Author ZA Dater Posted May 23, 2020 Author Share Posted May 23, 2020 5 minutes ago, Emilie Jolie said: Sorry ZA. Her reply was rude and tactless. Have you done something to take you mind off? I work out mostly. Currently am locked down so can't really go out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZA Dater Posted May 23, 2020 Author Share Posted May 23, 2020 1 hour ago, elaine567 said: But an experienced woman looking for a FWB was never going to be happy with a virgin, unless you felt you had the confidence to pull it off without her ever knowing. Did you tell her how inexperienced you are? By that logic I may as well not even attempt to date at all. But thanks anyway for pointing out yet another thing people seem to want: Casanova. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilie Jolie Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 Maybe pick up a good book, or choose something cheerful and / or interesting to watch? The main point is to try not dwelling on it. Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, miranda561 said: If that was all true then no average looking woman would be married right now. 😂. But i have friends/acquaintances who are deemed less attractive than i. Who settled down long ago. What happens is most long term couples match up in attractiveness. So unattractive women are with unattractive men. Average with average. Attractive with attractive. It’s only when it’s just casual sex that you get a discrepancy (more attractive man with less attractive woman). Edited May 23, 2020 by Weezy1973 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 22 minutes ago, ZA Dater said: By that logic I may as well not even attempt to date at all. But thanks anyway for pointing out yet another thing people seem to want: Casanova. Women who want casual/FWB are not ALL women. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 1 hour ago, miranda561 said: So weeezys statement is wrong. Of course not for ALL men. Just on average. Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 1 minute ago, elaine567 said: Women who want casual/FWB are not ALL women. Exactly. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZA Dater Posted May 23, 2020 Author Share Posted May 23, 2020 58 minutes ago, elaine567 said: Women who want casual/FWB are not ALL women. Yeah well can't get attractive dates either so lol. I hardly think a date would be any less unimpressed than a fwb. Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 2 hours ago, ZA Dater said: Yeah well can't get attractive dates either so lol. I hardly think a date would be any less unimpressed than a fwb. Don't overthink it, you will find someone. (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZA Dater Posted May 23, 2020 Author Share Posted May 23, 2020 6 minutes ago, Ellener said: Don't overthink it, you will find someone. (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Just being driven to consider other dating options. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 5 hours ago, miranda561 said: So weeezys statement is wrong. No. It's generally correct for most guys from what I've observed. I've ended up going home with a few not-so-hot girls back in my younger days. Especially after a big night on the booze. Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 On 5/22/2020 at 9:30 PM, miranda561 said: So true!!!. Men always complain about women ignoring them and how great they are..but if they have a female who like them that they have no interest in. They will have no trouble ignoring them. Ive seen it with my male friends and how they treat women This is the same for both sexes. It's a human trait and not a condition of just one sex. Link to post Share on other sites
miranda561 Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 8 minutes ago, Trail Blazer said: No. It's generally correct for most guys from what I've observed. I've ended up going home with a few not-so-hot girls back in my younger days. Especially after a big night on the booze. Ok yea..going back to my original conclusion. Men are desperate 😁 Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 8 minutes ago, miranda561 said: Ok yea..going back to my original conclusion. Men are desperate 😁 Men love sex and will stoop below their actual standards to satisfy their sexual needs/instant gratification. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
miranda561 Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 4 minutes ago, Trail Blazer said: Men love sex and will stoop below their actual standards to satisfy their sexual needs/instant 🤢 Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 @miranda561 your reactions are priceless and exactly the evidence that shows men and women are different when it comes to casual sex! You can’t even fathom it! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 8 hours ago, miranda561 said: Not necessarily true. I think im looking for some thing which ill probably never find. But i have a lot of friends who in my view have settled..or not found anything better. I think women in general want to settle down quicker than a lot of men. What exactly is that and why do you believe you'll never probably never find it? Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 32 minutes ago, Weezy1973 said: @miranda561 your reactions are priceless and exactly the evidence that shows men and women are different when it comes to casual sex! You can’t even fathom it! I was thinking the exact same thing! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
