obwuh Posted May 21, 2020 Share Posted May 21, 2020 My boyfriend and I have been dating for more than a year and a half. I have met his family and I lived with them for a few months. But he told me that he doesn't want me to meet his friends when I told him that I'd like to. I asked him if his friends know he has a girlfriend, and he told me yes. But he talks to a bunch of females who he doesn't want to tell about me. He says he wants to keep his relationship private from them. He admitted to going to girl's Facebook profiles and reacting to their photos with an "angry" face, and I told him that it looks like he's flirting with them since he won't do the same thing to his male friends. But he insists that if he did it to his male friends, then they would think he is interested in them. But he simultaneously says he isn't flirting with the girls. I asked him to stop keeping me a secret from his female friends and to stop treating his female friends differently from his male friends, and be told me that I am just trying to change his personality and that he thinks I am trying to mold him into a different person. Is it wrong for me to ask him to stop talking to girls without telling them he has a girlfriend? If he didn't act different with his female friends than how he acts with his male friends, then I wouldn't always be feeling disrespected. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 21, 2020 Share Posted May 21, 2020 A) He is not proud of you, so he hides you away from his friends. B) He is keeping his options open by flirting and talking to these girls and not telling them he has a gf. He is up to no good, so of course he wants to "keep his relationship private" C) He is shutting down any discussion by saying you are trying to change his personality. Get rid asap. He is not bf material. and I guess there there is more going on than you know about... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Fletch Lives Posted May 21, 2020 Share Posted May 21, 2020 If he's meeting them and not introducing you, he's cheating or keeping them as backup girls. Get some backup guys and show him how it feels. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 21, 2020 Share Posted May 21, 2020 He's fooling somebody. Why have you allowed this to continue for 1.5 years? You are his dirty little secret & he's definitely messing around with these female friends. He likes being seen as single. He has no respect for you. He may not even like you or he thinks less of you. If he was proud to be your BF he'd be shouting it from the mountaintop & showing you off to everyone. He's not. So you have to assume it's because part of him is embarrassed about being with you. That makes him awful. If you continue dating him, you are teaching him that it's OK to belittle you & use you for his comfort 1 Link to post Share on other sites
fred123 Posted May 24, 2020 Share Posted May 24, 2020 On 5/21/2020 at 2:20 PM, d0nnivain said: He's fooling somebody. Why have you allowed this to continue for 1.5 years? You are his dirty little secret & he's definitely messing around with these female friends. He likes being seen as single. He has no respect for you. He may not even like you or he thinks less of you. If he was proud to be your BF he'd be shouting it from the mountaintop & showing you off to everyone. He's not. So you have to assume it's because part of him is embarrassed about being with you. That makes him awful. If you continue dating him, you are teaching him that it's OK to belittle you & use you for his comfort hes not into you. i had this with my ex Link to post Share on other sites
Pumaza Posted May 29, 2020 Share Posted May 29, 2020 dating a year?😮 sure you not same to your male freinds as you are with your female ones.its not weird generally.but hiding you is often because he not 100% into you. its not something good,he is not in a situation or country where "hiding""" you is the best thing to do now. normally a person inlove would even start talk about you before getting with you. everyone will already know who they inlove wirh. maybe he wanna have a girlfreind and stay the ladys man, keeping his image of before. you say you dating more then a year,doesnt sound like you are a girlfreind, or know what you guys are. sex and spent time dont make you his girlfreind.he really should ask you if you wanna be first.dont know if it did happen. anyway,you stayed to long taking this. best is to breakup and leave. or give him a last chance to fix this. Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted May 29, 2020 Share Posted May 29, 2020 He's a SHADY dude........................ 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Spainglish Posted May 29, 2020 Share Posted May 29, 2020 There's no secret code to crack here. He's keeping his options open. Period. You're either okay with it or you're not. If you're not, get rid of him. If you are, continue as you are and expect nothing to change. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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