Why do I always feel like the bad guy when any of my exes reaches out to me?

[pc31]

I don't know what it is about past relationships that always make me feel guilty one way or another. I'm in my early 30s and single. All of my exes are already married by now. I assume they are happy.

Do I regret leaving the relationships? Not really. Right now I am where exactly I have always wanted to be. If anything, I wish I could have reached where I am right now a few years earlier, but I'm not mad about the timing. This song describes my feeling perfectly: 

 

 

Every time any of my 3 exes and i are in touch, mostly for logistical reasons, I don't know why I always feel like I did them wrong. Perhaps I really did? 

What should I do to stop feeling guilty?

Edited May 15, 2020 by pc31

[fred123]

i wish my exes felt ur way. they were cruel to me and left me high and dry. i hope they feel bad how they treated me.

 

what did u do to them?

[Cookiesandough]

It sucks to break up with someone for no “good reason”. Guilt is par for the course 

[Emilie Jolie]

On 5/15/2020 at 10:47 PM, pc31 said:

Every time any of my 3 exes and i are in touch, mostly for logistical reasons

What 'logistical reasons' can you have to continue being in touch with every single one of your exes? Do you all still live or work together or coparent?

You probably just realised you didn't like them enough to be in a RL with them, never mind break up with them? 

I mean if they're married and likely happy, what is there to regret? Can't say I relate, truthfully.