My husband of 9 years posted pictures of me on porn site

[Shells in hell]

I have no one to talk to about this and i just cant stop thinking about it ! My husband of 9 years and friend for 20 posted nude pictures of me and close up pictures of us together in bed and i mean very close.He also had lots of him showing of his penis.Does every man have such a obsession about their junk?Any way.. this is a true break in trust and so many things i cant even find words for! You see I was abused as a child and that was part of it him taking pictures of me and too many horrible things to mention and i truly thought my husband was the only one capable of truly understanding me ,knowing me.I was wrong and now im lost!!!

[healing light]

I'm sorry to hear this. I would feel this was a huge violation, as well--even if there was no background of sexual abuse. What kind of support do you need from us? 

[Blind-Sided]

I'm very sorry to hear this... and no... I don't think all guys are obsessed with pictures of their junk.  But the real question is... why did you say "OK" to letting him take the pictures in the first place?  I know it's irrelevant now.

I'm sorry again.

[emprosnet7]

On 5/16/2020 at 11:24 AM, Shells in hell said:

I have no one to talk to about this and i just cant stop thinking about it ! My husband of 9 years and friend for 20 posted nude pictures of me and close up pictures of us together in bed and i mean very close.He also had lots of him showing of his penis.Does every man have such a obsession about their junk?Any way.. this is a true break in trust and so many things i cant even find words for! You see I was abused as a child and that was part of it him taking pictures of me and too many horrible things to mention and i truly thought my husband was the only one capable of truly understanding me ,knowing me.I was wrong and now im lost!!!

Did he post the pictures on facebook or on a porn site ? When did this happen? Is it just your body or you can see your faces too ? Have your friends seen the pictures etc ? What did he say about it when you asked him ?

Edited May 17, 2020 by emprosnet7

[d0nnivain]

in some states it's a crime to post nudes of someone without their permission.  Find out if that is the law where you live.  Tell him to take them down or else.  

[K.K.]

Yea, that’s horrible! How do you even stand being in the same room with him after this? Complete breach of trust. 

[SincereOnlineGuy]

On 5/16/2020 at 1:24 AM, Shells in hell said:

I have no one to talk to about this and i just cant stop thinking about it ! My husband of 9 years and friend for 20 posted nude pictures of me and close up pictures of us together in bed and i mean very close.He also had lots of him showing of his penis.Does every man have such a obsession about their junk?Any way.. this is a true break in trust and so many things i cant even find words for! You see I was abused as a child and that was part of it him taking pictures of me and too many horrible things to mention and i truly thought my husband was the only one capable of truly understanding me ,knowing me.I was wrong and now im lost!!!

 

A - are either of you identifiable  in the pictures  (to others, I mean...  not merely for the wallpaper, the sheets or the dresser in the background) ??

 

I agree that this is an inexcusable breach of trust.  And that you should be direct in making him take them down.   

Sadly, once porn gets out there, it can keep going a long way...    and IF you are indeed identifiable...  then the main hope may evolve to become that your pictures get lost out there  among the millions of others.

Time is of the essence...   the sooner you act on this... demanding that he take them down at once...   the better your damage control chances.

 

 

 

[Therisa]

He is so wrong on many levels. Get some therapy for your past, forgive him and move on fast.