STINE Posted May 28, 2020 Share Posted May 28, 2020 I have been with my african boyfriend for 10 months now and i wonder about letting him go. We met online, he lived in a rented room some hours away from me and didnt have work. I helped him fix everything about work, registrations and with some money. I found a work for him here and ask him to move in with me after some months. His words was sweet when he was online but i found out he was lying about many things, about how many kids he have, previous marriage, he blocked me in fb so i wouldnt find out things about him, before he moved in i saw he wrote love you and miss you to someone he knew and she is from same village in his country. She is married. He Said he will Block her and that he only had her in fb. 3 months later i saw she wrote to him in WhatsApp and he Said he didnt remember she was there and blocked her. And recently i found out he tried to call her that same evening!! I also saw he talked with other but Said its Just friends... I didnt trust him so i looked at him from outside when he though i was not home 2 months ago and i saw he wrote to many others, even tried to videocall, and said he wanted to meet sometimes, and that he is a single father etc. I was shocked and i confronted him later. He was so angry, Said i hacked his phone and threw my phone in the wall. He didnt wanna buy a New phone for me so i had to do it myself. He have obligations in his homecountry, house, childsupport, and he find things here to send and sell in his country and i drive him around. He never pay for anything, saying he will do it later, and i start getting financial problems. He say he dont remember to say he love me and its ok for him if i dont say it too. He dont show me much love, he say that is not his lifestyle. And he never compliment me, but he can write to other woman happy birthday pretty damsel. He say he dont have to compliment me because he live with me and have sex with me, and that should say enough!!! He dont hold my hand, he insult me when he is angry and that is often and dont wanna tell in social media that he is in a relationship. On valentinesday i asked Nice if he will not say happy valentinesday to me and he got very angry and it resulted in a big fight! He have a very hot temper when i try to talk with him. He never care about my feelings and never talk to me when im sad and cry, and that is very often. When i wanna talk about feelings and relationship he is not interessted to hear how i feel because he say i only complaing about him and he ignore me. So im talking with myself and its very frustrating. He ignore me every time. When i cry he just dont care and sleep. He say im troublesome in relationship and only want to argue. But he get it all wrong, i Just want to feel loved... I know i should let him go but i love him 🙄 is it me who is stupid and demand too much or is he Just using me? Doesnt feel like he really love me. I start to wonder if its me who is wrong? Link to post Share on other sites
Author STINE Posted May 28, 2020 Author Share Posted May 28, 2020 Well, now when i read what i wrote i feel very stupid 🤦♀️ and this is not even half of it 🥺 3 Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted May 28, 2020 Share Posted May 28, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, STINE said: Well, now when i read what i wrote i feel very stupid 🤦♀️ and this is not even half of it 🥺 Start paying attention to people around you. I would bet my wife's money that there is some guy out there that is just looking for some encouragement, except that your focus is on someone who is using you. Open yourself up again. Reset and make another choice. Edited May 28, 2020 by schlumpy 2 Link to post Share on other sites
oldtruck Posted May 28, 2020 Share Posted May 28, 2020 should i? you should of never let him into your life. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted May 28, 2020 Share Posted May 28, 2020 He's a con. He conned you, and other women. I worked with a guy just like him...he was from Kenya, had a wife on the other side of the country with kids (needed to get his green card right?), left her, came here and located an over weight lonely desperate girl that was on welfare. He moved with her, she supported him while he looked for a job. He got fired, he ditched her, leaving her with bill collectors phoning her and my company! Left town and started the process again with some lonely desperate for love girl. You got suckered. Kick him to the curb. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted May 28, 2020 Share Posted May 28, 2020 It's true that Africans and Jamaicans have no respect for American women. They think we are a bunch of whores and deserve to be conned and treated badly. They usually take the money they get from Americans and send it home to their women. One of my cousins was used by one of those guys and boy did he do a number on her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author STINE Posted May 28, 2020 Author Share Posted May 28, 2020 Thanks so much for the reply's, Well seems like it ends of "itself" now. He came home and i asked why he ignored me again, and i said, are you not that into me? He answered; i dont know. And after that he ignored me again. It's enough now, i told him to move out 😱 its so hard but i know its the right thing 💔 3 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted May 28, 2020 Share Posted May 28, 2020 7 hours ago, STINE said: Well, now when i read what i wrote i feel very stupid 🤦♀️ and this is not even half of it 🥺 what are you going to do to correct your problem? Link to post Share on other sites
Rockdad Posted May 29, 2020 Share Posted May 29, 2020 Do you think he will leave that easily ? Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted May 29, 2020 Share Posted May 29, 2020 Have some friends nearby when he moves out and the police on speed dial. Link to post Share on other sites
Amethyst68 Posted May 29, 2020 Share Posted May 29, 2020 Don't change your mind when he starts playing nice and love bombing you - and he will. Protect yourself! Link to post Share on other sites
Fox Sake Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 On 5/28/2020 at 6:06 PM, STINE said: Thanks so much for the reply's, Well seems like it ends of "itself" now. He came home and i asked why he ignored me again, and i said, are you not that into me? He answered; i dont know. And after that he ignored me again. It's enough now, i told him to move out 😱 its so hard but i know its the right thing 💔 Well done you! Seriously - well done. that took an amazing amount of strength. You’ll reap the rewards for it soon enough 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted June 2, 2020 Share Posted June 2, 2020 it's been almost a week...so how are things going? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted August 10, 2020 Share Posted August 10, 2020 OK now it's been 2 months..... Link to post Share on other sites
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