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How to deal with a jealousy boss


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Hi all,

like my subject, my boss is really easy to get jealous with anyone for anything. She can not handle something good happened to other people. 
 

I have been worked very hard in the team for 5 years. I have asked her many times to new opportunities and she never take it seriously. She only give jobs to old people who is going to retired in few years and she feel comfortable with that because she knows they will not replace her. Recently I began to go back to school and continue my professional development and the association request some work experience. I have talked to her. She said it is really good for you and she will try to help. Since then, each time when she send emails to our team, she either forget to put me on the email or put me as the last one. 
 

I am going to have a meeting with her next week. Any idea how I can convince her to give me some work experience.

 

it is a stable company with good benefits and close to my home. It is a good choice for a young kid mom.

and she has issues with her boss. So last time, when her boss heard I am going to continue my study, her boss said they should help me. Since then, I am her top one enemy...actually I never really even talked with her boss...

 

I really do not know what I should do. Each time when she has something that need people to do, she give it to me. After I finish, she change back as how she was. She try to give me minimum bonus even though I am the hardest working employee she has...

do I have to change my job because of her?

i am so depressed...

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Lotsgoingon

Any check you can meet with people in other parts of the company. I don't know how large your company is. In a larger company, many people would say get to a new division ... and/or start building your own relationships ... even with your boss's bosses and so on. 

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If that's been her behavior for years, and it sounds like it's gotten worse, I think you should probably stop asking her for more opportunities and telling her your career and educational ambitions. It sounds like if anything you just make yourself more of a target for her own insecurities regarding her job and just giving her ammo. Is there anyway you can work around her for more opportunities?? And if not then I would say start looking for a new job. It's possible there's something better out there for you. 

It's really hard to get ahead when you have a boss who is actively working against your success to protect their own spot in the food chain. That's not the type of person you want to try to negotiate with or repeatedly ask for help. Eventually she'll probably just start sabotaging you if she hasn't already. It's unfortunate but some people are just like that. You should be protecting yourself and your job until you can find something better. But I would stop engaging with your boss anymore than you have to. That's not going to get you anywhere and will most likely just cause you more problems.

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