max3732 Posted May 11, 2020 Share Posted May 11, 2020 Don't know if the title makes sense. To make a long story short there's someone who lives in another state I was interested in before and spent some time with when I was out there, but during my last visit it became clear we're not right for each other. We used to email and text, but in my last visit I was rather annoyed with her (long story) and haven't been keeping in touch that much. Her mom ended up becoming friends with my mom since we met on a family trip and they also kept in touch. Then after her birthday (when I didn't send her anything) her mom sends my mom a long text about how they were talking about me and what great memories they have of me and mentioned what shed did for her birthday. So I felt obligated to send something and sent her a nice happy birthday message with some anecdotes about some good times. Her response... nothing. Not even a basic "thank you" Now on mother's day her mom sends my mom a long message saying she did such a great job raising me and how wonderful I am and all this stuff. I don't think I should ever contact the daughter again unless at the very least she contacts me first and I'd also have to see some sign that she's changed. My question is how should my mom handle messages from her mom? Especially ones that talk about me and how she and her daughter are always talking about me? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 11, 2020 Share Posted May 11, 2020 Your mother is free to be friends with anybody she choses even the parents of people you used to date. You can ask your mom to not tell you about these interchanges if you would rather not know. If your mother prefers to discontinue the relationship your mother needs to tell the other woman that. Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted May 11, 2020 Share Posted May 11, 2020 I think you should view your mom's friendship with her mom as completely separate from the relationship between you and the girl. The moms can talk about whatever they want. It doesn't concern you. Just because there is a certain message between the moms, even if it's about you, it doesn't require you to do anything. Don't contact the girl again, she's clearly not interested. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author max3732 Posted May 11, 2020 Author Share Posted May 11, 2020 3 hours ago, ShyViolet said: I think you should view your mom's friendship with her mom as completely separate from the relationship between you and the girl. The moms can talk about whatever they want. It doesn't concern you. Just because there is a certain message between the moms, even if it's about you, it doesn't require you to do anything. Don't contact the girl again, she's clearly not interested. Definitely! The thing is my mom feels guilty because she kind of pushed me into contacting the daughter since the mom was talking about how much she and the daughter liked me and my mom was saying she was probably hurt I didn't send her a message. My reasoning was if she's not going to contact me on my birthday and hasn't contacted me in such a long time why should I contact her? So my mom feels a bit awkward talking to her mom now. I'm not interested in the daughter, but her mom keeps talking about her. Link to post Share on other sites
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