Pregnant ex send me ultrasound of her baby with her new boyfriend. What's in her mind ?

[TeddyBundy1993]

Well, here I am again. Just like many other men here i cant stop myself from communicating with my ex girlfriend.  We have broken up for more than 7 months now. And she is pregnant with her new boyfriend, she told me in January that shes pregnant with him. I'm kinda over her, but sending these ultrasound pics to me I guess shes trying to make jealous. We were in long distance for 3 years. And she knew I never wanted kids. Shes 31 now and I m 27. I understand she is excited about the kid but isn't sending and giving each detail of the child to me weird ?? I simply congratulated her and that's all. We communicate to 1or 2 message per day. I never initiate contact shes does. I have supportive and good influence to this girl through out our time. Can anybody tell if this normal or am I overanalyzing things.  

[Realitysux]

10 minutes ago, TeddyBundy1993 said:

Well, here I am again. Just like many other men here i cant stop myself from communicating with my ex girlfriend.  We have broken up for more than 7 months now. And she is pregnant with her new boyfriend, she told me in January that shes pregnant with him. I'm kinda over her, but sending these ultrasound pics to me I guess shes trying to make jealous. We were in long distance for 3 years. And she knew I never wanted kids. Shes 31 now and I m 27. I understand she is excited about the kid but isn't sending and giving each detail of the child to me weird ?? I simply congratulated her and that's all. We communicate to 1or 2 message per day. I never initiate contact shes does. I have supportive and good influence to this girl through out our time. Can anybody tell if this normal or am I overanalyzing things.  

You need to cut off contact. Contact prevents you from moving on. You need to cut ties and move forward. Maybe I am wrong but it seems like it isn't fair to you if she continues to be in your life. It's a very selfish move on her part. 

Edited May 14, 2020 by Realitysux
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[Blind-Sided]

No... it's not normal.  She's being a B**** and nothing more.  She's not over you, and she knows you didn't want kids.  She is trying to rub your nose in the fact that she found someone better in the fact that she is getting what she wants.

I don't know the details of your break up... and it's really not important at this point.  But as in the above post... you need to cut off contact with her.  Block her number, and her email.  She is not your friend, and you have no reason (other that to hurt yourself) to stay in contact with her.

Edited May 14, 2020 by Blind-Sided

[Rex12]

Clearly she still has feelings for you as you mentioned she initiates the contact. Maybe it's pregnancy hormones she's got flowing through her system at the moment but sending ultrasound pictures to a very recent ex?! That is not normal. 

As Blind-sided touched on, we're not aware of what went down with your breakup. It sounds to me though that she got straight into a rebound, got pregnant and is now wondering what on earth has happened. Could be wrong of course.

Regardless, go with the majority of opinion you'll receive here, wish her well then block her number, cut contact and move on. You're a young man in your prime. You don't need this melodrama in your life.

[ExpatInItaly]

This is the same woman from your previous threads?

You really need to cut ties with this person. 

[TeddyBundy1993]

15 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

This is the same woman from your previous threads?

You really need to cut ties with this person. 

Yea the same women.. I tried to cut it off but cant it isnt easy specially with her trying to be friends.  But I guess when she finally have this baby she will get busy with it....

And to replies to other I didnt posted my break up story bcz it's not important anymore to me. I dont want this women back anymore. She just surprises me all the time with her behavior.  I just try to know what's in her mind and if any other guy here have been through same.  I try and keep minimum contact. 

[ExpatInItaly]

2 hours ago, TeddyBundy1993 said:

Yea the same women.. I tried to cut it off but cant it isnt easy specially with her trying to be friends.  But I guess when she finally have this baby she will get busy with it...

You need a backbone, Teddy. 

She lives on the other side of the world, if I recall, and you two only met once for a few weeks - is that correct? And she left you citing all sorts of reasons, among them being this other man? 

What is the purpose of being "friends" with her? She wipes her feet on you and gets some sort of kick of rubbing her new life in your face. It is concerning that you continue to allow her to contact you at all. I realize it probably momentarily boosts your ego on some level, knowing she's trying to reach you. But at the end of the day, there is still no future here. She's not contacting you for any honorable reason.  You're wasting your time and energy even wondering why she operates the way she does. It's time to close this door so you can mentally devote yourself to healthier paths. Leaving this avenue open is bringing no benefit to you.

[ShyViolet]

Yes, that's weird what she is doing.  She sounds a little crazy.

[TeddyBundy1993]

Yes she lives on other side of world and we have lived together for a while. Not few weeks also. My attempts to reach her country were rejected bcz of immigration issue. I dont expect anything with her, I m not doing anything with a women who is having a kid lol.  I m living my peaceful life tbh. I feel lonely at times also. Just her behavior surprises me at times.  But I got your point, I shouldn't be wasting my energy on wondering why she is acting this way. Will be on it.... now

[MissBee]

7 hours ago, TeddyBundy1993 said:

Well, here I am again. Just like many other men here i cant stop myself from communicating with my ex girlfriend.  We have broken up for more than 7 months now. And she is pregnant with her new boyfriend, she told me in January that shes pregnant with him. I'm kinda over her, but sending these ultrasound pics to me I guess shes trying to make jealous. We were in long distance for 3 years. And she knew I never wanted kids. Shes 31 now and I m 27. I understand she is excited about the kid but isn't sending and giving each detail of the child to me weird ?? I simply congratulated her and that's all. We communicate to 1or 2 message per day. I never initiate contact shes does. I have supportive and good influence to this girl through out our time. Can anybody tell if this normal or am I overanalyzing things.  

 

Even though you claim you're over her, that you're posting this and want to know what's in her mind kinda tells another story. There's nothing to over-analyze IMO if you're over the person.

