Journeytothecastle Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 My wife and I have been together just about 4 1/2 years now. But, we have known each other since we were very young children we grew up in the same neighborhood. Over the first year of us dating the passion is very intense but we always had other issues pushing against Blossom in love. Such as financial issues and little did she know I had a huge uncomfortability with living in the same town around so many people she used to date or mess with. That is something I should’ve let be known but I would just push it to the back of my mind. Because I am no saint, After we got about a year and a half into our relationship we ended up getting engaged and then about six months after getting married. Ever since we’ve been married things seem to have just gotten worse. She tells me endlessly that she feels empty unhappy and misunderstood. Along with feeling alone and now a new issue we are facing is thatThrough her bisexuality that she has those in her life now she has the urge to want to take on another partner. A female I believe but sometimes when she talks about it I’m not sure. It is stressful to deal with because since the beginning of us getting together we have been very close and up until this last year we were inseparable. But last year we went through an abortion in our relationship, it was no one’s fault there were just complications during the pregnancy but it led to us separating for the first time almost immediately after the process. And I feel like things have only gotten worse since then, we ended up moving to Virginia and have separated multiple times while We were here. Every time we separate it is her leaving sometimes without me even knowing. But when we get back around each other she always tells me that she loves me and is very loving in her actions and has always been loving throughout the relationship. I have never been on the forum before so maybe I’m not expressing my heart ache or confusion as thoroughly as I should but I hope My message is being conveyed. I want to save my marriage and she seems like she does as well, most days. But then other days she just seems totally done with the situation and it is hard on me emotionally because I am either in love with you or I’m not there’s really noMiddle ground with me and it seems like she wants me to shut my love on and off every other day. I’m not even sure How to end this, definitely just need some advice. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted May 31, 2020 Share Posted May 31, 2020 If she's left multiple times, I'm afraid to say that she does not want to be married anymore. I would also question where she is when she leaves, as it sounds like she might already be exploring other partners. You need to put your foot down and stop tolerating this nonsense. She's either in, or she's out. Not back-and-forth. You can't live like this. And yes, it might mean the end of your marriage. But honestly, I'm not sure this marriage is going to survive anyway. I think she will wind up leaving for good once she meets someone who she wants to date more consistently. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 31, 2020 Share Posted May 31, 2020 The break up make up cycle shows that you need to be done. She wants something you can't give her -- a woman. she is not committed to remaining faithful to you but she does care about you on some level. Just end it. If you do it now you have some chance of it not being too messy 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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