Ruby Slippers Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 (edited) 24 minutes ago, thefooloftheyear said: It kinda surprises me that women still play this dumb game....If you want it, go after it... Every man I've dated who had women chasing him admitted to me that while the attention is nice, those women never hold his interest for long. One of my brothers who had just about every woman in town chasing him told me the same thing. It's the rare ones who don't chase them that really intrigue them. Men tend not to value women who fall in their laps. Edited June 9, 2020 by Ruby Slippers 3 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 Regarding chasing: There are extremes ends to the concept. And one end, there's aggressive CHASING and at the other, there's sitting on a throne waiting to be wooed. I would say that the most successful women are those who make their interest known...but not in a desperate way. They are confident enough to initiate but won't beg. 4 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 Just now, Ruby Slippers said: Every man I've dated who had women chasing him admitted to me that while the attention is nice, those women never hold his interest for long. It's the rare ones who don't chase them that really intrigue them. Men tend not to value women who fall in their laps. Nah....that's BS, IMO... They probably just told you that to placate you....Just think about it for a minute....Why would ANY guy that has regular quality female attention, then say to himself..."nah...this is just too easy, I think I will do OLD and play that dumb cat and mouse game"...or chase some woman that is going hot and cold and expecting me to jump hoops for her....I mean, maybe those particular guys you were talking to were getting attention from low quality women, but most low quality women wont bother with higher level guys...unless they enjoy getting used... Let's face it....Women put FAR more effort and attention into dating/romance than men do....Make life easy for a guy in this area and its all good...🙂 TFY 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 (edited) 2 hours ago, Hopeful30 said: Common misconception. Highly attractive and desirable women are seldom approached because men automatically assume she's already taken. It's the highly desirable and attractive women who stay on the market the longest. More unhelpful self talk from you. There are a lot of men out there who are quite comfortable moving in on another man's territory. Even in my ordinariness, I've had men try to steal me away, knowing that I'm taken. That said, those guys aren't keepers The women who stay on the market the longest aren't there because of something that men are doing wrong. If you truly believe that men won't initiate because you're so beautiful and therefore taken, then let them know you're single. Edited June 9, 2020 by basil67 3 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 (edited) Ruby, I didn't interpret TFY's comment "go after it" to mean "chase" him. Smile when you see a man looking your way, look approachable, be open, start a conversation, flirt a little in your own subtle feminine way. That's going after it too, always worked well for me! So often I read about women looking away when they see a man looking, or having that "bytchface" look or whatever it's called, being too afraid to start a simple convo with a man while in a group setting. Afraid they may appear too forward or desperate, I've read this! And then wonder why that can't meet any good quality guys they're attracted to. Edited June 9, 2020 by poppyfields 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Fox Sake Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 23 minutes ago, Ruby Slippers said: Every man I've dated who had women chasing him admitted to me that while the attention is nice, those women never hold his interest for long. One of my brothers who had just about every woman in town chasing him told me the same thing. It's the rare ones who don't chase them that really intrigue them. Men tend not to value women who fall in their laps. That’s true. I back your statement. I’m guilty of that yet I’ll still string them along for a while cos the game is fun 😕 But it’s just an ego boost really. Probably just because I’m from a fresh gene pool in a very diluted area! Apart from one girl one time. .... my ex actually. When you meet someone and you think you’re both punching and can’t get enough of each other. It’s a good thing. Don’t screw it up and think you can do better. Rare as rocking horse s*** 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 (edited) 25 minutes ago, thefooloftheyear said: They probably just told you that to placate you I doubt it. My brother was like a dad stand-in, enjoyed telling me the cold hard truth about life so I'd be better-informed. My boyfriends have tended to be the same way - straight shooters who tell it like it is. My brother had all the cute popular girls chasing him. Prom queens, cheerleaders, etc. Hell, they'd often take me out to lunch and stuff trying to butter me up to get more details on how to win over my brother. He knew it was futile, but enjoyed me getting the attention from older girls, so just smiled and let it go on. It may be that some in-demand guys kick back and take what comes to them - but my brother and most of the men I've dated weren't like that. Sure, they'd date them and have fun with them. But they didn't see them as long-term or marriage material. They were too easy. Their attitude was that the best women don't have to pursue men. Rather, they select from the many men who pursue them, and those are the women they want. Edited June 9, 2020 by Ruby Slippers 3 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 So between what TFY and Fox says, it's apparent that "not all men are the same". Who would have thought😆 5 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 (edited) Could be it be, perhaps, that different men like different things? It’s possible that not all men are the same. Haha Basil jinx Edited June 9, 2020 by Cookiesandough 4 1 Link to post Share on other sites
