Confusedgirldating Posted June 4, 2020 Share Posted June 4, 2020 I have been dating this guy for nearly 12 weeks. I feel like I am falling in love with him and feel like I should tell him this is how I am feeling, as I am usally a pretty open person and tell him everything else, I just feel like telling him could scare him off and make him run for the hills. I am quite new to dating and even in the past I have never really dated. Any help on weather I should tell him would be greatly appreciated Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted June 4, 2020 Share Posted June 4, 2020 Expressing your feelings is good, but you have to be ready to handle how you will feel if he doesn't return the feelings or gets scared off. I would probably suggest just telling him you really enjoy being with him, or some similarly more moderate sentiment to start out. See how he responds to that. You're still in the "crush" stage of the relationship, so strong feelings are normal. But not always long-lived. Enjoy the feeling, but don't run with it quite yet. How does he act with you? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted June 5, 2020 Share Posted June 5, 2020 Every guy is a bit different and there's no telling how he will react. Your ages may be a factor as I think there's a tendency for an older, more experienced male to recognize this as too soon/just unicorns and rainbows whereas a younger guy might be more likely to reciprocate, or at least not be a bit put off. But really there's no telling. Some guys might see you as needy and decide to end it, while others might be skeptical but roll with it, and still others might "dive right in" and decide to open up to you more fully emotionally. While you may simply be being honest, IMO this is rolling the dice. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Blind-Sided Posted June 5, 2020 Share Posted June 5, 2020 Yes... as mark said... it's rolling the dice. With that said... I'm the kind of guy who sais what he feels. And, I want to know what "She" feels. With the exW... I was the one who said it first... and as I recall... it was soon after we were actually dating. (a couple months) But there was also several months that we knew each other. (in college at the time) With some of my other GF's, they said it first, and I was more reserved until the time was right, or until I knew their feelings were true. So... if you feel he is very into you... then just test the waters by saying... "I think I'm starting to feel strongly about you"... or something like that to gauge his response. But to blurt out... "I love you"... then he may get spooked. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Pumaza Posted June 5, 2020 Share Posted June 5, 2020 just asl him how he feel about you,and what are his plans with you. then say what you feel and want. even if he says the oposite of what you want. accept it. and move on.you should know what he wants. otherswise you may waste alot of time while he not really into you. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 5, 2020 Share Posted June 5, 2020 Being blunt & direct here is your enemy. Instead you need to be less of an open book. Be more circumspect. Be coy. Use cagey phrases like "I think I'm falling in love. . " Don't go all in at first & give yourself room to pull back if he looks askance Link to post Share on other sites
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