious said: How NOT boring are we talking? Can you give examples ? any examples??? 3 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: Yes simpy can you give us examples of what you find boring in a girl maybe not being open to new experiences....going to new places, trying new things maybe boring is not the right way to put it..... 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted May 22, 2020 Share Posted May 22, 2020 4 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: Yes simpy can you give us examples of what you find boring in a girl what bores with a guy? or causes your interest to wane quickly? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted May 22, 2020 Share Posted May 22, 2020 3 hours ago, miranda561 said: I just love how the guy i was talking about was saying how a lot of women he spoke to in the past were boring. Must think so highly of himself to say that 🙄😂😂 Why need to insult him? He probably just wanted a girl who was into fun stuff. Nothing wrong with that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author miranda561 Posted May 22, 2020 Author Share Posted May 22, 2020 6 minutes ago, basil67 said: Why need to insult him? He probably just wanted a girl who was into fun stuff. Nothing wrong with that. No i understand that because im the same. But its just the way he said it. He was like to me would you engage with someone who was boring...And he was referring to his ex. Hes insulted his exes before. It just came across arrogant thats all. 😳 1 Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted May 22, 2020 Share Posted May 22, 2020 (edited) miranda, I hope this doesn't sound unkind but you created this thread one month ago stating he had not contacted you in a week. So now it's been five (5) and he still hasn't contacted you. I think it's safe to presume whatever interest he had in you is long gone by now. I also think you are incredibly naive to believe that even when he did have interest in you, enough to talk to you for 3 hours, he wasn't also talking to other girls. Come on, of couse he was! I know some of us women like to believe that once a man meets us, whether online or in person, that he won't desire to talk or meet with any other woman for the rest of his life, lol, but that is simply not the case. We are not that special, especially to a man we have never even met in person and until we do meet in person, we are simply another option. It would serve you well to realize this. It's time to extricate this man from your consciousness and let this thread die. I can almost guarantee you he is no longer giving you much thought, if he ever was no matter how often he sought reassurance from you to boost his own fragile ego. I'm sorry that seemed harsh, but someone had to say it. You seem like a lovely person and hate to see you wasting energy even thinking about him. Best of luck moving forward! Edited May 22, 2020 by poppyfields Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted May 22, 2020 Share Posted May 22, 2020 17 hours ago, miranda561 said: I've never been boring 😯. At least he said im not unlike people he met in the past. I was not implying that you were boring....sorry if it came across as such. I was just making a general comment. Link to post Share on other sites
Author miranda561 Posted May 22, 2020 Author Share Posted May 22, 2020 (edited) 5 hours ago, poppyfields said: miranda, I hope this doesn't sound unkind but you created this thread one month ago stating he had not contacted you in a week. So now it's been five (5) and he still hasn't contacted you. I think it's safe to presume whatever interest he had in you is long gone by now. I also think you are incredibly naive to believe that even when he did have interest in you, enough to talk to you for 3 hours, he wasn't also talking to other girls. Come on, of couse he was! I know some of us women like to believe that once a man meets us, whether online or in person, that he won't desire to talk or meet with any other woman for the rest of his life, lol, but that is simply not the case. We are not that special, especially to a man we have never even met in person and until we do meet in person, we are simply another option. It would serve you well to realize this. It's time to extricate this man from your consciousness and let this thread die. I can almost guarantee you he is no longer giving you much thought, if he ever was no matter how often he sought reassurance from you to boost his own fragile ego. I'm sorry that seemed harsh, but someone had to say it. You seem like a lovely person and hate to see you wasting energy even thinking about him. Best of luck moving forward! Well i only came back on here to reply to someone who asked what was going on not to seek advice. In essence letting it die. Also if you or i aren't that special..then no one is technically. I dont think i remember saying i think hes not talking to anyone else...i just said at the time its not feasible to have three hour conversations with every woman on the planet. Anyway regardless ...now he may be. Since neither him or i have contacted the other. In all fairness..we've had weeks/months go by in between and its been cool again. Usually because i've let time go by. With all due respect please don't imply im hanging on to hope of him. I know how these things work. Thanks i guess Edited May 22, 2020 by miranda561 Link to post Share on other sites
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