Gr8fuln2020 Posted May 19, 2020 Share Posted May 19, 2020 4 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: Makes sense to want more pics to verify they’re legit. But some want them even after you’ve met in person. When they’re not with you it’s “send me a selfie of what you’re doing” type thing... as if they’ve forgotten what you look like in a day. Just seems common esp when living in another city like op and her guy. May I suggest a couple of reasons for this? One legit, perhaps, and the other... 1. The guy is genuinely interested in having recent photos as a way to flirt...possible? 2. A little or lot more nefarious...this becomes a precursor to sexting. You start by asking for innocent pics, the requests become a little more risque, and then, voila! Nudes or partial nudes...possible? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted May 19, 2020 Share Posted May 19, 2020 5 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: Oh okay. Yea, I don’t add strangers I match on apps to my FB. There was a thread I remember you made a while back that I think illustrates why I don’t do that... It tends to get messy to add every Tom, dick, and Harry on there. Also, I know they do it because they want PHOTOS! And to snoop on other stuff. But I don’t mind that part. But hypothetically, if you’re in a LDR type thing like OP and her guy and you didn’t have access to pictures in other ways, you wouldn’t want photos They only sent me a friend request after we'd been on a date or two. I still chatted to many girls on Messenger and if we never progressed to a date, the discussion fizzled out and we'd eventually just forget about each other. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted May 19, 2020 Share Posted May 19, 2020 Well the one guy I dated long distance constantly requested selfie photos....Can I see your face type thing...Not saying that he didn't want nudes....Im just saying that he was a bottomless pit of innocuous picture requests and I don't like photo documenting every step of my life. My experiences guys want pics, whether nudes or not...but preferably nudes, I'm sure, Link to post Share on other sites
an0nym0us123 Posted May 19, 2020 Share Posted May 19, 2020 Ive had a few women overtime come on very demanding wanting selfies. I actually hate myself in selfies so rarely take them. Wide angle selfie cameras on smart phone distort your entire face. One or two have gone on about wanting selfies to the point where one said she would stop talking to me if i did not send her a selfie as she thought i was fake. Told her fine, stop talking to me then. Next night she was messaging apologising. Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted May 19, 2020 Share Posted May 19, 2020 6 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Well the one guy I dated long distance constantly requested selfie photos....Can I see your face type thing...Not saying that he didn't want nudes....Im just saying that he was a bottomless pit of innocuous picture requests and I don't like photo documenting every step of my life. My experiences guys want pics, whether nudes or not...but preferably nudes, I'm sure, I actually never knew this was so prevalent. I've exchanged pics on many occasions with girls I've dated. I've sent selfies through Bumble or PoF (to show I'm in a certain place at the time I'm chatting to them) and they've reciprocated, or not... it's never mattered. Conversely, I've had a few girls request I add them on Snapchat. Generally the girls who've wanted me to add them on Snap are not the ones I'd takr home to Mom - however, the correlation is strong with Snap and those girls sending nudes (without even being asked). I don't know how old you are, I'm guessing young(ish), like under 30? Do you find guys want to add you to Snapchat for those reasons I've outlined above? Snapchat is the most logical medium to exchage nudes, I would have thought. Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted May 19, 2020 Share Posted May 19, 2020 (edited) 12 minutes ago, Trail Blazer said: Conversely, I've had a few girls request I add them on Snapchat. Generally the girls who've wanted me to add them on Snap are not the ones I'd takr home to Mom - however, the correlation is strong with Snap and those girls sending nudes (without even being asked). Not sure, I don’t have snap and never really have never taken off with guys who ask if I have it. I just don’t get the ADHD, pic thirsty, social media mentality and already know I wouldn’t vibe well with those people. The guys who’ve asked me I’ve usually been dating a min and it’s over imessengsr Edited May 19, 2020 by Cookiesandough Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted May 19, 2020 Share Posted May 19, 2020 3 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Not sure, I don’t have snap and never really have never taken off with guys who ask if I have it. I just don’t get the ADHD, pic thirsty, social media mentality and already know I wouldn’t vibe well with those people. Yeah, I get it. I think for either sex, it's a bit of a red flag (if it's constant) for similar reasons. It's just, if the guy does it, he's seen as a bit of a creep. When a girl's done it to me (not so much as the OP has described - but more in the way of Snapchat) it makes me think, "Oh hey! This one's up for a bit of fun" and not much more. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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