Katiekatie Posted May 12, 2020 Share Posted May 12, 2020 My boyfriend and I broke up about 3 weeks ago. About a week and a half ago he contacts me to be friends, which I agreed to, and told him I wanted to to get back together and I would be trying to win him back. He says that it won’t happen, but we can see what happens. He contradicts himself on the subject. He says he’s sure we won’t get back together, that I won’t be able to prove myself but we shall see what happens. If I was so terrible, why would he want to be friends, and continue to hang out and talk all day every day. Like he messages good morning and talks all day and checks for my messages all day and says goodnight. He wants to watch our shows together still and talk about sports and play animal crossing with me. The only difference is he says we aren’t together and we aren’t doing anything sexual. I would appreciate input on what any of this means. Am I wasting my time? Is he just afraid I’ll turn into a raging bitch again? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted May 12, 2020 Share Posted May 12, 2020 Yea, he's probably afraid of that 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Katiekatie Posted May 12, 2020 Author Share Posted May 12, 2020 So should I give up? Or be friends and live my best life. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted May 12, 2020 Share Posted May 12, 2020 Let's go back to the breakup: Why were you raging at him? Do you have an anger management issue or was he doing things which would make the most reasonable person mad? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Katiekatie Posted May 12, 2020 Author Share Posted May 12, 2020 I was upset because I felt he wasn’t being supportive enough over a death in the family. And I drank and got angry. Said stuff I shouldn’t have said. Link to post Share on other sites
GeorgiaPeach1 Posted May 12, 2020 Share Posted May 12, 2020 Sounds like you're a backup plan, in case he can't find anyone else soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Wave Rider Posted May 19, 2020 Share Posted May 19, 2020 On 5/11/2020 at 10:39 PM, Katiekatie said: My boyfriend and I broke up about 3 weeks ago. About a week and a half ago he contacts me to be friends, which I agreed to, and told him I wanted to to get back together and I would be trying to win him back. He says that it won’t happen, but we can see what happens. He contradicts himself on the subject. He says he’s sure we won’t get back together, that I won’t be able to prove myself but we shall see what happens. If I was so terrible, why would he want to be friends, and continue to hang out and talk all day every day. Like he messages good morning and talks all day and checks for my messages all day and says goodnight. He wants to watch our shows together still and talk about sports and play animal crossing with me. The only difference is he says we aren’t together and we aren’t doing anything sexual. I would appreciate input on what any of this means. Am I wasting my time? Is he just afraid I’ll turn into a raging bitch again? Thanks Did you turn into a raging bitch? If you did, then maybe he had a good reason for breaking up, and if I were you I'd own that. Maybe he still does like you, but if a woman went crazy on me after drinking too much, I'd have trouble trusting her enough to be in a relationship. You may need to spend some time proving you're stable enough to be girlfriend material. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 19, 2020 Share Posted May 19, 2020 On 5/12/2020 at 5:04 AM, Katiekatie said: I was upset because I felt he wasn’t being supportive enough over a death in the family. And I drank and got angry. Said stuff I shouldn’t have said. Did you apologize for your drunken outburst? It sounds like there are parts of your relationship he liked. Then he saw side of you he couldn't handle & that worried him If he sees the old calm you who is not a "raging b1tch" you may be able to win him back. Right now he seems confused & he is not processing this break up well because he doesn't really want to be separated from the good you but he's afraid of other side of your personality. My condolences on the death in your family. Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted May 19, 2020 Share Posted May 19, 2020 It almost sounds like he considers you to be a PAL and not a GF. Someone to simply hang with as opposed to someone he wants to date. Link to post Share on other sites
TeddyBundy1993 Posted May 19, 2020 Share Posted May 19, 2020 You are a back up plan for sure. Dont expect much. He isnt confused about anything does he have co dependency issues? Link to post Share on other sites
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