meddling parents

[contel3]

So due to Corona, I have been spending more time than usual with my parents basically isolating together…. it has been going quite well. There is one thing bothering me though. They have always been this way, but right now I don't really have any way to walk out when it's getting too much since we quarantine together. Basically they will give me unsollicited advice. About my romantic partners, about my friends, my lifestyle, my work. Since my social life has pretty much been reduced to zero, this time it was about work.

I have had some pretty bad headaches, and have been a bit slow with work. Since they expect me to tell them about how work is going, I have told them about that. Up till there fine. What is bothering me is they now think they should somehow "coach" me through this. Like tell me to go to bed at a certain hour or planing my day out for me. If they feel I am not making enough progress, they will try to figure out solutions or ask about my mental health. Today, they suggested my headaches might be due to psychological issues I am unaware of and I might be more efficient if I get that sorted.

I know they mean well and are probably worried…..but its making me clam up. It's extremely uncomfortable. How do I make them stop?

[FMW]

Parents will always be parents and try to fix your problems.  It will be uncomfortable for you probably, but you just have to tell them - nicely.  Something like "hey, I appreciate you wanting to help but it's actually kind of stressing me out".  

 

[preraph]

They do seem to be trying to micromanage you. Why don't you have a little serious talk with them about it. Tell them actually all the unsolicited advice has become a stressor to you since you're with them all the time and that you will certainly tell you their opinion when you need it and ask for it.