UnknownFella Posted May 28, 2020 Share Posted May 28, 2020 My partner and I have been dating for 6 years on and off, broke up around 3 times in total. We casually dated again seeing if it would ever work, I think it was more just being comfortable with one another. Before we got more serious about dating again I had told her that during our break ups I did sleep with other people and that I was sorry for lying and keeping it from her , she was more angry than upset as she claimed she was loyal to me for 6 years straight. I felt there was a burden on me, the guilt I felt certainly weighed tonne. She went on acting that I was a really bad person for never telling her. I spoke to a friend and told her my situation and how I could slowly gain my partners trust back. She suggested that my partner was lying to me about being "loyal" for 6 years. I obviously objected to that thinking why would she lie to me after displaying her anger about my past. I started becoming curious , I had asked her if she had been with anyone and then replied saying yes a guy a month ago but it was literally nothing. I shrugged it off and my guilt slightly lifted. Weeks onwards the guilt started creeping again, I asked her again and then she said guy number 2. I got upset for her lying but i couldn't say anything as I had no leg to stand on. I got more curious and ended up snooping on her phone which I totally regret doing so. I seen a few messages saying she had slept with 4 guys in 2 weeks and that she thinks she was pregnant with one of the 3 guys. At that time, she told me that I got her pregnant but to her friends she had no clue who the actual father was. I confronted her about this and she denied everything saying I made it up. Turns out there was a pattern, every time she thought she fell pregnant and said it was mine she had already slept with other guys. I feel ultimatly crap being in a relationship with her. We now have a child together under a year old, I know the past is the past. But I just found out all of this just right before our child was born. I just can't hack her past and not carry on being with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted May 28, 2020 Share Posted May 28, 2020 1 hour ago, UnknownFella said: My partner and I have been dating for 6 years on and off, broke up around 3 times in total. We casually dated again seeing if it would ever work, I think it was more just being comfortable with one another. Before we got more serious about dating again I had told her that during our break ups I did sleep with other people and that I was sorry for lying and keeping it from her , she was more angry than upset as she claimed she was loyal to me for 6 years straight. I felt there was a burden on me, the guilt I felt certainly weighed tonne. She went on acting that I was a really bad person for never telling her. I spoke to a friend and told her my situation and how I could slowly gain my partners trust back. She suggested that my partner was lying to me about being "loyal" for 6 years. I obviously objected to that thinking why would she lie to me after displaying her anger about my past. I started becoming curious , I had asked her if she had been with anyone and then replied saying yes a guy a month ago but it was literally nothing. I shrugged it off and my guilt slightly lifted. Weeks onwards the guilt started creeping again, I asked her again and then she said guy number 2. I got upset for her lying but i couldn't say anything as I had no leg to stand on. I got more curious and ended up snooping on her phone which I totally regret doing so. I seen a few messages saying she had slept with 4 guys in 2 weeks and that she thinks she was pregnant with one of the 3 guys. At that time, she told me that I got her pregnant but to her friends she had no clue who the actual father was. I confronted her about this and she denied everything saying I made it up. Turns out there was a pattern, every time she thought she fell pregnant and said it was mine she had already slept with other guys. I feel ultimatly crap being in a relationship with her. We now have a child together under a year old, I know the past is the past. But I just found out all of this just right before our child was born. I just can't hack her past and not carry on being with her. Maybe you shouldn't have hacked her past Link to post Share on other sites
Author UnknownFella Posted May 28, 2020 Author Share Posted May 28, 2020 7 hours ago, Realitysux said: Maybe you shouldn't have hacked her past Yeah I totally know that, as I mentioned I regretted even doing it. I had friends and family warning me about going back to her. It was eating away at me and wanted answers but instead the answers took a toll on me. I would say it's my first time being properly hurt. Maybe I took her for granted for a long time. Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted May 28, 2020 Share Posted May 28, 2020 Get a DNA test on the kid. Never feel badly for protecting yourself from a lying, cheating significant other. Your own transgressions set up her false bravado and that's on you. She has established a pattern that you will contend with as long as you are with her and your own running around has allowed her to do so without a blemish on her conscience. If the child isn't yours then get out even if you have jump from the second story window. 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author UnknownFella Posted May 28, 2020 Author Share Posted May 28, 2020 4 hours ago, schlumpy said: Get a DNA test on the kid. Never feel badly for protecting yourself from a lying, cheating significant other. Your own transgressions set up her false bravado and that's on you. She has established a pattern that you will contend with as long as you are with her and your own running around has allowed her to do so without a blemish on her conscience. If the child isn't yours then get out even if you have jump from the second story window. The child is mine for obvious reasons skin colour, characteristics etc. She never cheated I guess it's just when I spoke the truth I kinda expected the same back. I have also read texts like "I can be a real horny girl" "I had sex with him like 4 times" when I asked her about those texts she said she was lying to her friends to act like she was over me and that she texted a guy who she slept with and didn't act "horny". She made a statement that she never moaned or orgasmed with no other guy which just makes me feel like she more a off liar and painting more of a vivid image in my mind which I hate. Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted May 28, 2020 Share Posted May 28, 2020 Your life and your choice. Just remember that cheaters lie. Link to post Share on other sites
usa1ah Posted June 3, 2020 Share Posted June 3, 2020 Your a chump. She is lying. She cheated on you multiple times. DNA the kid to prove me wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
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