Online Dating

[miranda561]

20 hours ago, MimiCupid82 said:

That's one of the reason that I feel like giving up. It's so much work that goes into OLD its beginning to feel exhausting. Im growing a little tired of competing with other women and trying to  convince a man I'm worthy of their love and attention. LOL. I am going to hold out on hope that I will meet someone. 

Thats another thing i forgot to mention .. there is competition..another woman at every one second swipe. If you drop the ball at any time, there could potentially be a replacement very quickly.

When applying that  to my current situation ( on my thread) i can see why people  are saying the guy is most likely speaking to someone else.  Till you mentioned  it now i'd almost forgotten. 🤔

[miranda561]

19 hours ago, OatsAndHall said:

Yes, profile pictures get the first round of screening for me. But, that probably only rules out about 20% of the profiles. And, it's not just women that I don't find attractive, it's also good-looking women who have a dozen pictures of themselves in bikinis or in revealing workout clothes. I don't feel that they're "out of my league"; I have to take pause when I see an extremely attractive woman that seems to be trying overly hard on a dating website. They'd get bombarded with messages and dating opportunities if they were wearing jeans and a t-shirt so the abundance of skin being shown strikes me as odd.

And, a witty profile and compatible interests go a long way for me. I might not find a woman overly physically attractive but their profile is funny and well written so I'll shoot them a message. At the very least, I figure they'll be fun to talk to and hang around with so I'll hit them up and try to set up a date. I've been on my share of dates with women who I (and other men) find extremely attractive but the other pieces weren't there. Our personalities don't click, we have incompatible lifestyles, etc..etc..

I'm Exactly the same (part from me being female 😂). Men showing off their abs/muscles shirtless etc etc..on a dating app it puts me off. I reject them constantly 😂

Edited May 11, 2020 by miranda561

[miranda561]

18 hours ago, MimiCupid82 said:

Exactly. I don't post any revealing pictures of myself because I don't want that kind of attention... I know that some men may take that as a suggestion for easy sex. I just really want someone to look at me for me and not my looks. The women who you found " extremely attractive" did you still continue to date them or cease contact? I've had men just stop contacting me after dates after I thought we had amazing chemistry. 

🤔 also another thing to remember, what you feel its not going to necessarily be the same for them. You may feel instant chemistry, they may not. Sometimes you can just tell if theyre feeling it or not the first time you meet them. By what they say, their behaviours. Read between the lines. 

I think men can be pretty simple sometimes. 😂 if theyre bowled over by you, they will not be able to hide that 

[miranda561]

12 hours ago, scooby-philly said:

OP,

It's a numbers game. You have to keep trying. And yes, men care about looks (women do too, you just don't admit to it as much and you don't care as much as men do)...but for most men (note....most...not all)...our idea of "attractive" can vary. For me, I don't care about race and or build or height that much. But when I search online dating I don't LOOK for any woman over 5"9 (as I'm 6'1 and like to have a little height over my woman)...though if I met someone 5'11 or 6'1 or she reached out to me, I wouldn't be opposed on height alone. It's a combination of things that we can't really explain - but part of it is how comfortable you are with yourself, your body, and your sexuality. For the average guy a women who might be subjectively a 6/10 on "looks" could become a 9/10 because she's confident, sensual, in touch with herself, and knows how to flirt/tease. So more than or at least as much as your looks, (like diet/exercise), work on your self-confidence, your sensuality, etc.

🤔🤔 i think i need to work on being a flirt/tease or sensual etc( whatever that means but i know that isnt me 😂). 

Because a lot of guys say im pretty/hot/beautiful. But i dont express myself in the way men would want. Im pretty reserved and understated. 

For example at work theres me and this other woman, we both get a lot of attention. This one guy always said i was attractive, but him and the other woman started  dating. And i think due to our completely different personalities. She kind of pretty much went after him in a way, was constantly flirting with him/teasing him..and she got him in the end. 

