5x5 Posted May 10, 2020 Share Posted May 10, 2020 3 hours ago, roadside_romeo said: But you can not just ghost some one or cheat behind the back and act like hello!! you are needy!!!! Of course people can do exactly that. The fact that they do ought to tell you it is so. Once you understand that you can't control what other people choose to do, hopefully you'll stop worrying about things you can't control and get over it. She dumped you, it's over, the end. Tilting at windmills won't change that. It's okay for you to move on. Life is short so you may as well get on with living your life, rather than pining after what isn't going to be. So buck up, it isn't the end of the world. Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted May 10, 2020 Share Posted May 10, 2020 3 hours ago, roadside_romeo said: I agree with you. But you can not just ghost some one or cheat behind the back and act like hello!! you are needy!!!! Happens all the time. It’s called excuses to justify actions. There aren’t any excuses for cheating But they use them anyway. All the time. Link to post Share on other sites
scooby-philly Posted May 11, 2020 Share Posted May 11, 2020 While I think men, especially good men, need to learn not to let women get away with their emotional games sometimes, I think it's more than just being a manly "man". Having a vulnerable side is okay. But yeah, don't get clingy to the point of annoying, especially before marriage. But by the same token, there was nothing in the original post about him being needy/clinging BEFORE she dumped it. And feeling a bit need/clingy after is okay. Especially if it was painful for him. But I believe, but would be happy to be proven wrong by the women in this story, not by a poster on this forum, that it was the caste/class and other differences. As a few posters said - when a woman thinks about the "long-term" - it's really two questions - lifestyle and family approval. Unless they're not on good terms with or have no family unfortunately, a woman will always look for a certain amount of approval fro her family (sometimes more) and if she couldn't see getting it from them (even if it would just be a lifetime of mean comments and/or nasty looks) - she may say no, in order to protect her own heart. So OP, it's okay to have a vunlerable side and it's also okay to not take s*** from a woman when she plays emotional games. But in the end, things were probably out of your control on this one. As much as it hurts, it's the truth and it will help you move on better/faster. Link to post Share on other sites
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