Where to start

[jdesey]

It’s been 3.5 years and I want to reach out to my ex fiancé.  I have not heard from her and just don’t know where to start.  I’m thinking an email to just say hi.  No pressure to meet and see if she replies.  I’m 53 and she’s 51 by the way.  
thoughts ?? 

[elaine567]

Who broke up with who and why?

[d0nnivain]

10 hours ago, jdesey said:

It’s been 3.5 years and I want to reach out to my ex fiancé.  I have not heard from her and just don’t know where to start.  I’m thinking an email to just say hi.  No pressure to meet and see if she replies.  I’m 53 and she’s 51 by the way.  
thoughts ?? 

Don't do it.  It's been 3.5 years.  She does not want to talk to you.  At this point you would be an intrusion. 

You are lonely because the pandemic & various lock downs have made us all a little stir crazy.  You have started imagining how different your quarantine would be if she was with you.  

For all you know she's happily married.  

Google her if you must out of curiosity but don't reach out.  

[Marc878]

Nostalgia raises it’s head. That’s all this is. Maybe a bit of projection too. I’m thinking of her so she must be thinking of me? Nope.

[schlumpy]

This a big risk. Chances are small that you will find her in a place where she will welcome the reacquaintance. More likely you will discover she's in a really good place when compared to your life and you will spiral into the depths of depression.

I suggest that if you are compelled to take this risk that you do it through indirect means.

That would mean being readily available on social media making it easy to find you if she were to look you up.

You might try nibbling around the edges if there is common friend that you can cajole into providing information on her status.

That's as far as it should go.

Or you can through take a chance and go boldly where other men have crashed and burned before.