You are correct about those points, how that other stuff is important 

[miranda561]

8 hours ago, MimiCupid82 said:

It’s feels like having a full time job, I think a lot of people try to make themselves appear better than who they are in real life. People need to be transparent from the start. 

I know. Guys can fake it. 

I cant though. I can't and refuse to be anyone  else just for a man 😂😂

 

[scooby-philly]

8 hours ago, MimiCupid82 said:

Yes I’ve been at this for almost a year now and I’ve met some really nice guys, I guess I thought I would have already met my match. There’s seems to always be something that gets In the way of our connection. Your right looks definitely matter. I guess It’s having the right combination of looks/personality/charm to win someone over. I didn’t have this problem with my ex. Luckily we were friends for years before we began dating, so we already knew each other pretty well. 

@MimiCupid82 - I always think of OLD as another tool in the toolbox. It cannot be the only thing you rely on. In the time of the pandemic it may have to be the only tool for a short while. But once we can get back to semi "normal", then it's just one avenue. I've had two ltrs come out of two different outdoor groups I belong to, so those types of things, meetup groups, church groups, book clubs, etc. - they can all be a place to find someone, especially with common interests. I would say having a detailed and accurate profile helps OLD dating too - not that it replaces meeting and seeing if there's chemistry and compatibility, but it does help really weed out a lot of situations where some simple conversation ahead of time, spurred on by the quality and depth of your profile, can help save everyone time. 

19 minutes ago, miranda561 said:

🤔🤔 i think i need to work on being a flirt/tease or sensual etc( whatever that means but i know that isnt me 😂). 

Because a lot of guys say im pretty/hot/beautiful. But i dont express myself in the way men would want. Im pretty reserved and understated. 

For example at work theres me and this other woman, we both get a lot of attention. This one guy always said i was attractive, but him and the other woman started  dating. And i think due to our completely different personalities. She kind of pretty much went after him in a way, was constantly flirting with him/teasing him..and she got him in the end. 

You are correct about those points, how that other stuff is important 

@miranda561  - Do not misinterpret my meaning - I'm not advocating you change who you are. Some people are more outgoing, some more reserved. Some start conversations with strangers more than others. It's more about becoming more comfortable with who you are and being more comfortable with the "little things" that help build attraction and desire. I cannot speak for other men. I know for myself, while I may not always go after a woman who doesn't flirt much or is very reserved, it's not that I would not. But after 6 months of dating if a woman still doesn't know how to make me feel wanted, doesn't express her emotions and desire than it will get old. That's what a lot of "hot" women don't understand why they don't always get or keep the "good men" they manage to find in between all of the douche bags, frat boys, and players. Good men want to feel wanted/loved/desired. Again don't change who you are but learn how to tap into your natural sensuality and get comfortable with your emotional side.

[miranda561]

14 minutes ago, scooby-philly said:

@MimiCupid82 - I always think of OLD as another tool in the toolbox. It cannot be the only thing you rely on. In the time of the pandemic it may have to be the only tool for a short while. But once we can get back to semi "normal", then it's just one avenue. I've had two ltrs come out of two different outdoor groups I belong to, so those types of things, meetup groups, church groups, book clubs, etc. - they can all be a place to find someone, especially with common interests. I would say having a detailed and accurate profile helps OLD dating too - not that it replaces meeting and seeing if there's chemistry and compatibility, but it does help really weed out a lot of situations where some simple conversation ahead of time, spurred on by the quality and depth of your profile, can help save everyone time. 

