Malin889 Posted June 8, 2020 Share Posted June 8, 2020 15 hours ago, gamon said: Move to an area where polygamy is legal and you've got the best of both worlds. Spend the night with whomever you feel like at that particular moment. Remember, this isn't about what THEY want. You're joking, right? lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Malin889 Posted June 8, 2020 Share Posted June 8, 2020 15 hours ago, Purepony said: we broke up and she started seeing someone else I had started seeing the gir with the kid. The other one couldn’t go through with the wedding and she reached out. I think I should have said no but for whatever reason I didn’t and now I’m here thinking about the other one but I map everything out... I’ll sell the cars, I’ll sell the house I’ll move and reset but I can’t make the first move to even get started and meanwhile I’m still with my ex of ten years comfortably but I have my moments where I just really really emotionally break I wouldn’t marry both there’s no way that would work I don’t really know wat either woman saw I’m me they’re both attractive women with the exception of one being academically accomplished and everything going for he while the other has some baggage but she’s also attractive just understand me better but physically I can proceed with the ten year one I just freak out when she talks about moving in and stuff etc with the other it was A yes I want to explore all of those things like moving in and being omtogether but maybe looking back it’s her son that holds me back .... I really didn’t like the kid even though we got along and he admired me but I still don’t know if it’s in me to care for someone else’s child no matter what I think I’ll have some permanent damage After reading your follow-ups... first off, in the title, you say, "when will this hell end"? Why is this hell? If I had to choose between 2 men, I would think that wouldn't be a bad place to be in. However, my advice is, after reading all this, can you be alone? You're with someone who you're only lukewarm about. If you really love her, set her free. She deserves better. As for the other girl you can't stop thinking about... she may not even be interested anymore, but after you set this other woman free (don't cheat again, please), only then reach out to the other girl to see if she's interested. But be prepared that she might not be. You did up and leave her for someone else. She deserves better as well. This is actually what I think you should do: Be single for awhile. Treat women with respect. It's not fair to either one of them for you to go back and forth between them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Malin889 Posted June 8, 2020 Share Posted June 8, 2020 16 hours ago, Gr8fuln2020 said: I missed where this woman with whom he is currently cohabitating, was engaged. Wow. I knew a woman who was in a 10-year, on and off relationship. Abusive. They had developed a co-dependent relationship. That co-dependency was so strong, she effed-up a good relationship with another guy because she could't completely let go of her past relationship. She ended up losing a lot more... I wonder... Agree! I feel so bad for this woman. And now she's stuck in a lukewarm relationship with OP. She deserves better. Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted June 8, 2020 Share Posted June 8, 2020 What are your hopes for the long term? Admittedly I am not up to date on your threads, but unless things have changed significantly, you live with your parents and have challenges maintaining a job. Maybe it's time to be on your own for a while and figure out how to live your adult life. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted June 8, 2020 Share Posted June 8, 2020 Is monogamy really your thing? Did you not have 5 women all on the go at the same time not that long ago, Mar19? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Purepony Posted June 8, 2020 Author Share Posted June 8, 2020 7 hours ago, NuevoYorko said: What are your hopes for the long term? Admittedly I am not up to date on your threads, but unless things have changed significantly, you live with your parents and have challenges maintaining a job. Maybe it's time to be on your own for a while and figure out how to live your adult life. Im confused ? I have my own house and a few cars, I don’t live with my parents Link to post Share on other sites
Author Purepony Posted June 8, 2020 Author Share Posted June 8, 2020 6 hours ago, elaine567 said: Is monogamy really your thing? Did you not have 5 women all on the go at the same time not that long ago, Mar19? Yes I did but I was single and dating nothing serious and out of the five my ex came back I had been on my own without contact for almost six months when she reached out Link to post Share on other sites
