happybird Posted May 27, 2020 Share Posted May 27, 2020 (edited) I have dated with Ex one and half year, I am very clingy girl and he is very patient to me( mostly). And I am very attched to him, but something happed and he broke up with me. I reached him and he seems determined. I started to dating with others( just walk at park and accept further meeting too) but still missed him and crying every night. How can I move on? Thanks. Edited May 27, 2020 by happybird Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted May 27, 2020 Share Posted May 27, 2020 How long has it been since you broke up? Link to post Share on other sites
Author happybird Posted May 27, 2020 Author Share Posted May 27, 2020 Two months Link to post Share on other sites
Author happybird Posted May 27, 2020 Author Share Posted May 27, 2020 Being broken up with EX for months but still miss him. Crying every night and thinking about his treating me very well at many places( he is not perfect but what I can remember is all what he is so good to me in past one and half years): 1) I have a very stressful work and we do video chat every night for half hour( we don't live together). I always talked about my pressure about work and he always listen patiently. 2) I have a very tight schedule and mostly he arrange our activity according to my schedule( he is very flexible schedule). We drive to his place at Saturday and he will drive to my work place for a dinner during working days. 3) He is very honest. Always quick response to my message and calls. No delays than 24 hours. 4) He is very generous. I am not material girl but he pay most of dinner. But I buy some expensive gift to him to show my appreciation. 5) He is very clean. His apartment is organized and neaty. I missed him but I know I have to move in since he is very determined. Do you think I can find similar one in future? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted May 27, 2020 Share Posted May 27, 2020 Was he the one who broke up with you? If so, why? Link to post Share on other sites
Author happybird Posted May 27, 2020 Author Share Posted May 27, 2020 He think my communication with him is too emotional and we are not perfect match. That is his words. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted May 27, 2020 Share Posted May 27, 2020 Then you would do better to cease contact with him and give yourself a chance to heal. Keeping in contact with him knowing he doesn't want you back is keeping you in pain and not allowing you to move forward. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author happybird Posted May 27, 2020 Author Share Posted May 27, 2020 I stopped chasing him, I started to dating others. But still think about him and cryat night. Link to post Share on other sites
TeddyBundy1993 Posted May 28, 2020 Share Posted May 28, 2020 You are not ready to date as of now. You are too desperate to replace or get that same person back. It won't happen honey. Everyone is not same. Although I find the reason to break up very absurd and baseless sounds you both are immature with you having co dependency issues. I am not being judgemental but saying what I feel so, give yourself a chance to heal, accept what has happened and let the time do the work slowly you'll heal and move ahead in life. Dont be that harsh with yourself we all have flaws. Just take lessons from this relationship what went wrong work on yourself with what you feel was missing from your part. Good guys are hard to find but not all of them are dead. Cut contact with this man. You are not in a position to talk with him right now. You are not alone you know a lot of us have lost a great partner due to mistakes or simply misunderstandings. Treat it as a part of life, you will come out of it some day. Stay positive, and keep your head high. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author happybird Posted May 28, 2020 Author Share Posted May 28, 2020 Don't know it is right or not. Heard Ex was sick recently, can't help texting me that" if you need help, just call me or text me". He replied" thanks". Still worry about him because he is introvert person and usually never ask for help to anyone. So I bought some facemask and toilet paper, and put at his front door and left. I guess this stuff hard to buy for him and just want to give him in case that he need it. Am I too pushing him and let him feel I am chasing and bothering him? I texted him that “ I put something at your front door in case that you need it. I do it as a friend. “ He did not reply yet. Don't mean to get him back, just want him feel warm and recover soon. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted May 28, 2020 Share Posted May 28, 2020 That was kind of you, but you need to step back and leave him alone now. His silence is your cue that he doesn't really want you to help him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author happybird Posted May 28, 2020 Author Share Posted May 28, 2020 Update: he just replied" thank you". I replied" you are welcome, hope you recover soon" Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted May 28, 2020 Share Posted May 28, 2020 3 hours ago, happybird said: Update: he just replied" thank you". I replied" you are welcome, hope you recover soon" That is called "breadcrumbs" Don't make a meal out of it. Clearly, he knows your number and no longer initiates using it. Let that be your guide when you're wondering if you should contact him again. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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