@miranda561  - Do not misinterpret my meaning - I'm not advocating you change who you are. Some people are more outgoing, some more reserved. Some start conversations with strangers more than others. It's more about becoming more comfortable with who you are and being more comfortable with the "little things" that help build attraction and desire. I cannot speak for other men. I know for myself, while I may not always go after a woman who doesn't flirt much or is very reserved, it's not that I would not. But after 6 months of dating if a woman still doesn't know how to make me feel wanted, doesn't express her emotions and desire than it will get old. That's what a lot of "hot" women don't understand why they don't always get or keep the "good men" they manage to find in between all of the douche bags, frat boys, and players. Good men want to feel wanted/loved/desired. Again don't change who you are but learn how to tap into your natural sensuality and get comfortable with your emotional side.

Dont get me wrong i'm comfortable  with who i am. Only my friends know me very well. Men tend to end up thinking im a mysterious person. Or first impression is im a "mystery".

I think im not great at that  making a man feel wanted/desired. In my current situation the guy basically said im behaving like he is an option. 

Out of interest..can you give examples where a woman demonstrates things which makes you feel wanted desired  etc etc.. 

[scooby-philly]

@miranda561 - Well...if you're not that outgoing or chatty in the beginning, one thing is to ask him questions and then use what he says to follow up with more questions. Everyone loves talking about their lives, interests, passions, etc. That will help in the very early stages. Once you get past the initial conversations and have a date or two under your belt - most women subconsciously play with their hair, touch a guy, smile, etc. It's about a positive demeanor and playful attitude at that point. Once you get physical or want to - it's about taking some initiative, expressing your own desires, and being verbal about things. Yes, guys don't need much to turn them on, and I'm not saying I'm speaking for all men here or for all "good" men. But I know most men would find it eventually boring if you just "laid there" and/or didn't initiate anything. Surprise them with some sexy on once in a while....if you feel like getting physical - surprise him once in a while with a quickie, especially somewhere somewhat naughty. It doesn't take much. If you're not that verbal in bed, try learning to use words and dirty talk. Just as you do not want a guy who never remembers the little things or doesn't surprise you with thoughtful gifts or gestures throughout the year, a decent, average guy doesn't want to be made feel like he always has to do all the work and that you never initiate things, it makes us feel like you only put out to make us feel better and that we don't make you feel good.

[miranda561]

27 minutes ago, scooby-philly said:

@miranda561 - Well...if you're not that outgoing or chatty in the beginning, one thing is to ask him questions and then use what he says to follow up with more questions. Everyone loves talking about their lives, interests, passions, etc. That will help in the very early stages. Once you get past the initial conversations and have a date or two under your belt - most women subconsciously play with their hair, touch a guy, smile, etc. It's about a positive demeanor and playful attitude at that point. Once you get physical or want to - it's about taking some initiative, expressing your own desires, and being verbal about things. Yes, guys don't need much to turn them on, and I'm not saying I'm speaking for all men here or for all "good" men. But I know most men would find it eventually boring if you just "laid there" and/or didn't initiate anything. Surprise them with some sexy on once in a while....if you feel like getting physical - surprise him once in a while with a quickie, especially somewhere somewhat naughty. It doesn't take much. If you're not that verbal in bed, try learning to use words and dirty talk. Just as you do not want a guy who never remembers the little things or doesn't surprise you with thoughtful gifts or gestures throughout the year, a decent, average guy doesn't want to be made feel like he always has to do all the work and that you never initiate things, it makes us feel like you only put out to make us feel better and that we don't make you feel good.

Im good at asking questions just not good at answering  questions😂. Would rather keep a lot to myself. 

I do smile a lot. Well only if theyre funny. I dont initiate any form of touching and the like though. Im not playful either. 

What i meant more was asides from the physical. Like expressing emotion im not good at that or feel its a bit cringe sometimes. If youve ever watched  the bachelor you would know what  i mean. The women on there are so cringey.🤔

But what do women say specifically which you like? 

I think men see me and expect me to be all those things because im pretty/attractive . 

Edited May 11, 2020 by miranda561

[Fletch Lives]

There are a lot of undesirables and scammers on dating sites, so you have to doing a lot of weeding out to find a rose. Dating is like looking for a needle in a haystack. 

