joaomatias Posted May 3, 2020 Share Posted May 3, 2020 So, long story short, I started a 3 months course and met this girl in my class, we started to get close, but that time she was already dating someone (her first bf) (that was about 5 months ago). In the end of the year, as the course was ending, she wasn't going to go in the last two weeks, and then another friend of mine told me she broke up with her bf. She doesn't go out much so after that I didnt get to see her again, then she added me on her close friends on insta and we sometimes would talk over there. Heres the trick part: shes really sweet, and she would never not reply someone, but she doesnt use insta that much and I dont have her number, so sometimes Id be talking to her on instagram and she would just stop replying. One day we were talking about going out she was "oh yeah lets go", and in the end, when we were picking the place and time, she would not reply anymore, and then a week later, she would reply to one of my stories on insta etc. Dont rly know if I should ask for her number on insta, so we can properly talk (but if shes not replying on purpose, id be weird) or if I should just ask her again on insta to go out (but now we have corona that makes things harder), or if I should do something else... Any ideas?? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 3, 2020 Share Posted May 3, 2020 I think she only likes you as a friend. You asked her out and then she thought about it and we did replying when you tried to set the date up. So she doesn't want to go out with you in a romantic way. She is just being a friendly acquaintance I guess. Trust me, if a woman has interest in you of a romantic nature in that she is attracted enough to you, she will not leave you hanging with no reply. If she was interested she would have been checking back anxiously. So I don't think you're getting anywhere with her. Sorry. When someone is interested in you, you don't end up sitting around to being confused and wondering. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted May 3, 2020 Share Posted May 3, 2020 I don't think there's enough evidence to say she's not interested. Why not just ask her for her number and see what happens. It's worth a try. If you get her number and start texting and she is still flaky and doesn't answer you sometimes, then you know she's not interested. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 3, 2020 Share Posted May 3, 2020 You can try this trick: Announce to her on IG that you will be at a particular location: studying in the library, attending a party, watching a sporting event, etc. See if she shows up. But I think it would be OK for you to ask for her phone #. If she gives it to you great, keep talking. If she doesn't you have your answer & can move on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 3, 2020 Share Posted May 3, 2020 move on to the next girl, this one is not interested 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author joaomatias Posted May 3, 2020 Author Share Posted May 3, 2020 (edited) Hey thanks for the replies, I'll try to get her # and see what happens, the trick part (#2) of doing this is that, like i said, she something just stops replying, so normally Id talk to the girl and then ask for her number, but here I dont think that would be good, so should I just randomly come up and ask her for her #? (one piece that i forgot to mention is that I remember one day she told me she blocked instagram notifications, so maybe thats why sometimes she doesnt reply?) @ShyViolet @d0nnivain Edited May 3, 2020 by joaomatias tag Link to post Share on other sites
Springsummer Posted May 3, 2020 Share Posted May 3, 2020 She is not interested. If I am interested, there's no way in a million years I would forget to reply. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author joaomatias Posted May 3, 2020 Author Share Posted May 3, 2020 @Springsummer yeah, the only thing that doubts me is that she doesnt have ig notifications on (she told me that one day). So idk if she forgets to reply or doesnt even know that I sent another message. Dont know if that makes sense Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted May 3, 2020 Share Posted May 3, 2020 Maybe she got back together with her ex? Link to post Share on other sites
Springsummer Posted May 3, 2020 Share Posted May 3, 2020 (edited) 19 minutes ago, joaomatias said: @Springsummer yeah, the only thing that doubts me is that she doesnt have ig notifications on (she told me that one day). So idk if she forgets to reply or doesnt even know that I sent another message. Dont know if that makes sense Doesn't make sense. Because you were picking date so is she knew what should be next. I would follow up if I am interested. You are grasping for a straw. It's just being human Edited May 3, 2020 by Springsummer 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 3, 2020 Share Posted May 3, 2020 she'd have to be dumb as a box of rocks not to check back if she was interested in going out with you after you already mentioned setting something up. If she was interested she would have kept track of it whether she got notices or not. if she was interested she probably would have already given you her number after she knew you were trying to ask her out. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 3, 2020 Share Posted May 3, 2020 1 hour ago, preraph said: she'd have to be dumb as a box of rocks not to check back if she was interested in going out with you after you already mentioned setting something up. If she was interested she would have kept track of it whether she got notices or not. if she was interested she probably would have already given you her number after she knew you were trying to ask her out. ^^^this 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 3, 2020 Share Posted May 3, 2020 Alpha, he obviously never had a teenage sister, or he'd already know this. I know not having a brother is why I was so misguided about men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted May 5, 2020 Share Posted May 5, 2020 (edited) On 5/3/2020 at 7:48 AM, joaomatias said: @Springsummer yeah, the only thing that doubts me is that she doesnt have ig notifications on (she told me that one day). So idk if she forgets to reply or doesnt even know that I sent another message. Dont know if that makes sense Dude, personally, if I liked a guy I would find a way to get in his sights. What worries me is her sort of slow fade as you described things. I don't think she's romantically interested. You could directly directly ask, I guess? "So hey, what about a date once we're let out of the house again? I'm thinking blah-blah place." Edited May 5, 2020 by CaliforniaGirl Link to post Share on other sites
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