miranda561 Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 26 minutes ago, thefooloftheyear said: Nah....that's BS, IMO... They probably just told you that to placate you....Just think about it for a minute....Why would ANY guy that has regular quality female attention, then say to himself..."nah...this is just too easy, I think I will do OLD and play that dumb cat and mouse game"...or chase some woman that is going hot and cold and expecting me to jump hoops for her....I mean, maybe those particular guys you were talking to were getting attention from low quality women, but most low quality women wont bother with higher level guys...unless they enjoy getting used... Let's face it....Women put FAR more effort and attention into dating/romance than men do....Make life easy for a guy in this area and its all good...🙂 TFY I've heard the same from men. If women make it too easy, they find it funny almost but wont see it as a long term prospect. I think a woman going after a man aggressively or not..but just always making the moves. Its a psychological thing, he will at one point be like why is she so forward, and verging on desperate. Eventually her value will decrease. If hes a sane man that is. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Fox Sake Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 26 minutes ago, thefooloftheyear said: Nah....that's BS, IMO... They probably just told you that to placate you....Just think about it for a minute....Why would ANY guy that has regular quality female attention, then say to himself..."nah...this is just too easy, I think I will do OLD and play that dumb cat and mouse game"...or chase some woman that is going hot and cold and expecting me to jump hoops for her....I mean, maybe those particular guys you were talking to were getting attention from low quality women, but most low quality women wont bother with higher level guys...unless they enjoy getting used... Let's face it....Women put FAR more effort and attention into dating/romance than men do....Make life easy for a guy in this area and its all good...🙂 TFY I think you‘ve made some very good points in some of your comments and they have been well written , but this comment leads me to believe you aren’t in that situation yourself , or you would know fine well what she was saying is absolutely how it is. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Fox Sake Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 2 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Could be it be, perhaps, that different men like different things? It’s possible that not all men are the same. Haha Basil jinx Ain’t that the truth Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 Again it’s aspirational dating. The guys that are 9s are chased by women 8 and below but aren’t interested in them. They’re busy chasing 10s, but will end up settling down with a fellow 9. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 Just now, miranda561 said: I've heard the same from men. If women make it too easy, they find it funny almost but wont see it as a long term prospect. I think a woman going after a man aggressively or not..but just always making the moves. Its a psychological thing, he will at one point be like why is she so forward, and verging on desperate. Eventually her value will decrease. If hes a sane man that is. What's with the insult towards men who do things which don't affect you? Anyway, I know plenty of happily married couples where she certainly held up her end of the deal in terms of being proactive. 3 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 1 minute ago, Fox Sake said: Ain’t that the truth Which means that TFY's experience, while different to yours, is still valid. Link to post Share on other sites
miranda561 Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 (edited) 1 minute ago, basil67 said: What's with the insult towards men who do things which don't affect you? Anyway, I know plenty of happily married couples where she certainly held up her end of the deal in terms of being proactive. Its not an insult. Its a fact. Holding her end of the deal is different to chasing a guy. Edited June 9, 2020 by miranda561 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Fox Sake Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 Just now, basil67 said: Which means that TFY's experience, while different to yours, is still valid. I never said it wasn’t ! Not once. We are just different people 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 Just now, miranda561 said: Its not an insult. Its a fact. No, it's a judgement call. Facts do not exist in social science. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 1 minute ago, Fox Sake said: I never said it wasn’t ! Not once. We are just different people You told TFY that he doesn't know how it is. Link to post Share on other sites
miranda561 Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 Just now, basil67 said: No, it's a judgement call. Facts do not exist in social science. How is it judgemental. When I've seen it with my own eyes. Its called reality love! Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 10 minutes ago, miranda561 said: Its a psychological thing, he will at one point be like why is she so forward, and verging on desperate. Eventually her value will decrease. If hes a sane man that is. LOL "Facts" are never presented with "... be like why..." Link to post Share on other sites
Fox Sake Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 (edited) 6 minutes ago, basil67 said: You told TFY that he doesn't know how it is. What I insinuated was that we are two different people. He called BS on Ruby’s post . If he had done the same shameful thing as I tend to do then he could relate. Therefor leading me to the conclusion that he didn’t get it. does that clear it up? Edited June 9, 2020 by Fox Sake Irrelevant to the post 3 1 Link to post Share on other sites
miranda561 Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 2 minutes ago, SincereOnlineGuy said: LOL "Facts" are never presented with "... be like why..." Doesn't matter what you say. Its still a fact. Whether presented in the best way or not to a petty person. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 Just now, miranda561 said: Doesn't matter what you say. Its still a fact. Whether presented in the best way or not to a petty person. And yet, facts still do not exist in social science. 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
miranda561 Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 Just now, basil67 said: And yet, facts still do not exist in social science. Ok whatever you say. Link to post Share on other sites
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