The good news is, you only need to find one good one. And so it goes.

[scooby-philly]

Again - it's not a question of changing who you are, but becoming more comfortable with expressing your thoughts and emotions. And some of the things that come to mind aren't necessarily PC enough to say on the forum. Suffice to say it doesn't have to be constant. That would be annoying. It's more like...at least for me...I don't want to feel like your giving me your time, affection, or body out of obligation. Like smart/decent men know that sometimes women will fake things to keep us happy. But for those of us with empathy and a sense of when a woman might be faking it, it can leave us feeling like we're asking too much or that we're just the "option" for right now if you don't take some initiative and/or show a little bit of playfulness or desire of us. Men (not frat boys, not rich pompous asses, not domineering womanizers, but real men) need to feel wanted and desired too. There isn't a secret formula to this. And look, every guy will have his own needs/wants. I mean, I know a bunch of attractive women who just wouldn't be right for me. They're not playful, they're not talkative, they're not emotional (NOT meaning I want an emotional trainwreck lol) - they're just up-tight or dry. They're still great women and I'm sure for the ones who are single they'll hopefully find a great guy sometime. But you've expressed a desire or interest in learning more or changing certain behaviors. So at the end of the day, you will meet someone great if you are your most authentic self, but that also means opening up as best as you can and just trying a little bit.

[scooby-philly]

One other point that I don't think gets discussed enough and I mentioned part of it earlier. When it comes to OLD, I know women need to be careful because there are a lot of personal safety considerations for you when it comes to OLD. It's unfortunate, but I understand. That said, your profile and your pictures can help you attract more of what you might be looking for. For the overall profile, share a little more of who you are - what you do for fun, what you do to relax, what makes you laugh, hobbies, a short-funny story or something about your personality that will make a good man think/feel "hey, this is a real woman with a soul/personality". Like if you're a klutz/clumsy - say that or say it and share a funny story - like if you dropped ice cream all over your senior prom dress or tripped going up the stage to get your bachelor's/master's degree. I cannot tell you how many dating profiles, and I'm talking on the more substantial apps/sites, where I'm just like - I have know idea what this woman is like and/or I can't tell if she's stuck up and the default for me is to avoid anyone with a profile that sounds like they don't care (i.e. they're stuck up or so used to getting hit on they just want to keep getting hit on or they have no idea what they want and who they are as a person). 

And for pictures - have at least 3-4 and do not make them all the same. Don't make all of you with your family. Don't make them all of you with your girlfriends. Don't make them all of you from country concerts, or in cocktails dresses from black tie affairs. Don't make them all of you with friends at bars. Don't make them all of you in front of tourist spots from across the country/world. Make sure they show you in a variety of settings, a few alone, one or two with others, and make them fun and light and connect with who you are as a person. If you want to attract a thoughtful, caring, affectionate, intelligent, hard-working man, then put a little thought and effort into the profile and the pictures.

 

[miranda561]

18 minutes ago, scooby-philly said:

Again - it's not a question of changing who you are, but becoming more comfortable with expressing your thoughts and emotions. And some of the things that come to mind aren't necessarily PC enough to say on the forum. Suffice to say it doesn't have to be constant. That would be annoying. It's more like...at least for me...I don't want to feel like your giving me your time, affection, or body out of obligation. Like smart/decent men know that sometimes women will fake things to keep us happy. But for those of us with empathy and a sense of when a woman might be faking it, it can leave us feeling like we're asking too much or that we're just the "option" for right now if you don't take some initiative and/or show a little bit of playfulness or desire of us. Men (not frat boys, not rich pompous asses, not domineering womanizers, but real men) need to feel wanted and desired too. There isn't a secret formula to this. And look, every guy will have his own needs/wants. I mean, I know a bunch of attractive women who just wouldn't be right for me. They're not playful, they're not talkative, they're not emotional (NOT meaning I want an emotional trainwreck lol) - they're just up-tight or dry. They're still great women and I'm sure for the ones who are single they'll hopefully find a great guy sometime. But you've expressed a desire or interest in learning more or changing certain behaviors. So at the end of the day, you will meet someone great if you are your most authentic self, but that also means opening up as best as you can and just trying a little bit.

