Boyfriend isn't '100 percent happy' and he doesn't know why....

[Vitaminka]

I believe, you are going to unravel a lot more about this guy if you choose to dig dipper. What you've discovered so far is likely  just a tip of the iceberg. You are probably be saying things like:"Wow, who is this guy, I've dated for two years? I never knew him at all. He lived to me about many things."

Not quite relevant to your post but one time I went on a date with a guy who was talking rather fondly of his FWB (talking non stop about her).It appeared that he would drop anything and anybody just to be with her. I asked him, why he is not seeing her more or dating her since he loves her so much. His response? Well, she is married and doesn't want to change things. Perhaps the same applies to your BF? He thought that he had a chance with another woman and she turned him down. Things didn't work out, so now he is pulling all the stops to be with you.  
 

Edited June 15, 2020 by Vitaminka

[ExpatInItaly]

1 hour ago, Vitaminka said:

I believe, you are going to unravel a lot more about this guy if you choose to dig dipper. What you've discovered so far is likely  just a tip of the iceberg.

I agree. 

I don't believe his timeline. I think it was much more recent than the claims, or that this woman has recently been back in his life in some way.  Or, that she's been in his life sporadically from the first time he had sex with her last year until now. It doesn't make sense that he's been keeping it a secret for more than a year and only recently randomly started having doubts about you. Many cheaters will only admit little bits and pieces, but my strong suspicion is that there is a whole lot more he is not telling you. 

I'm sorry, girl. This guy is awful. He's been hiding his infidelity for who knows how long, told you his recent strange behaviour was because he felt guilty about his ex and general doubts about you, and tried to get you to see a house with him?

I would be done. Absolutely. He is not the man you thought he was, and should you stay, you will likely slowly uncover whatever else he's been hiding from you. What you know is almost certainly not all there is to know. 

 

[healing light]

This doesn't sound good. The cheating happened a year ago yet he started playing hot and cold the last few months? I feel like maybe someone threatened to reveal his escapades or something else developed in that period with another woman. There's always the remote chance he had a random pang of consciousness....but why a full year later with no trigger when it was clear he had gotten away with it? Doesn't add up to me.

I have extended family who is a cop. He gets ribbed by some other cops as whipped because he has stayed loyal to his marriage. There can be plenty of opportunities for shenanigans.

[Negotaurus]

He is still hiding something, be kind to yourself and let go.. This will feel like you are being dragged through the mud. 

Edited June 16, 2020 by Negotaurus

[HadMeOverABarrel]

Wow, I'm sorry this happened to you. (Why do I want to call you BabyCakes? Wierd.)  Anyhow, love yourself. I believe he's shown his true colors and will do it again. If you forgive him, he will lose respect for you and take it as your compliance to do it again, even if it's years later. You deserve better. You are at a good age to have lots of prospects. Chalk this one up to a learning experience. I know that's much easier said than done. Do whatever you need to do to heal and move on. Big hugs! ❤