I told her I love her....

[Lovestruck8992]

So I met this girl 5 months ago. 
long story short we started dating about 4 months ago.

she is incredible, we click, our chemistry is there. We care very deeply for one another.

shes told me she cares so much for me, and I have said the same to her.

last night I told her I loved her.. and that I didn’t expect to hear it back, but I promised her I’d tell her if I felt it.

i knew this scares her she told me beforehand that that kinda thing freaks her out.

but she freaked out as expected... annnnnd it’s been really awkward for a day now.

she told me she doesn’t want to talk about it right now etc etc and I feel like I just F*****d everything up.... did I just ruin everything?

 

shes divorced and had a little one.

we honestly are so good together and she always tells me how happy she is. I’ve met her family she met some of mine.

but now I’m here alone in my thoughts wondering if I just ruined everything.

[preraph]

Oh, she has a kid and everything, so commitment is something she probably takes very seriously, and you've only known each other 5 months.  That's fine to say I love you, but it's not fine to back it up with any serious commitment, too soon, so maybe that is what is scaring her.  She's got to take it slow because she has a child and probably hasn't been out of a relationship all that long.  

 

Just be chill when you see her.  See if she brings it up or not.  Don't push her for any commitment.  She doesn't know you well enough yet.  Sounds like she likes you a lot, but it's just too early.  

[Lovestruck8992]

22 minutes ago, preraph said:

Oh, she has a kid and everything, so commitment is something she probably takes very seriously, and you've only known each other 5 months.  That's fine to say I love you, but it's not fine to back it up with any serious commitment, too soon, so maybe that is what is scaring her.  She's got to take it slow because she has a child and probably hasn't been out of a relationship all that long.  

 

Just be chill when you see her.  See if she brings it up or not.  Don't push her for any commitment.  She doesn't know you well enough yet.  Sounds like she likes you a lot, but it's just too early.  

Yeah she was married a couple years ago.

i knew and still know she had commitment issues, she told me herself. She’s been very open with me about everything as I with her.

She’s told me beforehand she’s afraid of getting hurt, she’s scared of love. But I also feel like I shouldn’t hide my feelings either... and I told her I didn’t want to hear it back I wasn’t expecting anything I just wanted to be honest with how I felt. 
this morning it was just super awkward but she told me she’s happy and I’m not an idiot for telling her that.... but it was so awkward and felt weird like if I f***ed it all up.

[preraph]

It's all right.  It can be awkward, but it's okay you expressed yourself.  Just know that with that usually comes pressure of commitment, which she is not ready for.  So let her know you are not in any hurry to move to the next phase or anything like that and are happy as is for the time being.