Women actually  fake it. But why bother. That's just weird. 

I couldn't fake it to save my life.  I dont even act like that towards  a person im interested in let alone someone im not interested in. 

 

[scooby-philly]

I meant more in the bedroom lol

[miranda561]

16 minutes ago, scooby-philly said:

One other point that I don't think gets discussed enough and I mentioned part of it earlier. When it comes to OLD, I know women need to be careful because there are a lot of personal safety considerations for you when it comes to OLD. It's unfortunate, but I understand. That said, your profile and your pictures can help you attract more of what you might be looking for. For the overall profile, share a little more of who you are - what you do for fun, what you do to relax, what makes you laugh, hobbies, a short-funny story or something about your personality that will make a good man think/feel "hey, this is a real woman with a soul/personality". Like if you're a klutz/clumsy - say that or say it and share a funny story - like if you dropped ice cream all over your senior prom dress or tripped going up the stage to get your bachelor's/master's degree. I cannot tell you how many dating profiles, and I'm talking on the more substantial apps/sites, where I'm just like - I have know idea what this woman is like and/or I can't tell if she's stuck up and the default for me is to avoid anyone with a profile that sounds like they don't care (i.e. they're stuck up or so used to getting hit on they just want to keep getting hit on or they have no idea what they want and who they are as a person). 

And for pictures - have at least 3-4 and do not make them all the same. Don't make all of you with your family. Don't make them all of you with your girlfriends. Don't make them all of you from country concerts, or in cocktails dresses from black tie affairs. Don't make them all of you with friends at bars. Don't make them all of you in front of tourist spots from across the country/world. Make sure they show you in a variety of settings, a few alone, one or two with others, and make them fun and light and connect with who you are as a person. If you want to attract a thoughtful, caring, affectionate, intelligent, hard-working man, then put a little thought and effort into the profile and the pictures.

 

All the men's profiles  i come across old..they end up saying the same things its like they're all copying one another. Im sure some of them just dont have enough personality to actually be or do those things  they claim to be or do. Once i start talking to them, that much is clear. I just dont understand fake people men or women.

My current situation i think the guy has one picture of me. But i think since i only sent one, he keeps using the word catfish. 🤔 oh well. And to this day i've still only sent one. Im just not someone who sends endless selfies. But hes probably  thinking oh forget her maybe shes not even real. Little does he know im real 😁. And would probably be someone he finds attractive 

[miranda561]

4 minutes ago, scooby-philly said:

I meant more in the bedroom lol

Ohhhhhhh. As in fake the O word. 😳. 

[scooby-philly]

13 minutes ago, miranda561 said:

All the men's profiles  i come across old..they end up saying the same things its like they're all copying one another. Im sure some of them just dont have enough personality to actually be or do those things  they claim to be or do. Once i start talking to them, that much is clear. I just dont understand fake people men or women.

My current situation i think the guy has one picture of me. But i think since i only sent one, he keeps using the word catfish. 🤔 oh well. And to this day i've still only sent one. Im just not someone who sends endless selfies. But hes probably  thinking oh forget her maybe shes not even real. Little does he know im real 😁. And would probably be someone he finds attractive 

Well that's where a tiny, repeatable process helps filter out 90-95% of fake/scammers/(and in your case a woman, guys looking only for an easy lay). And I feel for you. I'm sure as an attractive woman you get hit up a lot and have a ton of crap to weed through to find even a half way decent guy that might be worth getting to know. Would be interesting to hear what sites/apps you're using. I just started trying dating again after a heartbreak and match.com is terrible. it's even worse than it was 5 years ago. I've downloaded and started to use Hinge (feels like Tinder but is geared towards relationships, not hookups) and may try out plenty of fish. Would be open to doing something more in depth like eHarmony, but just like Match, their reviews are terrible these days as so many people either don't want a relationship or aren't cut out for one.

