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ShiningMoon

Hi all,

I went for an apartment viewing yesterday after a chat with the lady who advertised the apartment. I walked into the apartment and her roommate was there (male around my age). He seemed nice and assisted her with the viewing. He's moving out as well. Not sure if they're dating, she's quite older than him, they work in the same company but who knows. They had separate rooms, so perhaps they got together and want a one bedroom. I don't know.

Fine. My main contact was the woman. He was just there and didn't have my contact details.

Anyway. After the viewing, he looked me up on LinkedIn and found me (he didn't have my last name/email/phone number - just my first name and company). He sent me a request and then sent me an email saying:

"Did you get home safely? I know LinkedIn may not be the right platform, but in case you end up taking the apartment, we could perhaps go for drinks to celebrate?"

Well, aside from the fact that we're still in quarantine..he could have just asked his roommate to give him my contact details for a follow up.

Is he trying to pull something? What are his intentions?

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7 minutes ago, ShiningMoon said:

Is he trying to pull something?

Yep. 

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CaliforniaGirl

Well, he's attracted to you. He wants to take you out. Maybe he doesn't want that woman to know all of his business.

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Springsummer

I guess you are also interested, otherwise, you wouldn't have the time of the day to ask

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He is a creep. what guy that like you do that? He could have show interest there and then.

This looks like a house that will bring you just drama.

Block him and let her know you not interested.

Find something else were people dont try to get with you also. Best is a normal landlord that dont live there.

This guy probably wanna sleep with all roommates.

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poppyfields
On 5/26/2020 at 12:21 PM, rjc149 said:

Yep. 

rjc, what is he trying to pull, other than the OP?  Is that what you meant?

I dunno, I don't see anything sinister here, he is attracted to you, found you on LinkedIn and messaged, asking if you'd like to have a drink. 

Personally, I'd be flattered and go, if just to see if something is there.  

Why are you so suspicious and distrustful? 

Serious question. 

 

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He's interested.  What harm would it do for you to meet him for a drink once it's safe to do so?  You can get a better read on him, his relationship with her & his motives.   

He didn't go through his roommate because he probably doesn't want her to know.  That may be because he's going behind her back but maybe they just don't have that kind of relationship & they really are just work colleagues & cohabitators.  

Either way a drink in a public place is what 1/2 hour / 45 minutes out of your life?  

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2 hours ago, poppyfields said:

rjc, what is he trying to pull, other than the OP?  Is that what you meant?

 

 

Yes.

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  • 3 weeks later...

He is clearly interested in you and has taken a risk by finding a way to contact you.

I think it's important you find out what the relationship is with him and his roommate.  I'm not sure I would take him at face value either unless they were both moving into separate places.

I don't see any harm in meeting him but tread carefully and make sure you know what the set-up is before you get more involved.  Don't give away your home address at this stage.  It sounds like he already has your surname.  If you are interested in him, just be cautious until you know the guy better.

 

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He's asking you out.  I'm not sure what you mean by "trying to pull something".  If you like him back, then you could take him up on the offer.  I don't see any reason to assume that he's being creepy or anything.

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