SDBA Posted June 5, 2020 Share Posted June 5, 2020 I filed for divorce from my spouse after he cheated multiple times. He recently moved in with his girlfriend and her 3 kids. I had the divorce papers drafted stating i didnt want anything from him. No alimony, no anything. Just wanted to keep my house and car. He in turn came back with demands for every cent he spent on our lives together while we were married. Than tried to threaten me with lieu of suing me for every penny he spent while we were married (he neglected to state that he just started working last year and the majority of the money was spent supporting himself), that he would just ask for a small sum of of a couple of thousand. When i refused to give him money, he than made up some trumped up criminal accusations that had no basis and no evidence. He has made all kinds of accusations and statements that were untrue that i have disproven with documentation. This only causes him to become nastier. He has made all kinds of demands and It makes no sense to me. He cheated and he moved out and he is acting like he was the injured party. He has obviously moved on so i dont see why he is dragging this out. It has been months and there are no kids in this marriage. He is also due to have the conditions of his green card removed which he got through our marriage. I am not sure if i was conned or if he is really just this horrible of a person. I have anxiety, i cant sleep and i am constantly stressed. I have PTSD so this causes everything to be heightened. Anyone have any advice on how to get through this? Link to post Share on other sites
Author SDBA Posted June 5, 2020 Author Share Posted June 5, 2020 Also i would like to add that i am a medic student and that we were only married for less than 2 years. So while he was working i was working a full time.job and going to school. Now he is trying to say he is due alimony. He has more money than me so not too sure how he figures i owe him anything. Its literally one thing after another. Link to post Share on other sites
ThePhoenixStillRises Posted June 7, 2020 Share Posted June 7, 2020 I think he is angry at you for failing for divorce and is trying to manipulate you into caving to his demands. Divorce law is different everywhere...so I can't really speak to his or your rights. But I know where I live that I was married for 18 years and would have only been eligible for 4 years of alimony payments if I would have pursued it, which I did not. That means a two year marriage where I am at probably would not get any alimony. There is a calculation that the courts use. I am sorry that your ex is putting you in this position...it's difficult to deal with someone being like that. Does he even have a lawyer? I think you were very fair in what you walked away with and obviously whoever drafted your agreement must have felt so as well. Threats are just that if he can't really legally support them...you need to remember that. Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted June 7, 2020 Share Posted June 7, 2020 On 6/5/2020 at 5:34 PM, SDBA said: This only causes him to become nastier. He has made all kinds of demands and It makes no sense to me. He cheated and he moved out and he is acting like he was the injured party. He has obviously moved on so i dont see why he is dragging this out. It has been months and there are no kids in this marriage. He is also due to have the conditions of his green card removed which he got through our marriage. I am not sure if i was conned or if he is really just this horrible of a person. I have anxiety, i cant sleep and i am constantly stressed. I have PTSD so this causes everything to be heightened. Anyone have any advice on how to get through this? He is following a tried and true strategy: The best defense is a good offense. Go after him with every legal weapon you possess and destroy him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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