Deleting my dating profile and settling for the next guy I date.

[miranda561]

13 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

ryan Reynolds isn’t conventionally handsome at all. His eyes are way too close together and odd face shape  to be conventionally handsome. Not that that means he’s a bad looking guy. Obviously sinvse a lot of women(and apparently men) find him attractive. Just a zillion other dudes I’d choose before him if I had a choice . It’s subjective 

Exactly this 

[Cookiesandough]

Good looking is in the eye of the beholder 😌 I’d honestly take a young buscemi over him haha

[miranda561]

3 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

I see what you’re saying but not finding someone attractive or not doesn’t change just bc they are a celeb. There are a ton of famous guys I’m sure we’d trip out panties for. All we’re saying is RR is not one of them.  A person can be out of your league and you can still not be attracted to them. 

Cookie. Who do you like out of interest. From  the celeb world

[Cookiesandough]

Just now, miranda561 said:

Cookie. Who do you like out of interest. From  the celeb world

 Chris hemsworth 😍 you??

[thefooloftheyear]

2 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

Good looking is in the eye of the beholder 😌 I’d honestly take a young buscemi over him haha

Shh...You hear that sound??

You just talked a thousand ugly assed guys right off the ledge...🤣

TFY

[rjc149]

10 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

I see what you’re saying but not finding someone attractive or not doesn’t change just bc they are a celeb. There are a ton of famous guys I’m sure we’d trip out panties for. All we’re saying is RR is not one of them.  A person can be out of your league and you can still not be attracted to them. 

I think the implication here is that celebrity and fame aside, just purely on looks, a normal guy at work, or at school, or at the bar etc. who looked like Ryan Reynolds would be "meh" to you. If he came up to you and started chatting you up, you'd shut him down because he wasn't doing it for you in the looks department. It's an implication which I find hard to believe. 

But maybe the fact that I find him handsome is a personal "preference" -- maybe it has a lot to do with the fact that I have no interest in his penis, I can simply note that he's good looking, and that's as far as my critique of him goes. I suppose that critique isn't as simple for women, there's more nuance to it. 

Edited June 10, 2020 by rjc149

[miranda561]

13 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

 Chris hemsworth 😍 you??

Cam gigandet....and logan Marshall  green. If you know who they are  😂😂

Both of them starred in the oc ( which i loveedddd)

Oh and tom hardy ain't  too bad

Edited June 10, 2020 by miranda561

[mark clemson]

@Hopeful30 I only skimmed through this thread due to the large # of posts, so not sure what other points were made or if mine already was. Like a previous poster mentioned, I've also heard about the scientific study on "settling" as how many families get made. However, I'd point out that settling means settling for pretty good (rather than "perfect") which doesn't entail just accepting the next marginally acceptable person who's willing to raise a family.

Suggest you maintain some reasonable standards to help keep yourself reasonably happy, rather than risking regretting this in 10 years and divorcing with young children or similar. I think you can carry this out while also being savvy about it (and should be savvy about it if you're going to do it).

[poppyfields]

1 hour ago, rjc149 said:

 I doubt any woman here would pass up Ryan Reynolds because they were holding out for better. 

If I met and felt a connection with him (above and beyond physical appearance) it's possible I might then find him appealing.

But based on looks alone (which I tend to not do anyway as I personally need that mutual energy to start something going), nah he's too "pretty boy" for me.  😛

I used to work in NYC in entertainment and guys like him are a dime a dozen. 

Never did anything for me, pretty boy model types just aren't my type.

I like "edgy," not classically handsome but handsome "to me," but I'm a bit weird so don't go by me.  Xd

Edited June 10, 2020 by poppyfields

[Cookiesandough]

5 minutes ago, miranda561 said:

Cam gigandet....and logan Marshall  green. If you know who they are  😂😂

Both of them starred in the oc ( which i loveedddd)

I had no idea who they were! That show was a little before my time..

 

oh and a caveat: Chris hemsworth as fat Thor in End Game... xD 

[miranda561]

1 minute ago, Cookiesandough said:

I had no idea who they were! That show was a little before my time..