[miranda561]

1 hour ago, scooby-philly said:

Well that's where a tiny, repeatable process helps filter out 90-95% of fake/scammers/(and in your case a woman, guys looking only for an easy lay). And I feel for you. I'm sure as an attractive woman you get hit up a lot and have a ton of crap to weed through to find even a half way decent guy that might be worth getting to know. Would be interesting to hear what sites/apps you're using. I just started trying dating again after a heartbreak and match.com is terrible. it's even worse than it was 5 years ago. I've downloaded and started to use Hinge (feels like Tinder but is geared towards relationships, not hookups) and may try out plenty of fish. Would be open to doing something more in depth like eHarmony, but just like Match, their reviews are terrible these days as so many people either don't want a relationship or aren't cut out for one.

Thanks and yes pretty much. Sometimes some guys can fake it for a long time aswell. You meet them and you finally  realise it was a total waste of time and money and effort. 

Ive pretty much tried those ones you mentioned. E harmony..match.com. not been on hinge 

Why do you find match.com ti be terrible ? 

Are people that desperate  that they need an app to find to find people to hook up with😂. Like get a grip already!! 

[scooby-philly]

Well I think people don't know how to meet irl any more. And match.com was horrible because in a 75 mile radius (which I set my search limits to) and with only a few filters - age range, height, body type (just not that into really big bbw), there were mabye 1,000 women on the results. I mean within a 75 mile radius of my zip code is literally 10-12 million people...most people aren't really using "dating" apps anymore - it's booty calls (which I get to a certain extant) that they try to turn into relationships because they don't know how to actually date.

[miranda561]

3 minutes ago, scooby-philly said:

Well I think people don't know how to meet irl any more. And match.com was horrible because in a 75 mile radius (which I set my search limits to) and with only a few filters - age range, height, body type (just not that into really big bbw), there were mabye 1,000 women on the results. I mean within a 75 mile radius of my zip code is literally 10-12 million people...most people aren't really using "dating" apps anymore - it's booty calls (which I get to a certain extant) that they try to turn into relationships because they don't know how to actually date.

Only a 1000 wowwsss..🤔.

Thats not a great number of people then. But its a start  i guess.

 

But they must be meeting people in real life first if they arent on the apps. 🤔

[OatsAndHall]

11 hours ago, MimiCupid82 said:

Glad to hear of your success story. Do you still consider your relationship in the Honey moon phase? Or should I say is your girlfriend still the person she presented herself as from when you two first met? 

 

I would certainly say that we're out of the honeymoon phase. To be honest, honeymoon phases don't tend to last long in my relationships as I am straightforward with regards to my boundaries in relationships and when something bothers me. I'm not disrespectful, controlling or demanding but I lay out clear boundaries and that tends to kill the romance a little bit. I did so with my current GF and we had a few heated discussions over a few of them which hastened the honeymoon phase. And, I'm honest when something bothers me; if something someone  says or does bothers me (and it's a viable gripe) I will bring it up tactfully and try to resolve it.  I have found that my approach tends to bring a relationship to reality early on. Which is something I like; I've done my fair share of dating and it's not pleasant when something pops up two-three months in that's a deal-breaker for me. Or, I find out that someone I'm seeing can't handle it when I say "Hey, ___ bothered me and I'd like to talk about it."

[rjc149]

18 hours ago, MimiCupid82 said:

As a guy would you date someone you weren’t attracted to but connected on every other level? 

I would not. I don't think anyone would have a sexual relationship with someone they were not attracted to. Not authentically and honestly, anyway. 

[rjc149]

8 hours ago, miranda561 said:

All the men's profiles  i come across old..they end up saying the same things its like they're all copying one another.

