I think I know some answers now. What makes one go 'bad'

[Twenty Twenty]

I'm watching some old movies. Serpico is on now. I remember all those 70s 80s crime dramas. good cop bad cop. etc. Often, some theme of morality is there. Why him? Why did he accept the bribe. But not him? There always some hero and then the anti heros.

So, for example. Take a random man.  If this man, wanted to some how "join" our life. We first ask, is he a "good guy or bad".  If he cusses. If has tats. If he has a record. Then he's "bad" and we instantly shift our focus unto somebody else, passing him off as someone to not know. Unless, you are "bad" yourself. Then, you found a new buddy.

Once you find out someone is "good", well now, you move on to are they more of a social bubbly type, or more introverted.  If say they are social, you move on. Unless, you are social. Then, you found a new buddy. But if  you're like me, and introverted then you move on, until one day some introvert who is also "good" stumbles upon me. 

And so on and so on....

That darwinian nature of friendships.

I compare it to, well I saw a video. It explained the perfect alignment of things in nature. He explains it, so now it makes sense. It's not a mystery anymore. How things align, is, it started off with a whole bunch of things. In all angles. BUT, the ones who weren't aligned HIT EACH OTHER and fell out of the area, while, the ones that were aligned properly STAYED. In the end, we only see the ones left staying. But to us, it seems "As though" they somehow magically moved to be in the exact same direction. As if there was some alien intellegence behind it. "No man could of designed that"..

 

But yet, that explanation, of "the unaligned ones were there too but drop off as they hit each other" holds true. And, explains the mysteriousness of it.

 

SAME IS true with people. Social and group things. Which, I now see as clearly as the explanation for alignments in nature. That, such as with forming friendships like I wrote above, this process of cancelling out the ones that "are misaligned and hit". In the end, our friends, are those who did NOTHING--- they just didn't HAVE the things that gets them hit out of orbit...

 

So, we both remain in the end, in the same orbit.....

 

The funny thing is, IF IT'S A WOMAN. Then I found my wife....

 

[Curious-Sam]

Sure - a lot of people equate this to the scientific phenomena of "resonance". Objects of the same vibrational frequency or harmonics will resonate together and share energy. If you have 2 tuning forks of the same frequency and strike one - the other will receive the vibrations and begin sounding as well. They constructively reinforce each other What's called Sympathetic resonance. If the tuning forks are out of alignment they create what's called a "beat frequency" which is where the sound waves oppose each other and create what's called destructive Interference. The cliche saying is "Your vibe determines your tribe". You attract those who are similar to yourself.

The thing is humans are a bit more complex then tuning forks. We don't have a fixed resonance but rather we are somewhat malleable. Able to be changed and energetically influenced by those we spend a lot of time with. So though we may not initially be a good "match" for a person or a group ... If we spend a lot of time in their company we will gradually begin to change and realign ourselves with the dominant energy of the group. It's why parents are so particular about which children their child makes friends with and plays with. Trying to avoid them falling in with the "wrong crowd".

Edited May 17, 2020 by Curious-Sam