 

oh and a caveat: Chris hemsworth as fat Thor in End Game... xD 

The oc before your time? I was a kid when it was on lol

.its not that old

[miranda561]

4 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

I had no idea who they were! That show was a little before my time..

 

oh and a caveat: Chris hemsworth as fat Thor in End Game... xD 

How old are you cookie?

[rjc149]

3 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

If I met and felt a connection with him (above and beyond physical appearance) it's possible I might then find him appealing.

But based on looks alone (which I tend to not do anyway as I personally need that mutual energy to start something going), nah he's too "pretty boy" for me.  😛

I used to work in NYC in entertainment and guys like him are a dime a dozen. 

Never did anything for me, model types just aren't my type.

I like "edgy," but I'm a bit weird so don't go by me.  Xd

Yes I could see you going for the brooding artist types 😍

I was just remarking on the fact that I believe Ryan Reynolds would meet the minimum looks threshold for the 99.99% majority of women in terms of his romantic potential. I think the other women here are getting a little carried away with the whole gossipy "ewwwwww Ryan Reynolds! No way! Tee hee hee!" 

[Fox Sake]

1 hour ago, miranda561 said:

You sound it 2bh. And obviously you can't swear here without being sanctioned. 

As for the 2nd paragraph no i don't. If that's how you feel youre being overly sensitive, whilst im lightly debating sometimes.

Why are you taking everything as if im attacking you personally. Calm down. This is just how it looks from the outside. And you don't  sound bitter when you say im not smart and I'm not  emotionally mature. Its laughable😂.

Maybe deep down you know what im saying is facts. 

 

 

I was going to point out the posts where you contradicted your later posts and then accused me of doing exactly what you yourself had just done, 

but I’ll give you what you’re after instead. .cos the former brings no benefit but to serve my own needs to prove a point. 
 

 I’m not overly sensitive. Just disappointed with what you think you know by saying “you didn’t love her”  
here is why you’re wrong;

people can love someone and still not think it’s right to be with that person for whatever reason. I’ve had it done to me , I’ve done it someone else
 

I know you want to hear me say I didn’t love her. So it can tie in your conception.  
There’s more to the story than that tho. My ex was disabled. She suffered a stroke after a  Car accident that left her without the use of one leg (before we met) . I tried very hard to rehab her and she didn’t want to. She was unable to do certain activities with me that were a major part of my life.  Wasn’t a big deal until further down the line when she moved in. I’m a country boy and she was a city girl so there was the first hurdle. It made life very difficult for her. She got lonely and felt trapped in the middle of no where. 
 

One member of my family told me it was holding her back, and myself ..  I distanced myself from her, broke up with her and thought I could find someone more compatible. Realised it was the wrong thing to do and by then it was too late. 
 

So please , next time you’re going to assume that all men are the same and everything follows a pre conceived rule of social science , it doesn’t. 
 

Im actually more upset than anything else Miranda. I’ve remembered how awful I was. And although I forgave myself for it , I’m in no way proud to even be admitting any of this, I feel like a crap person. . Doesn’t do me any favours at all apart from show people what an asshoke I was at that time. I hope that thought either brings you joy or sadness, but either way, we look at the world through different eyes you and me 

Edited June 10, 2020 by Fox Sake

[poppyfields]

17 minutes ago, rjc149 said:

Yes I could see you going for the brooding artist types 😍

Actually, you're pretty much spot on about that.

Not totally brooding, but deep, introspective, reflective. Yeah definitely.

I do like a great sense of humor too though and a bit of banter.  

I have all that now (bf is a photographer/musician lol); took awhile to find and we had a bit of a rough start but worked though and it's all good now. ❤️

 

Edited June 10, 2020 by poppyfields

[miranda561]

15 minutes ago, Fox Sake said:

I was going to point out the posts where you contradicted your later posts and then accused me of doing exactly what you yourself had just done, 

but I’ll give you what you’re after instead. .cos the former brings no benefit but to serve my own needs to prove a point. 
 

