miranda561 Posted May 25, 2020 Share Posted May 25, 2020 4 minutes ago, QuietRiot said: Yeah, I have a friend of mine, that lives with her mother (she works from home) who sees her boyfriend an hour away. She's always taking the trip as she won't bring him back to her mom's home. But I couldn't help but think how minimal the risk that is. WHo knows where he's been. She think she's being somewhat careful by seeing him and only him outside of the house. My friend is the exact same living with her parents and working from home, does the exact same thing. Unless she's sure he hasn't been absolutely anywhere and has not had contact with anyone else. Its not safe. She could bring it back with her and infect her mother. 😮 Link to post Share on other sites
QuietRiot Posted May 25, 2020 Share Posted May 25, 2020 (edited) 11 minutes ago, miranda561 said: My friend is the exact same living with her parents and working from home, does the exact same thing. Unless she's sure he hasn't been absolutely anywhere and has not had contact with anyone else. Its not safe. She could bring it back with her and infect her mother. 😮 Yeah, and to be honest...I'm afraid to ask her the particulars of how she's handling it as she's of the personality that "prefers to stay positive" and if conversations go towards the negative (even if it's a reality)...she just avoids the conversation. I've thought about probing for how she's handling Memorial Day weekend. I may start off with, "Man, some places are packed, and have disregard of social distancing this weekend!" Edited May 25, 2020 by QuietRiot 1 Link to post Share on other sites
miranda561 Posted May 25, 2020 Share Posted May 25, 2020 1 hour ago, QuietRiot said: Yeah, and to be honest...I'm afraid to ask her the particulars of how she's handling it as she's of the personality that "prefers to stay positive" and if conversations go towards the negative (even if it's a reality)...she just avoids the conversation. I've thought about probing for how she's handling Memorial Day weekend. I may start off with, "Man, some places are packed, and have disregard of social distancing this weekend!" Yeah i dont want to get into that convo because I obviously don't agree and am mad at how people are behaving..But dont want toend up falling out with everyone 😂😂 Yeah just slip a comment in there 🤭 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ellener Posted May 25, 2020 Author Share Posted May 25, 2020 6 hours ago, QuietRiot said: I am also curious when I see these dating message boards that why should this kind of thing be up for discussion when there's a pandemic going on? I think there are specific threads about Covid and dating in the Coronavirus section. There's been an HIV pandemic for 40 years and I don't feel the need to discuss 6 hours ago, QuietRiot said: the parameters by which you're meeting during this new normal. infection safety in general about that here either! I have to get on with my life, this is not going to just go away any time soon, if at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ellener Posted May 25, 2020 Author Share Posted May 25, 2020 3 hours ago, miranda561 said: Its not safe. Life's not safe, we can only do what we can and get on with it. Link to post Share on other sites
miranda561 Posted May 25, 2020 Share Posted May 25, 2020 17 minutes ago, Ellener said: Life's not safe, we can only do what we can and get on with it. I get that but at the very least people should listen to government guidelines. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ellener Posted May 25, 2020 Author Share Posted May 25, 2020 1 hour ago, miranda561 said: I get that but at the very least people should listen to government guidelines. The guidelines are very broad depending on where you are. And people don't always trust their governments. I really haven't seen irresponsible behaviour here so far, but after Harvey I really didn't expect to! We're like disaster-experts down here now... Link to post Share on other sites
miranda561 Posted May 25, 2020 Share Posted May 25, 2020 47 minutes ago, Ellener said: The guidelines are very broad depending on where you are. And people don't always trust their governments. I really haven't seen irresponsible behaviour here so far, but after Harvey I really didn't expect to! We're like disaster-experts down here now... Oh well then common sense should prevail. But i think people use any excuse to break them. Youre in America then. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ellener Posted May 25, 2020 Author Share Posted May 25, 2020 1 hour ago, miranda561 said: Youre in America then. Almost 20 years now. I'm in Houston Texas. We're pretty used to debating the tensions between personal freedoms and societal expectations...and to adapting during flood and storm disasters. 🤠 But I am English before that. 