I sent pictures of someone else to a girl who has now fallen in love with me and wants to meet me in person

[BaileyB]

2 hours ago, thomas131313 said:

how can she really blame me for this fully?

OMG, how could she not. You lied to her and lead her to believe you were something that you are not. 

[thomas131313]

3 hours ago, K.K. said:

Yep. She’s talking to you still because she wants to. And you’re right! You weren’t in this alone. She made you (a stranger basically) her whollleeeee world. That’s on her. Even if you would’ve sent her the correct picture, she still would’ve been this overly frenzied in love with you. Now she’s trying to figure out how to make you pay enough so that she can carry on with you. If not, she would’ve just stopped talking by now. Yes, I know you lied to her and it was wrong. But she’s not completely innocent here either. She made you her whole world without even knowing you. It’s all like one big lifetime movie. And now you have the family hatin on you angle. I mean sht, it’s like Romeo and Juliet stuff now. The question is, sooner or later you’re going to get tired of being told what an ass you are and then what? 

On one hand, she has this guy who is still the guy she was talking to. She’s still in ‘love’. On the other hand she’s trying to save face and punish you enough for her to be satisfied so that she can still carry on with you. 

One unknown stranger with a different face that you wanted to have sex with is better than no man in the bush, ya feel me? 

Its really hard I think because she knows what she has with me and she probably really feels like she wont get this with anybody else ever. But I also think if I was good looking of course she would still be hurting and feel betrayed and have no trust but also more willing to let things slide.yesterday when she was being happy and talking about us together as this, before she got mad again she did ask how one could move forward, and have a real friendship and relationship after this and if its possible or what that looks like and she was asking how that would look or if i thought it was possible. while i think your right, im still not sure what shes going to do. i need to prepare for the worst. especially she told me she had some bad dreams today and that shes going to explain them to me but its hard to because its going to hurt my feelings. she likes to analyze her dreams i guess

[basil67]

How can you continue to make this about your looks when it's about your lies?   Do you really think she's that shallow?

[thomas131313]

1 minute ago, basil67 said:

How can you continue to make this about your looks when it's about your lies?   Do you really think she's that shallow?

hard to say. i mean what if your not attracted to somebody, are you going to spend the rest of your life with them?

[amaysngrace]

oh because everybody wants a SO they can’t trust 

its like the top of everyone’s list of what they want in a partner 😂

 

[thomas131313]

3 minutes ago, amaysngrace said:

oh because everybody wants a SO they can’t trust 

its like the top of everyone’s list of what they want in a partner 😂

 

if their partner is good looking they will give them more chances

[amaysngrace]

why did you pretend to be somebody else in the first place?  only someone who’s insecure about themselves does that.

[basil67]

Only if the betrayed one is a fool.  A good looking liar is no better than an ugly liar

Edited May 23, 2020 by basil67

[thomas131313]

1 minute ago, basil67 said:

Only if the betrayed one is a fool.  A good looking liar is no better than an ugly liar

well from peoples responses in this thread, alot of people claim that she is a fool

[basil67]

do you agree that she’s a fool?  If so, why do you want her back?

[thomas131313]

2 minutes ago, basil67 said:

do you agree that she’s a fool?  If so, why do you want her back?

im not even sure at this point, but ive spent so much time talking to her that i feel a strong bond and connection, but also with how she has acted to certain things in the past 4 months it has been questionable to say the least. she is very smart, but also the opposite when it comes to certain aspects of life

[preraph]

1 hour ago, thomas131313 said:

hard to say. i mean what if your not attracted to somebody, are you going to spend the rest of your life with them?

Nope. And especially if they are a chronic liar to boot.

[preraph]

She's going to whittle this down until there's nothing left but a nub.

[Emilie Jolie]

They both will. It won't be the same dynamic, the mystery is gone, the drama of it is gone, the future faking will feel too crazy, the gap between fiction and reality will be too big to bridge. 

[preraph]

I think you're right Emilie. I think even he is starting to feel the reality now whlith the bubble being burst.

