burnedOut Posted October 9, 2005 Share Posted October 9, 2005 without going into the long story behind this question...and I am being serious. has anyone here, ever met anybody...who has said...they have no friends? Link to post Share on other sites
MassiveAtom Posted October 9, 2005 Share Posted October 9, 2005 yep, They are called loners. They take a lot of work. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperMonk Posted October 9, 2005 Share Posted October 9, 2005 yep, They are called loners. They take a lot of work. True, they do take a lot of work. It's not only loners but also people who "have" to be with someone or have to follow someone at all times so they won't feel lonely. I have a couple of friends here and there, but most of them are acquaintances, it really depends on the personality. I find the above two examples extremes and I try to steer clear of them or don't take them seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
joel Posted October 10, 2005 Share Posted October 10, 2005 True, they do take a lot of work. It's not only loners but also people who "have" to be with someone or have to follow someone at all times so they won't feel lonely. I have a couple of friends here and there, but most of them are acquaintances, it really depends on the personality. I find the above two examples extremes and I try to steer clear of them or don't take them seriously. what do u mean by steer clear of em and don;t take em seriously-as in loners. a lot of loners are quite and shy. myself i am one-don;t want to be but growing up as a child and now-well its improving i have always been the quite and shy kid -thats why i have few freinds. parents were always strict and super over sheltered life thinking everyone out there is out to get u and everyones a drug dealer or some badd person-thanks to what they see on the news and movies about young ppl. parents always said freinds don;t do nothing for u and this and that, came home from school from elem to HS and went straight home -eat and then study-school was the only thing they cared about- freinds they thought were a waste of time-only if they could help u in life like school wise. Link to post Share on other sites
HotCaliGirl Posted October 10, 2005 Share Posted October 10, 2005 without going into the long story behind this question...and I am being serious. has anyone here, ever met anybody...who has said...they have no friends? Without going into a long story either - I had met a man who I was getting to know in a field I was interested in, he asked something about my friends, I answered by saying that I had no friends, he kept asking again, thinking he didn't hear me correctly - seeing I was very beautiful and smart and all that...anyways, he was fascinated, helped launch my career at the time making me very famous, very fast and I became a household name, but now I just sell real estate to the rich and/or famous - not complaining though! It's been interesting, I don't think it's a big deal if someone goes through a period for personal reasons not having friends, as long as they're ok with it. Just admitting it to someone helped to launch my career - who would've known... (PS - I don't take a lot of work, or follow people around or "have" to be with someone and I've never considered myself a loner - I had close friends before the period when I didn't have any (for reasons I won't get into) and currently have good friends, I just don't need to be around people all the time - to me those are the types that the above mentioed stereotypes taken from the other posts, could more easily apply to ) Link to post Share on other sites
MassiveAtom Posted October 10, 2005 Share Posted October 10, 2005 Without going into a long story either - I had met a man who I was getting to know in a field I was interested in, he asked something about my friends, I answered by saying that I had no friends, he kept asking again, thinking he didn't hear me correctly - seeing I was very beautiful and smart and all that...anyways, he was fascinated, helped launch my career at the time making me very famous, very fast and I became a household name, but now I just sell real estate to the rich and/or famous - not complaining though! It's been interesting, I don't think it's a big deal if someone goes through a period for personal reasons not having friends, as long as they're ok with it. Just admitting it to someone helped to launch my career - who would've known... (PS - I don't take a lot of work, or follow people around or "have" to be with someone and I've never considered myself a loner - I had close friends before the period when I didn't have any (for reasons I won't get into) and currently have good friends, I just don't need to be around people all the time - to me those are the types that the above mentioed stereotypes taken from the other posts, could more easily apply to ) Just goes to show you can have bunches of friends and be disconnected from the beautiful variety this world has to offer. I retract my first statement. I can see how one could have no Friends by choice and opportunity. Too many of us jump to snap decisions. I include myself in that us. I guess the only people who had no friends, that I've met, were just difficult enough to push me and a lot of others away. That doesn't mean I should lump everyone who "has no friends" into one category. Loveshack does it again - Change my mind, perspective and outlook. Thanks HCG, you too, did it again. {{{HCG}}} So it seems this should be proof enough that no two situations are alike and each one has it's own merits. Friends or not, we ALL deserve the benefit of the doubt. Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted October 10, 2005 Share Posted October 10, 2005 without going into the long story behind this question...and I am being serious. has anyone here, ever met anybody...who has said...they have no friends? yes, myself. there are a few people i'm closely aquainted with, and many others i'd see from time to time. but, i feel as i've gotten older, moved away from my home town, and spend most of my time making a living, i feel its ever more difficult to find those soul mates you could truly call a friend. you know, someone who would take a bullet for you so to speak. mind you i have a handful of true friends, unfortunatly we just don't share the same time zone. and the few friends i've made locally have all relocated recently, leaving me behind. but i don't despair - as i get to know the new people better, who knows, i might just have a new 'friend'. lastly, if i ever come a across a seemingly decent person who told me they 'had no friends', i'd be impressed they would openly admit that to me and make an effort get to know them. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperMonk Posted October 10, 2005 Share Posted October 10, 2005 what do u mean by steer clear of em and don;t take em seriously-as in loners. a lot of loners are quite and shy. myself i am one-don;t want to be but growing up as a child and now-well its improving i have always been the quite and shy kid -thats why i have few freinds. parents were always strict and super over sheltered life thinking everyone out there is out to get u and everyones a drug dealer or some badd person-thanks to what they see on the news and movies about young ppl. parents always said freinds don;t do nothing for u and this and that, came home from school from elem to HS and went straight home -eat and then study-school was the only thing they cared about- freinds they thought were a waste of time-only if they could help u in life like school wise. I like being around people that grow up with the notion that their parents "are already dead" it gives them a sense of independence and a reason for them to be on this planet to do their own things not live in the shadows of those who achieved nothing but self pity. Link to post Share on other sites
HotCaliGirl Posted October 11, 2005 Share Posted October 11, 2005 Just goes to show you can have bunches of friends and be disconnected from the beautiful variety this world has to offer. I retract my first statement. I can see how one could have no Friends by choice and opportunity. Too many of us jump to snap decisions. I include myself in that us. I guess the only people who had no friends, that I've met, were just difficult enough to push me and a lot of others away. That doesn't mean I should lump everyone who "has no friends" into one category. Loveshack does it again - Change my mind, perspective and outlook. Thanks HCG, you too, did it again. {{{HCG}}} So it seems this should be proof enough that no two situations are alike and each one has it's own merits. Friends or not, we ALL deserve the benefit of the doubt. {{{{MA}}} so refreshing to bump into an open minded person not scared, stubborn or insecure to consider new ways of looking at things Link to post Share on other sites
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