🇬🇧 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted May 25, 2020 Share Posted May 25, 2020 (edited) 9 hours ago, QuietRiot said: I am curious when single people start getting antsy, they could start seeing other strangers from the Internet, thus encouraging the viral spread. The idiots are coming out in droves in some areas unfortunately...most of them mask-less. Sure, some areas are re-opening, but be prepared for another lock down because these re-openings are going to cause outbreaks or flares once again and the cities will have to go into lock down...again. I am also curious when I see these dating message boards that why should this kind of thing be up for discussion when there's a pandemic going on? If you are going to start a thread where you've "met someone new" at least discuss the parameters by which you're meeting during this new normal. First date, wear masks....stay beyond 6 feet? No kissing or sex until there's a vaccine in place? Yeah, the whole thing really makes me sad. We’re kind of lulled into this false sense of normalcy with things opening up a lot more, but things just aren’t normal yet and won’t be for many for a long time. I’m honestly surprised by the people who are willing to meet... mostly guys I’ve met in the past. One is in the health care field and he has a child too. We haven’t seen each other since the very beginning of the year. I asked him isn’t he quarantining and he said “I’m not ready to go around tons of people. But we could do something just us“ So we are. I’m not afraid of rona, so I don’t mind, but I really don’t understand this logic completely. Aren’t you potentially going around “tons of people” by just going around one. You have no idea how many people they’ve been exposed to? Another is a guy in a philosophy group I was briefly active in last summer.... I feel such a click with him personality-wise so far. His mind is just brilliant. We’re going to his grandmas house. It’s a home that she once lived that’s been vacant/abandoned for a long time and we’ll be in the front yard. It’s out in nature and should be a good place to think/have a picnic. Edited May 25, 2020 by Cookiesandough Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted May 25, 2020 Share Posted May 25, 2020 3 hours ago, Ellener said: The guidelines are very broad depending on where you are. And people don't always trust their governments. I really haven't seen irresponsible behaviour here so far, but after Harvey I really didn't expect to! We're like disaster-experts down here now... Go to the beaches on the coast and the lakes Ellener....you would not believe the people and/or the boats. I was in Houston not long ago and it's amazing how WIDE Spread the city is but a fun city. I saw a statistic that 1 person can easily infect 52 people so quickly and in such a short circle of space. That was very alarming to me. A very brilliant man once said that "we (I) was born not knowing and have had only a little time to change that" which seems pretty poetic given the misinformation surrounding the RONA. I have to admit that I have not altered much aside from a few things and not engaging personally with a few certain people. I just wonder if and when the RONA comes back this FALL what it might be like......... 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
QuietRiot Posted May 25, 2020 Share Posted May 25, 2020 31 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Yeah, the whole thing really makes me sad. We’re kind of lulled into this false sense of normalcy with things opening up a lot more, but things just aren’t normal yet and won’t be for many for a long time. I’m honestly surprised by the people who are willing to meet... mostly guys I’ve met in the past. One is in the health care field and he has a child too. We haven’t seen each other since the very beginning of the year. I asked him isn’t he quarantining and he said “I’m not ready to go around tons of people. But we could do something just us“ So we are. I’m not afraid of rona, so I don’t mind, but I really don’t understand this logic completely. Aren’t you potentially going around “tons of people” by just going around one. You have no idea how many people they’ve been exposed to? Another is a guy in a philosophy group I was briefly active in last summer.... I feel such a click with him personality-wise so far. His mind is just brilliant. We’re going to his grandmas house. It’s a home that she once lived that’s been vacant/abandoned for a long time and we’ll be in the front yard. It’s out in nature and should be a good place to think/have a picnic. Yeah, there's this one woman I have known for a long time that has entertained getting together, however, she has friend zoned me long ago, but...I'm wondering due to the Covid situation, I could turn her around? Kind of makes sense. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted May 25, 2020 Share Posted May 25, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, QuietRiot said: Yeah, there's this one woman I have known for a long time that has entertained getting together, however, she has friend zoned me long ago, but...I'm wondering due to the Covid situation, I could turn her around? Kind of makes sense. It’s quite possible. especially if you can nail down a meet. Honestly the guys I’m talking to I probably wouldn’t be entertaining as romantic prospects if I could go downtown and meet people easier like I could 5 months ago . But hey, you never know Edited May 25, 2020 by Cookiesandough Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ellener Posted May 25, 2020 Author Share Posted May 25, 2020 2 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: Aren’t you potentially going around “tons of people” by just going around one. You have no idea how many people they’ve been exposed to? Yes, of course. It's exactly the same scenario as when HIV first appeared except this is easier to spread. But life goes on, or we might as well not be alive. 