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I was thinking of posting this one picture of me on social media, so I went to my google drive to look for it. It was a picture taken by my ex from 3 years ago when we went on a trip together. As I looked for the picture, I realized that my ex deleted the entire shared google folder around 2 months ago (google drive keeps a record of activities). I had no idea!! I never really thought about downloading them to my local driver because I thought a cloud platform was more convenient. Now, suddenly I lost thousands of pictures from 10+ travel trips!!! Ah man, I want MY pictures back. I honestly don't care about the man because I have moved on a long time ago and we haven't spoken for years. I believe he's already married now, but it's actually irrelevant to me. I just want MY pictures back!!!

Should I email him about it? Should I tell him to re-upload the pictures? I'm not sure if he just deleted them off the google drive because he already backed them up in his local driver, or he just deleted them altogether.... If it's the second one and he no longer has a copy of the pictures, oh boy, i'm gonna be REALLY pissed. What should I do?

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11 minutes ago, Realitysux said:

Time for new pictures! 

We are talking about 10+ trips over the course of 2 years. I was at my absolute hottest back then. OMG. Some of these places and some of the activities I will probably not have the chance to do again. I AM SO MAD RIGHT NOW. I WANT MY PICTURES BACK.

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I lost my entire lifes worth of pictures and 12 years of my life. 12 years is a long time. I went through some shyt and I thought I was okay. It turns out I wasn't then I had a break down and quit a job and didn't get this other one. Then I lost everything and the guy turned into a stalker. I'm currently 37, I'm not at my hottest, I have no pictures and I can't get what I need to get started. I'm trying to sort this out and i've got tons of people telling me I'm a loser and I will always come out the looser. You lost some pictures, you'll be a new hot again, you'll take more and you will survive. If I'm not discouraged yet then you shouldn't be either. 

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9 minutes ago, Realitysux said:

I lost my entire lifes worth of pictures and 12 years of my life. 12 years is a long time. I went through some shyt and I thought I was okay. It turns out I wasn't then I had a break down and quit a job and didn't get this other one. Then I lost everything and the guy turned into a stalker. I'm currently 37, I'm not at my hottest, I have no pictures and I can't get what I need to get started. I'm trying to sort this out and i've got tons of people telling me I'm a loser and I will always come out the looser. You lost some pictures, you'll be a new hot again, you'll take more and you will survive. If I'm not discouraged yet then you shouldn't be either. 

Why did you lose your pictures? I'm sorry for your situation. But we are different. My life is alright. I have the right to my pictures. 

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What do you think about this email? Does it sound OK?

Hi [his name]

I hope you are well. I am writing to ask you about the pictures in our shared folder. 

I am in the process of writing a travel blog, so yesterday I was going through my old pictures in order to find pictures for the blog. It was then I realized that you have deleted all pictures from our shared folders. While I understand that you do not want to keep them, I would have preferred you just simply exit the shared drive, instead of deleting the pictures. I didn't download the pictures to my local driver, because generally, it is more convenient to store pictures on the cloud.

Do you still have a copy of the pictures? Could you please re-share them and give me the opportunity to download a copy, before you delete them again? I just really want to keep thousands of pictures of myself from the various trips that I took.

Thank you.  [my name]

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4 minutes ago, pc31 said:

What do you think about this email? Does it sound OK?

Hi [his name]

I hope you are well. I am writing to ask you about the pictures in our shared folder. 

I am in the process of writing a travel blog, so yesterday I was going through my old pictures in order to find pictures for the blog. It was then I realized that you have deleted all pictures from our shared folders. While I understand that you do not want to keep them, I would have preferred you just simply exit the shared drive, instead of deleting the pictures. I didn't download the pictures to my local driver, because generally, it is more convenient to store pictures on the cloud.

Do you still have a copy of the pictures? Could you please re-share them and give me the opportunity to download a copy, before you delete them again? I just really want to keep thousands of pictures of myself from the various trips that I took.

Thank you.  [my name]

Yea it's good. Send it! 

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8 hours ago, pc31 said:

What do you think about this email? Does it sound OK?

Hi [his name]

I hope you are well. I am writing to ask you about the pictures in our shared folder. 

I am in the process of writing a travel blog, so yesterday I was going through my old pictures in order to find pictures for the blog. It was then I realized that you have deleted all pictures from our shared folders. While I understand that you do not want to keep them, I would have preferred you just simply exit the shared drive, instead of deleting the pictures. I didn't download the pictures to my local driver, because generally, it is more convenient to store pictures on the cloud.

Do you still have a copy of the pictures? Could you please re-share them and give me the opportunity to download a copy, before you delete them again? I just really want to keep thousands of pictures of myself from the various trips that I took.

Thank you.  [my name]

I would get rid of the bit I crossed out, only because there's not much point in telling him what you feel he should have done. He might bite back and say something like tough cookies, you should have downloaded them already if they were that important to you. I just think it's a bit confrontational when it doesn't need to be, particularly when you haven't spoken in years. 

Personally, I think you'll likely get a better response (ie. maybe being able to get your pics again, if he does still have them) if the tone is more neutral. 

 

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22 hours ago, pc31 said:

What do you think about this email? Does it sound OK?

Hi [his name]

I hope you are well. I am writing to ask you about the pictures in our shared folder. 

I am in the process of writing a travel blog, so yesterday I was going through my old pictures in order to find pictures for the blog. It was then I realized that you have deleted all pictures from our shared folders. While I understand that you do not want to keep them, I would have preferred you just simply exit the shared drive, instead of deleting the pictures. I didn't download the pictures to my local driver, because generally, it is more convenient to store pictures on the cloud.

Do you still have a copy of the pictures? Could you please re-share them and give me the opportunity to download a copy, before you delete them again? I just really want to keep thousands of pictures of myself from the various trips that I took.

Thank you.  [my name]

I would delete the part about what you would have preferred and just stick to the facts of asking if he has copies (" While I understand that you do not want to keep them, I would have preferred you just simply exit the shared drive, instead of deleting the pictures").  I think it sounds good if you take out that sentence.

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I agree with @ExpatInItaly.  Keep it 100% neutral.

I kind of went through this same thing in my younger life. But at that point, there wasn't any digital pictures, or a cloud to put them on.  After I broke up with my GF of 5 years... I realized I didn't have any pictures of my adventures during those years.   At the time, she was WAY pissed off, and I'm not sure why since she cheated on me and broke up with me.   Anyway... it was years later... I reached out to some common friends, and asked if they could part with some photos of the group.  Ever since then... I've made sure to keep my own set of pics. (copied everything to the HD of my computer) AND...  When my exW was leaving... I told her she could have EVERYTHING in the house... but to please leave me some pictures. (her choice)

Unfortunately... he may not have those pics either, and he obviously deleted them years ago because he was mad.

I'm sorry for the potential loss... but this is one of those life lessons. (Keep your own memories)

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Don't be confrontational about it. Granted, he should have asked you if you wanted them or just left them alone instead of taking it up on himself to delete them since the account was a shared account, but for whatever reason, he didn't.

Are they on any SIM cards from the past phone/camera you used?

 

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