Trust me haha, it's the same with women's profiles too. They're all adventurous, sassy, sarcastic, like the beach, love to travel, can beat you at Connect 4 and sarcasm blah blah blah blah etc. etc. Copy and paste. 

But I will seldom actually even bother reading through the summaries if the photos don't appeal to me. OLD is entirely image-driven. If you want success as a woman on OLD, you really need good photos. It's 95% of your profile's substance, as far as men are concerned.

Personal tips, 

1. Look as attractive as possible, obviously, with a good photo of your face with makeup

2. Have a good photo of you in tighter-fitting clothes -- either in an evening dress, form-fitting jeans, etc. (swimsuit photos are good if you look good in them, but not necessary)

3. Don't include group photos if you aren't the prettiest woman in the group

4. Don't have goofy-faced candid shots to "show your quirkiness" unless it's flattering or cute in an attractive way

5. Don't include an Instagram handle or link an Instagram page -- most men of value are keyed in to how self-absorbed and validation-seeking these women are and don't even bother

6. If dating is a numbers game, OLD multiplies those numbers many fold. Keep at it. 

Hope that helps. 

 

[miranda561]

55 minutes ago, rjc149 said:

Trust me haha, it's the same with women's profiles too. They're all adventurous, sassy, sarcastic, like the beach, love to travel, can beat you at Connect 4 and sarcasm blah blah blah blah etc. etc. Copy and paste. 

But I will seldom actually even bother reading through the summaries if the photos don't appeal to me. OLD is entirely image-driven. If you want success as a woman on OLD, you really need good photos. It's 95% of your profile's substance, as far as men are concerned.

Personal tips, 

1. Look as attractive as possible, obviously, with a good photo of your face with makeup

2. Have a good photo of you in tighter-fitting clothes -- either in an evening dress, form-fitting jeans, etc. (swimsuit photos are good if you look good in them, but not necessary)

3. Don't include group photos if you aren't the prettiest woman in the group

4. Don't have goofy-faced candid shots to "show your quirkiness" unless it's flattering or cute in an attractive way

5. Don't include an Instagram handle or link an Instagram page -- most men of value are keyed in to how self-absorbed and validation-seeking these women are and don't even bother

6. If dating is a numbers game, OLD multiplies those numbers many fold. Keep at it. 

Hope that helps. 

 

Thanks!

I don't usually have  a problem with people liking my photos. And i only put up like one photo 😂 at a time. And they'll be like you're  so beautiful  etc etc..

Old is a numbers game for sure. The guy who had an interest in me..but i was on and off with him, i saw how he changed his profile details. So as soon as i was off the ball with him..i.e not giving  him enough  attention off he went. 

But when  i asked him if he spoke to anyone he said he hasnt had time has been busy and just changed the subject. I didnt mention that i noticed a change of his profile details. But its like why not just admit it. 

Edited May 12, 2020 by miranda561

[rjc149]

20 minutes ago, miranda561 said:

Thanks!

I don't usually have  a problem with people liking my photos. And i only put up like one photo 😂 at a time. And they'll be like you're  so beautiful  etc etc..

Old is a numbers game for sure. The guy who had an interest in me..but i was on and off with him, i saw how he changed his profile details. So as soon as i was off the ball with him..i.e not giving  him enough  attention off he went. 

But when  i asked him if he spoke to anyone he said he hasnt had time has been busy and just changed the subject. I didnt mention that i noticed a change of his profile details. But its like why not just admit it. 

You're welcome haha it was also for the benefit of the OP (hopefully). 

The harsh reality is that OLD makes mate selection far, far more superficial. If men are already superficial in real life, it's compounded online. Or, they are using cyber courage to hit up lots of girls in a desperate attempt to get laid or get a girlfriend, without having to deal with discomfort of approaching in real life, and the sting of face-to-face rejection.