2 hours ago, simpycurious said: I was in Houston not long ago and it's amazing how WIDE Spread the city is but a fun city. Yes, it's a wonderful city. I have no doubt we'll cope and adapt to Covid here. 2 hours ago, simpycurious said: 1 person can easily infect 52 people I wrote yesterday 'Infection control is basically influencing as many outcomes as possible to break the chain of surviving viruses going from survival environment to environment!' so yes, I think we are going to be hand-washing, quarantining, minimising contacts etc. for the forseeable future. 1 hour ago, Cookiesandough said: the guys I’m talking to I probably wouldn’t be entertaining as romantic prospects if I could go downtown and meet people easier like I could 5 months ago . But hey, you never know I don't feel like that about it, exactly, if I don't feel attraction then I won't pursue it. But I'm in my fifties, I'd feel differently if I were younger maybe. I do expect to have to be patient as we work out how to get back out there, meet people, and sift through people who are bored or lonely. I had a lovely chat with a man yesterday, and he wanted to meet today, but even as we discussed it I could tell we were both still thinking it through, whether we're even ready to meet and how to 'weigh up' someone who will meet up. Does it mean they're going to be meeting lots of other people and increasing their potential exposure thus mine sort-of-thing. It's another set of dimensions to dating that's for sure! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ellener Posted May 25, 2020 Author Share Posted May 25, 2020 3 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: Another is a guy in a philosophy group I was briefly active in last summer.... I feel such a click with him personality-wise so far. And we may just be noticing different things, our whole perspective changed by a brush with death or potential death...I don't think it's any coincidence or surprise the conversation I had yesterday was a lot about philosophical things too, and it lead to me reading several things I'd forgotten about...maybe a bit too intense a few months prior but apt for now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted May 28, 2020 Share Posted May 28, 2020 I spent around 5 years posting here before my wife wandered in and I stumbled upon her. Shudder to think where I'd be today if I was taking a break from the board at the time or didn't take the risk of giving it a shot. Whatever happens happens, just keep putting yourself out there. So when that opportunity comes along you don't miss it. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted May 31, 2020 Share Posted May 31, 2020 Any updates? How goes the dating adventure? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ellener Posted June 1, 2020 Author Share Posted June 1, 2020 5 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: Any updates? How goes the dating adventure? I'm talking to two men from OLD, it's hard to tell a real personal connection just talking and texting. Serious topics come up way too much for romance or talking to strangers I'd say. They are both nice guys but everyone's timing is off, one calls too much, the other not enough! Oh and I still have feelings for my friend, so there's this subtle comparison thing going on. Too much time to daydream?! I don't think that will go away until I start an actual new relationship. So- my biggest adventure right now is gardening and Netflix 😆 That's okay, it is what it is as we say around these parts...Groundhog Day! I'm pretty content, having my own lovely little place and my son is doing great; he got his degree summa cum laude. We watched the space launch together. 🎓🤩 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted June 1, 2020 Share Posted June 1, 2020 Wow grats to your son! Smart cookie. Takes after his momma Glad is all going well. Are you still talking to the friend. Maybe all you need is time and new experiences, yeh. I did have 2..now only talking to one...I don't know..I feel weird about it. Like I'm just not sure of anything anymore. But at the same time, I'm ok with that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ellener Posted June 1, 2020 Author Share Posted June 1, 2020 4 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: Wow grats to your son! Smart cookie. Takes after his momma Glad is all going well. Are you still talking to the friend. Maybe all you need is time and new experiences, yeh. I did have 2..now only talking to one...I don't know..I feel weird about it. Like I'm just not sure of anything anymore. But at the same time, I'm ok with that. My son is more like me than he cares to admit, so it's a wonder he even finished his degree 😃 but it's lovely to see him all grown up and independent. I did tell him the bank of mom is closed! He said 'when's the last time I asked for money?' 'February'. 'I sent you a check for that!' And he did...I apologised! Yes my friend told me he could never get over his wife dying, he's a lovely man I'd be very happy to be with. He never even considered anyone until he met me, it was at my most 'dippiest' too! No one is sure of things, we're all still returning to a pre-pandemic anxiety level. I'm ok too, living day by day, processing all the sad things but staying as positive as possible. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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