I think I royally screwed things up :

[Lovestruck8992]

So I met this girl 5 months ago, we started dating 4 months ago.

everything is/was amazing! We have such incredible chemistry... we deeply care for each other... she always tells me how happy she is.. how much she cares for me etc.

 

she was married a few years ago, has a little girl who’s 7 years old. And she has commitment issues. She’s flat out told me she’s terrified of commitment. To which I’ve told her that I completely understand. 
she told me she is scared of love and of hearing me say it.

last night I f***ed up and told her I loved her... I told her I don’t expect it back nor do I want or need to hear it but I just wanted to be honest with her and tell her how I feel. She fresked out.. left my place for a walk crying and came back (she was also a bit drunk)

ever since then (1 day) it’s been awkward and weird... I told her I’m sorry I screwed everything up and she said don’t be sorry and I didn’t. She said she’s happy and she deeply cares for me.

ive barely heard from her today and it’s still really awkward and I still feel like I ruined everything  

any advice?

[The Outlaw]

Saying that to anyone is a big step and sometimes it maybe just too much to process. But I think the best thing you can do right now is to just give her time. It sounds like you've got a good relationship. Keep your head up and good luck. I hope it works out for you. 

[Ellener]

@Lovestruck8992 honey, they're your feelings. So long as it's how you truly feel it's okay to say it, and if it's messed things up that's the weird part. She'll get over it and so will you if she doesn't reciprocate.

[Dis]

If that's going to scare her away, she's not the one for you

 

Her reaction to, "I love you" is a huge red flag. Don't you want someone who's going to gush that sentiment back to you? Not run out crying?

 

Re think this one if you want a committed relationship

Edited April 28, 2020 by Disillusionment373

[basil67]

You didn't ruin anything.  She's the one with issues - and frankly isn't relationship material.   If you want casual, she's the one.  But not relationship,

[PRW]

When they say they have commitment issues it usually means they have commitment issues with only the one they say that to.  It is covert communication.  If another guy comes along they like better the issues magically vanish.  Sounds like you were already pushing the relationship vibe on her leading up to this.  By the time you said "I love you" you were probably already in deep do-do from pushing too hard too fast.

Bottom line is that you were more into her than she was into you.  You need to learn to balance yourself against the effort and enthusiasm that the woman shows.  Keep it even.

The apology thing just made you look even worse and only served to draw attention to the awkwardness and probably even made it more awkward.   The best thing would to keep your mouth shut about it and just keep moving forward unapologetically and with better balance.

Edited April 30, 2020 by PRW