What kind of pics work on tinder?

[bradt93]

I just have one pic on tinder and it's me in my car, but you can't see my face. What type of pics do I need in order to get a few matches? Do I need to be smiling, can I take an up close shot? etc?? Women aren't going to match you with just you in your car right without seeing your face?

[CaliforniaGirl]

1 hour ago, bradt93 said:

I just have one pic on tinder and it's me in my car, but you can't see my face. What type of pics do I need in order to get a few matches? Do I need to be smiling, can I take an up close shot? etc?? Women aren't going to match you with just you in your car right without seeing your face?

I don't date now, I haven't dated for a long time, but I did OLD briefly. Pics that obscured the face definitely were a turnoff. Shades and a hat; faraway shots of the guy fishing or whatever; and yes, the guy inside his car. Eight-year-olds have phones today, literally. And if it's an app, well, there you go. You've got a phone. So there is no excuse for not showing what your face and body look like - currently - unless you're hiding something.

Just one pic would seem odd and kind of suspect too. Again, why? People today have taken 10 pics (of anything, including themselves) by lunchtime on a given day. And if they haven't, they easily could. So what's the person's secret? He's married? He wants to do some damage but not be traceable based on an artist's sketch? It's not his own picture? He knows he's physically very unattractive (that's not a slam, but people should know basics upfront rather than being tricked, IMO...catfishing begs the question "Oh, okay. So what else does this dude plan on lying to me about?" ).

Keep in mind that if all that sounds shallow, you are after all asking about the pictures specifically.  

So...whatever else you do, smile or don't smile, etc., have at least two pics clearly showing yourself, plus a pic of two that could include something like the car pic of liking cars is part of your personality or a hobby or something.

Edited April 20, 2020 by CaliforniaGirl

[CaliforniaGirl]

By the way, I hope that didn't come off like I was yelling at you. I'm sure you're a good guy. I was just pointing out what might be running through the woman's mind when she comes across your profile.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

12 hours ago, bradt93 said:

What kind of pics work on tinder?

The same ones which have been most popular on hotornot 

 

 

[bradt93]

14 hours ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

I don't date now, I haven't dated for a long time, but I did OLD briefly. Pics that obscured the face definitely were a turnoff. Shades and a hat; faraway shots of the guy fishing or whatever; and yes, the guy inside his car. Eight-year-olds have phones today, literally. And if it's an app, well, there you go. You've got a phone. So there is no excuse for not showing what your face and body look like - currently - unless you're hiding something.

Just one pic would seem odd and kind of suspect too. Again, why? People today have taken 10 pics (of anything, including themselves) by lunchtime on a given day. And if they haven't, they easily could. So what's the person's secret? He's married? He wants to do some damage but not be traceable based on an artist's sketch? It's not his own picture? He knows he's physically very unattractive (that's not a slam, but people should know basics upfront rather than being tricked, IMO...catfishing begs the question "Oh, okay. So what else does this dude plan on lying to me about?" ).

Keep in mind that if all that sounds shallow, you are after all asking about the pictures specifically.  

So...whatever else you do, smile or don't smile, etc., have at least two pics clearly showing yourself, plus a pic of two that could include something like the car pic of liking cars is part of your personality or a hobby or something.

Yea, no one can hardly see me in my car; that could be a problem.

[normal person]

14 minutes ago, bradt93 said:

Yea, no one can hardly see me in my car; that could be a problem.

Of course it's a problem, no one's going to want to go out with someone unless they know what they look like first, when they very easily could go out with thousands of other people who they wouldn't have to take a chance on. 

I would start by having a handful pictures that show your face, from reasonably close, not wearing a hat, not wearing sunglasses, not surrounded by other people to the point where she can't determine which one you are. Make sure a few of them are full body pictures too, because if you're overweight and you try to hide it, she's likely going to be resentful when she does meet you if she was expecting you to be in shape. 

[bradt93]

I'm just too nervous too, because I don't think every girl will like me.

[normal person]

4 hours ago, bradt93 said:

I'm just too nervous too, because I don't think every girl will like me.

Then you have bigger problems. "Every girl" will never like you, no matter what you do. If you want to find someone who does like you, you'll need to take the chance on encountering people who don't. 

If you're a grown adult who gets nervous over this sort of thing, maybe you should take a step back and sort out whatever issues you have, because no woman is going to want to date someone who'd get nervous over something trivial like that either. I would suggest you seek some guidance from a professional because it doesn't sound like you're capable of handling even relatively painless aspects of the process.