Angel29 Posted April 27, 2020 Share Posted April 27, 2020 A week before the lockdown happened I went for a walk with a walking group. There was a guy there who I have known for a few years. He seemed a bit shy when we said hello on arrival. During the walk he asked if I was seeing anyone. I'm not sure why he asked if I was seeing anyone as he has never asked that before. He has always been a kind and caring person. He was empathetic when he heard I had been going through some difficulties. We get on well and I am attracted to him. I don't know if I am reading too much into it. After the lockdown could it be worth just getting to know him properly within the walking group environment? I don't want to be pursuing a guy and prefer there to be no pressure. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted April 27, 2020 Share Posted April 27, 2020 (edited) It depends on the context. Did he just randomly come up and say "are you seeing anyone?" To me, that would indicate interest. If it was more like you guys were on a related topic or you had indicated you were trying to meet someone before and he asked, it could be friendly. Edited April 27, 2020 by Cookiesandough 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Angel29 Posted April 27, 2020 Author Share Posted April 27, 2020 4 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Did he just randomly come up and say "are you seeing anyone?" I had not seen this guy for a year and after a few minutes of talking he randomly asking if I was seeing anyone. What we spoke about prior had nothing to do with dating. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted April 27, 2020 Share Posted April 27, 2020 17 minutes ago, Angel29 said: I had not seen this guy for a year and after a few minutes of talking he randomly asking if I was seeing anyone. What we spoke about prior had nothing to do with dating. It sounds like interest, but hard to say....Do you guys talk outside of the walking group? Has he suggested to? Link to post Share on other sites
Blind-Sided Posted April 28, 2020 Share Posted April 28, 2020 Yep... If it was a random subject while talking... he's interested. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 28, 2020 Share Posted April 28, 2020 Generally that inquiry indicates interest. The person asking wants to make sure they are not stepping on toes. Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted April 28, 2020 Share Posted April 28, 2020 (edited) 17 hours ago, Angel29 said: I had not seen this guy for a year and after a few minutes of talking he randomly asking if I was seeing anyone. What we spoke about prior had nothing to do with dating. Yes 99% likely he is interested (the other 1% he is setting up a friend ), this was to see if you are. It's not the kind of thing you just ask, unless he has a match making business. So what was your response to his question? Edited April 28, 2020 by SumGuy Link to post Share on other sites
Author Angel29 Posted April 28, 2020 Author Share Posted April 28, 2020 12 minutes ago, SumGuy said: Yes 99% likely he is interested (the other 1% he is setting up a friend ), this was to see if you are. It's not the kind of thing you just ask, unless he has a match making business. So what was your response to his question? I told him I was single and had not met anyone. I then asked him as I thought he was nosy enough to ask me. He then told me his frustrations at online dating. He said with his last date he said he decided not to date her as she lived an hour away. I thought that was an odd response as he would have known how far she lived so it's likely she wasn't interested. He said he wants to date someone within a 30 minute drive, he seems fussy. I live within 30 minutes so that goes in my favour! Haha. He said he went speed dating which was also a waste of time. It was weird as he has never told me about his dating life before as he is quite a private person. Then lockdown happened, I would love to see him again. Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted April 28, 2020 Share Posted April 28, 2020 (edited) @Angel29 You opened some flood gates Sounds like your response was encouraging. Asking him the question back is the typical expected opening response. I suspect if he is shy and his response is to lay out how dating is been bad for him (subconsciously seeking solace maybe, unless you laid out some dating woes and then it could be commonality building) then you may have to contact him after lockdown. Not to ask him out but just to get back on the radar. Edited April 28, 2020 by SumGuy 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 28, 2020 Share Posted April 28, 2020 I think he probably is interested! That's not something you usually ask someone if you're not. Next time you see him, be extra friendly and smile and hang with him some and maybe he'll get up the nerve to ask you out. Link to post Share on other sites
Ami1uwant Posted April 30, 2020 Share Posted April 30, 2020 On 4/28/2020 at 11:03 AM, Angel29 said: I told him I was single and had not met anyone. I then asked him as I thought he was nosy enough to ask me. He then told me his frustrations at online dating. He said with his last date he said he decided not to date her as she lived an hour away. I thought that was an odd response as he would have known how far she lived so it's likely she wasn't interested. He said he wants to date someone within a 30 minute drive, he seems fussy. I live within 30 minutes so that goes in my favour! Haha. He said he went speed dating which was also a waste of time. It was weird as he has never told me about his dating life before as he is quite a private person. Then lockdown happened, I would love to see him again. Distance apart actually does does matter even if you think it’s not far. say you met this person and thry were on the opposite side of town and rush hr drive was an hr, then drive to your home st night was 30 minutes. Thsts an hr and a half of just driving to see someone during a work day. If this was one sided driving thus could wear on you driving 90 minutes just to spend 60-90 minute before you have to leave to get home. This relationship limely becomes a weekend only thing. thrn factor other stuff like how tied to there is that person like having kids and owning a house there so they likely aren’t moving. But this means for your job will be 45-60 min drive in and out every day while now you live only 10 min away. Big difference. It may be easier if you lived on opposite sides of town but work locations were a few blocks apart so it was easy having lunch or dinner together before you both went back home. Thus seeing each other more. Then long term it be easier because with you two working near each other you can commute in each day together where one stays over the others house. in my life I’ve backed out of some potential relationships because of the difference. Link to post Share on other sites
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