If you're over her and she thinks so and you never wanted kids, it's possible she's just sharing it as a friend and has shared it with a bunch of other people too. Or she could be trying to make you jealous. Either way, more than what's in her mind, to me, on your part as well, this isn't an above-board friendship whatsoever.

 

 

Edited May 14, 2020 by MissBee

[kendahke]

4 hours ago, TeddyBundy1993 said:

I tried to cut it off but cant it isnt easy specially with her trying to be friends.

It is easy. You just don't want to do it.

You tell her "look, I wish you a lot of happiness in your new life with your new guy and baby, but I think it's time for me to cut this line and let you drift towards your destiny.  Be safe and happy" then you block her. 

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But I guess when she finally have this baby she will get busy with it....

Tired, yes, but not that so busy that she won't pick up her phone and start texting you and sending you more pics of her and the baby. 

 

[TeddyBundy1993]

Yes I am over.  I was in good no contact blocked her even before but she appeared with a new account. Its was for 2 months we didn't spoke, by the time she texted me I was calm healed. I know you guys cant believe I m over her,  but I cant blame you for that.  But anyhow thanks for your input 

[Redhead14]

10 hours ago, TeddyBundy1993 said:

Well, here I am again. Just like many other men here i cant stop myself from communicating with my ex girlfriend.  We have broken up for more than 7 months now. And she is pregnant with her new boyfriend, she told me in January that shes pregnant with him. I'm kinda over her, but sending these ultrasound pics to me I guess shes trying to make jealous. We were in long distance for 3 years. And she knew I never wanted kids. Shes 31 now and I m 27. I understand she is excited about the kid but isn't sending and giving each detail of the child to me weird ?? I simply congratulated her and that's all. We communicate to 1or 2 message per day. I never initiate contact shes does. I have supportive and good influence to this girl through out our time. Can anybody tell if this normal or am I overanalyzing things.  

Are you sure it's not your baby????  You've been broken up for 7 months.  So you broke up sometime in October?  She told you in January she was pregnant.  She would be about 2 months pregnant maybe a little less when she told you likely so she got pregnant some time around Novemberish?  How far along was she when she told you?  When is she due?  She may not know for sure who the baby's father is. 

[The Outlaw]

Cut contact. Not cool she's sending you pics of her ultrasound post breakup. It's like rubbing salt in the wound. 

[assertives]

Stop replying the next time she texts you? Like keep ignoring and blocking any new numbers that you see. After awhile, it will get boring to her and she'll stop if she sees there's no response from you.

[Ashley89]

Ignore her. She's a grown up, she knows (or should know) how that makes you feel so don't make yourself responsible for her feelings. 

[elaine567]

21 hours ago, TeddyBundy1993 said:

 i cant stop myself from communicating with my ex girlfriend. 
We communicate to 1or 2 message per day. I never initiate contact shes does.

You have been ;put in the friend-zone so why wouldn't she communicate every bit of good news with you, her new best friend.
Forget about any devious intention or her trying to make you jealous .
That is not what is happening.
Women dumpers can be just friends with their dumpees all day and all night...
She has a new man now, you are nowhere on that front. 
You are the nice guy she can still be friends with..

If it is upsetting you then shut it all down, introduce distance.

[Blind-Sided]

20 hours ago, TeddyBundy1993 said:

 I tried to cut it off but cant it isnt easy specially with her trying to be friends.  ........ 

You really can't be friends with an ex.  So don't say it isn't easy... it just has to be done, and stop giving into your own weaknesses.

[k100danny]

I have had exs go on and start happy families and ive been genuinely happy for them but it's taken a long time for me to be able to call them a friend, if we were contacting each other after the break up and this happened i wouldn't think it was normal behaviour.

 

I had a similar thing happen with an ex although we hadn't been in contact for a long time and  we had both moved on, i thought it strange she would tell me about her having a baby, she said she was coming back to our town and didn't want me to bump into her and be shocked which may have been the truth.  She decided to terminate a pregnancy when she was with me which made really strange when she told me, i was like are you trying to make me mad or are you being genuine but at this point i just said congratulations as I had fully healed and moved on and didn't really care either way, as long as she was happy she didn't need me to be happy for her.

[ExpatInItaly]

19 hours ago, TeddyBundy1993 said:

Yes she lives on other side of world and we have lived together for a while. Not few weeks also. My attempts to reach her country were rejected bcz of immigration issue.

How long was a while?

I had thought it was only about a month, no? 

[lolablue17]

Its not normal!

She's a sociopath bit*h. She somehow stupid enough to think that being pregnant from another man, giving her power over you. But that's not the main ugliness.

People who like to brag their power over the weak, are the lowest scumbags. It doesn't natter if you are really weak, i understand you are not. But she wants you weak for her own dirty purposes. I feel sorry for her current boyfriend for his miserable future. 

[TeddyBundy1993]

1 hour ago, ExpatInItaly said:

How long was a while?

I had thought it was only about a month, no? 

Yes a month... and prior to it she was in my country for a 3 months too but at that time we didnt lived together just met outside. But yes it doesnt count in anyway now

[ExpatInItaly]

1 hour ago, TeddyBundy1993 said:

Yes a month... and prior to it she was in my country for a 3 months too but at that time we didnt lived together just met outside. But yes it doesnt count in anyway now

Yes, that's why I asked. 

In the grand scheme of things, this woman should be but a blip on your radar now. It's time to block her forever. 

[The Outlaw]

She's keeping you involved in her life with every last single text she sends you and it's a hinderance to you being able to move forward. I know it's difficult but sometimes you just have to put yourself first. Just let her go. Best thing you can do.