Rinse and repeat cycle

[Maria1956]

10 minutes ago, JimmyNorth said:

Is it possible that your MM sends electricity through your body everytime you’re with him? Maybe you don’t have that feeling with your husband anymore because your MM is stealing the show?!?

The sad part is sometimes us MM’s know that the OW is totally whipped on us so strongly that we “think” that the OW will never stray....but that’s not the case.

Us MM’s actually are slowly destroying our OW soul each month, each year we don’t commit to them. It takes a toll on the OW. But as a MM, we love the attention the OW gives us, we love feeling like the king the OW makes us feel like.

Meanwhile, our OW emotions are being beaten on every lonely night, weekend and holiday that we MM’s are absent from. 

That’s so true sadly. It just validates the fact that I’m in an affair that’s no special or different than any other, as much as I like to think it was. I feel utterly drained by it all. I can’t even muster up anger. I feel hollowed out. 

[Nats_16]

@Maria1956 It’s a lose lose situation, I’ve been in mine almost three years- 3 d-days later and no further forward so I’m finally done. Trying to get him to see sense is like banging your head against a brick wall, when I told MM that this is just a classic affair and he is having his cake and eating it he tells me that we are not text book and we are different! The excuses I have listened to are laughable, seriously walk walk away for yourself and your sanity. Leave him where he quite clearly is comfortable.

[Beentheretoooften]

It’s so easy to say walk away.  All these OW’s, especially the M’ed ones, just blame blame blame.   When a good portion of A’s start, both parties generally go into it with the feeling of I’m just doing this for fun.  And then it gets serious and I love yous start to fly etc.   but the woman change their initial goal of just having fun to a want to be in a full out an open R, and say goodbye to our entire lives.   If everyone stuck to the original agreement, you wouldn’t have all these scorned woman.  You never fully get over it, but time really is so helpful and is still on your side.  OP is so young.  Break it off and in a year or 2, it’ll be in your rear view mirror.  You can take parts of things you’ve learned and apply it going forward.   M’ed OW’s, it’s a little harder, because you go back to contentment.   And nobody really wants boring and uneventful.  For the m’ed ones, you have to look and realize the long term accomplishments, and be happy with contentment.    Again, these are all so easy to say.  But everyone basically gives the same advice.   OP, one more question, has mm flat out said I’m leaving?   I don’t doubt there isn’t a part of him that loves you very much.  Has actually said the words.  Would it have made a difference if he told you in beginning he would ever leave?  Right in the beginning before you “fell”?