Author Purepony Posted June 8, 2020 Author Share Posted June 8, 2020 9 hours ago, Malin889 said: After reading your follow-ups... first off, in the title, you say, "when will this hell end"? Why is this hell? If I had to choose between 2 men, I would think that wouldn't be a bad place to be in. However, my advice is, after reading all this, can you be alone? You're with someone who you're only lukewarm about. If you really love her, set her free. She deserves better. As for the other girl you can't stop thinking about... she may not even be interested anymore, but after you set this other woman free (don't cheat again, please), only then reach out to the other girl to see if she's interested. But be prepared that she might not be. You did up and leave her for someone else. She deserves better as well. This is actually what I think you should do: Be single for awhile. Treat women with respect. It's not fair to either one of them for you to go back and forth between them. I know she’s still interested we have a few mutual friends and it’s hard to explain but we just have this magnetism. I’m pretty sure if we run into each other we’ll just fix things but when I’m on my own I physically can’t make a move to reach out Theres something holding me back ... could be the kid or the baggage she cons with I don know Link to post Share on other sites
Author Purepony Posted June 8, 2020 Author Share Posted June 8, 2020 (edited) 9 hours ago, Malin889 said: After reading your follow-ups... first off, in the title, you say, "when will this hell end"? Why is this hell? If I had to choose between 2 men, I would think that wouldn't be a bad place to be in. However, my advice is, after reading all this, can you be alone? You're with someone who you're only lukewarm about. If you really love her, set her free. She deserves better. As for the other girl you can't stop thinking about... she may not even be interested anymore, but after you set this other woman free (don't cheat again, please), only then reach out to the other girl to see if she's interested. But be prepared that she might not be. You did up and leave her for someone else. She deserves better as well. This is actually what I think you should do: Be single for awhile. Treat women with respect. It's not fair to either one of them for you to go back and forth between them. What do yuh mean ? she did do better she went off and got engaged and I never once reached out then she reached out and I guess I shouldn’t have gotten involved but I did and now we’re here, she left the other guy and I left a good relationship with many issues but I can’t seem to let go Edited June 8, 2020 by Purepony Link to post Share on other sites
Author Purepony Posted June 8, 2020 Author Share Posted June 8, 2020 On an interesting note all weekend I was playing a script in my head to break up with the current girl but odd enough I forgot the girl with the kid no waking up with her on my mind no thinking or wondering what she’s doing or how she’s doing no missing her ..... that’s new and startling Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 17 hours ago, Purepony said: Im confused ? I have my own house and a few cars, I don’t live with my parents Sorry. I had you confused with a different pony. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Purepony Posted June 9, 2020 Author Share Posted June 9, 2020 2 hours ago, NuevoYorko said: Sorry. I had you confused with a different pony. No problem we’ll on another note I’m still in the same place except now I vaguely think about the other girl. I guess after so much thinking and thinking it’s finally ending... maybe she was just a rebound or even a fling? I’m going to stay busy and see what happens but thanks to everyone who posted and I hope you are all doing well Link to post Share on other sites
Malin889 Posted June 14, 2020 Share Posted June 14, 2020 On 6/9/2020 at 3:31 PM, Purepony said: No problem we’ll on another note I’m still in the same place except now I vaguely think about the other girl. I guess after so much thinking and thinking it’s finally ending... maybe she was just a rebound or even a fling? I’m going to stay busy and see what happens but thanks to everyone who posted and I hope you are all doing well So you are going to stay with the girl you are with now? You seem like you change your mind a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Purepony Posted June 14, 2020 Author Share Posted June 14, 2020 Hi there I’m currently trying to see how it goes with my current gf interesting enough I did have a dream about the other girl (with kid) hmm ... I still miss her but I’m a strange distant other part of the world kind of way but it’s only been almost a month. I really think if I feel this way at three months I’ll just go see her even if it’s for closure or maybe to get back anything can happen Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted July 10, 2020 Share Posted July 10, 2020 (edited) You don't sound in love with either and def' not with your gf now. But not with the other one either , not really. look at it this way , if they were both drowning and you could well drown and die too trying to save one of them , which one would you risk your life for ? Or maybe you wouldn't go that far for either . Edited July 10, 2020 by chillii Link to post Share on other sites
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