miranda561 Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, Weezy1973 said: @miranda561 your reactions are priceless and exactly the evidence that shows men and women are different when it comes to casual sex! You can’t even fathom it! I can't fathom it but im not typical of a lot of women. There are a lot who do have casual flings and have no problem with it. I had a friend within the space of a few months already had sex with three or four guys..all casually 😮 Edited May 23, 2020 by miranda561 Link to post Share on other sites
miranda561 Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 29 minutes ago, Trail Blazer said: What exactly is that and why do you believe you'll never probably never find it? I think im basically the female ZA dater😂😂. I wont find it because thus far i haven't found a guy who has both a combination of the looks and personality and attributes im looking for. Its either theyre attractive but we have nothing in common and theyre arrogant. .or the attraction is missing but we do have things in common. But i need it all!!! Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 (edited) I can not believe any of this is still an argument when anyone can look around and see hundreds of ordinary very non-gorgeous very non-8-pack men and women hand in hand and happy and doin' it. Dater has way more going on than a less than Chris Pratt face, refuses therapy to uncover what it might be and refuses help here and will continue this for 25 more pages, and there you have it. ETA: sorry. Another 30 pages. Edited May 23, 2020 by CaliforniaGirl 4 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
miranda561 Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 2 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said: I can not believe any of this is still an argument when anyone can look around and see hundreds of ordinary very non-gorgeous very non-8-pack men and women hand in hand and happy and doin' it. Dater has way more going on than a less than Chris Pratt face, refuses therapy to uncover what it might be and refuses help here and will continue this for 25 more pages, and there you have it. 😮 Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, miranda561 said: 🤢 The problem with this mentality is that it serves to throw the Sexual Marketplace Value for both sexes out the window. It artificially inflates women's SMV whilst lowering men's significantly. Where women who cannot comprehend how a man thinks, and are utterly repulsed upon realization, it generally wouldn't occur to them that the guy chasing her who's better looking for a male relative to her, is just looking for a quick fling. This lady would genuinely believe that she's attractive to him, or else, why would he pursue her? When he dumps her like a body in the Hudson River after he's had a bit of fun, she cannot comprehend why, and just gets upset and things men are @$$holes. Yet, when she goes back for more, she discards her equal in terms of looks, because better looking guys are after her. Those guys are "stooping" to get an easy lay, rinse and repeat. In the case of OLD, however, she's always going to swipe right to the hotter guys, as those are the guys she'll match with. Unbeknownst to her, though, is the fact that those same guys have probably swiped on almost everyone and are playing a numbers game. And, if they're keen on that girl, it just means that they didn't have any luck with any of the girls hotter than her. Unfortunately for the guys who are looking for something more than just a fling, they're judged to the same looks standard. Women who've been constantly purused by better looking guys, often with ungenuine intentions, have become attracted to a particular standard and don't want to "lower" their standards. It's a mess for both sexes and, for the most part, OLD does a disservice to both. People just need to understand how to use it and realize that it's less about themselves, and more about the toxicity of the monster that OLD has created. If people can realize that, they should be able to navigate it whilst handling rejection like water off a duck's back. Edited May 23, 2020 by Trail Blazer Link to post Share on other sites
Emilie Jolie Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 3 hours ago, ZA Dater said: Just being driven to consider other dating options. Sounds wise. Take a breather from the negativity your OLD dating experiences bring you, and focus on something else for a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 23, 2020 Share Posted May 23, 2020 2 hours ago, Trail Blazer said: No. It's generally correct for most guys from what I've observed. I've ended up going home with a few not-so-hot girls back in my younger days. Especially after a big night on the booze. And that is how it tends to work and what ZA Dater missed out on., He doesn't have the impulsivity of youth to get drunk, take chances and fall into bed and find his feet in the dating world. Now at 36, he is too sensible, too analytical, too serious, too rigid, too sober, so there is no devil may care attitude and no joie de vivre... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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