[thomas131313]

she associates someone else with me when she hears my voice. her parents are telling her to date other people but her mom asked her if she could be with me too. she told her mom she fell in love with my mind. she was still literally dreaming about the fake me. she said how can she be romantically with me right now when shes dreaming about the fake person. she says she doesnt think its fair to me that she associates those memories with somebody else she said. there are so many things going on with about this situation. she said it would hurt my feelings since her dream was associating me with somebody else. shes scared that she cant be with me or she wont be able to put all the stuff behind her and be with me and what i did to her. the connection have she said is amazing. if she cant get rid of the visual that she has in my head she doesnt want to be me because she wouldnt put that onto me. she said we need a reset and spend time together in person.

she has associated all of the sexual stuff with the fake guy too. she asked if i would even be wiling to be with her if she did these other things for this other guy and she did it for a version of me and not the full me. she cant deal with the reality that the fake guy is only 50 percent real. she doesnt see me as me and shes sad she doesnt yet. she said it should be a compliment to me that i created someone so captivating and dug a spot into her heart even if its not me fully. on the one hand both situations she can choose from being with her or not have upsides and downsides. she said if she is with me she allows something so toxic in her life but if she doesnt be with me shes a ***** cause we had such a great connection.

its such a weird situation because she doesnt know what to do and its early on too only a couple days. she said if were going to have any kind of chance. she would rather fall back in love with me physically too, and she says she loves my soul and mind but she needs to get to know it again through me and not the fake me because she is having a hard time putting her memories to me. she doesnt know how to move forward with the real me based on all the things she associates with the fake me im trying to not talk to her. shes seeing two different people. she said she needs time to make them one and learn to trust me again. she says its good because she knows the person. she has to erase the visual of the person, but keep the good parts i guess. shes saying it would have been it wouldnt have been as bad as this knowing that i am still here and the connection is here. she says while her reaction might be dramatic she feels things more than other people. she said if she cant forgive me or cant be with me romantically how can she be my friend since she has given me so many things like all her pictures. she says she cant be with me but she cant be not with me. even if me and her are going to be friends how is she going to ever associate our connection as just friends when ive seen her videos and stuff

[thomas131313]

she said my memories are tainted too and could i live with the fact she fell in love with a different physical form, if she was still in love with the fake guy too. she said i dont even know what i want from her, shes asking me if i want to be with romantically. she doesnt think i want to be with her romantically. she said we need to ask ourselves if we want to be with eachother, or friends, or just wanted to be in a fantasy. shes saying i would be more hurt if i pushed her to forgive me and do all this work and i didnt want to be with her

Edited May 23, 2020 by thomas131313

[thomas131313]

she said she cant believe i didnt tell her i love her so much and told her she was beautiful and stufff when we met but i didnt know what to say it seemed so weird and we met the day she found out about the lie. did i ever mess up. shes saying how can she trust me now to not hurt her again after i just did

Edited May 23, 2020 by thomas131313

[preraph]

That was just her fantasy when she thought she knew who she was talking to.

[thomas131313]

she said im a coward cause i left her house when she told me too. i should have stayed but thought she was gunna call the police or something

[thomas131313]

were being honest now. she said initially she wasnt attracted to me but she loves my soul and mind. she said she could have not talked to me after because she wasnt attracted to me, but she said she loves me still this is messed

Edited May 23, 2020 by thomas131313

[preraph]

She had this whole fantasy built up of how it was going to go when you met, and none of that came true.

[thomas131313]

she wants to like take care of me. i dont know im so screwed because im not that healthy and i cant have a normal life anyways. i have health issues that probably cant be fixed i havent told her the details of it but some of it

[thomas131313]

she said she didnt think i was that bad looking now. she said i looked ok. she doesnt know if she likes how i look or not.

Edited May 23, 2020 by thomas131313

[thomas131313]

she even said why would she be talking to me if she didnt love me. she wants to know if i want to be with her

Edited May 23, 2020 by thomas131313