 I’m not overly sensitive. Just disappointed with what you think you know by saying “you didn’t love her”  
here is why you’re wrong;

people can love someone and still not think it’s right to be with that person for whatever reason. I’ve had it done to me , I’ve done it someone else
 

I know you want to hear me say I didn’t love her. So it can tie in your conception.  
There’s more to the story than that tho. My ex was disabled. She suffered a stroke after a  Car accident that left her without the use of one leg (before we met) . I tried very hard to rehab her and she didn’t want to. She was unable to do certain activities with me that were a major part of my life.  Wasn’t a big deal until further down the line when she moved in. I’m a country boy and she was a city girl so there was the first hurdle. It made life very difficult for her. She got lonely and felt trapped in the middle of no where. 
 

One member of my family told me it was holding her back, and myself ..  I distanced myself from her, broke up with her and thought I could find someone more compatible. Realised it was the wrong thing to do and by then it was too late. 
 

So please , next time you’re going to assume that all men are the same and everything follows a pre conceived rule of social science , it doesn’t. 
 

Im actually more upset than anything else Miranda. I’ve remembered how awful I was. And although I forgave myself for it , I’m in no way proud to even be admitting any of this, I feel like a crap person. . Doesn’t do me any favours at all apart from show people what an asshoke I was at that time. I hope that thought either brings you joy or sadness, but either way, we look at the world through different eyes you and me 

Whatever way you feel now. Imagine how she would  have felt at the time...in essence breaking up with her due to her disability n grass is greener n all that.

 But i guess at the very least you do feel terrible about it. And there are others who wouldn't  even look back or care. 

I just conduct myself with integrity always (may be hard for you to believe) . And have a very strong  sense of right and wrong.  Maybe  i judge people sometimes because they can't/don't  live up to the same standards. 

Anyway all that  asides, maybe i was a bit blunt. 

[basil67]

53 minutes ago, enigma32 said:

Or, maybe they really are that picky, which would explain why they are single. 

Dating is the used car lot of life.   A car which is never bought is either asking too much or is faulty.  Or both. 

[Hopeful30]

10 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Dating is the used car lot of life.   A car which is never bought is either asking too much or is faulty.  Or both. 

Is this how you viewed your partner when you met? Or yourself when you were single?

[basil67]

Neither hubby or I are the kind to miss out on a great person because of aiming for perfection.   For what it's worth, I'm taller than hubby

Edited June 10, 2020 by basil67

[CaliforniaGirl]

1 hour ago, enigma32 said:

Or, maybe they really are that picky, which would explain why they are single. 

I'm not single.

[basil67]

1 minute ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

I'm not single.

But what you wanted was attainable.   You're not chronically single

[Fox Sake]

Just now, basil67 said:

Of course I didn't.  Aiming for the impossible is not my style. 

 Interesting quote none the less . Never heard it before.  I can probably relate to both the faults and the high asking price, but that’s what you get with a custom build 🤣

[Hopeful30]

10 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Neither hubby or I are the kind to miss out on a great person because of aiming for perfection.   For what it's worth, I'm taller than hubby 

May you find ways to soothe this anger you hold, basil. I, too, am a woman who has experienced roaring pain. Hang in there 🙏

P.S. I've noticed that you edit your posts from angry to passive aggressive. 

Edited June 10, 2020 by Hopeful30

[CaliforniaGirl]

4 minutes ago, basil67 said:

But what you wanted was attainable.   You're not chronically single

Right. However, the post I was responding to intimated that those of us who don't think Reynolds is hot are too picky and that's why we're single.

I'm not single or incredibly picky just because I don't think that one actor is great-looking. 🤷 That doesn't even make any sense.

Once again women are being told by men what we really want and if we say we don't then we're either lying or mistaken. 😂

Edited June 10, 2020 by CaliforniaGirl
To, not too.

[basil67]

I'm not angry.  Just pointing out how dating works.   There are also gems in those used car lots - don't over look them.