basil67 Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 Just now, CaliforniaGirl said: Right. However, the post I was responding too intimated that those of us who don't think Reynolds is not are too picky and that's why we're single. I'm not single or incredibly picky just because I don't think that one actor is great-looking. 🤷 That doesn't even make any sense. Once again women are being told by men what we really want and if we say we don't then we're either lying or mistaken. 😂 Fair enough. Sorry I took it out of context. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hopeful30 Posted June 10, 2020 Author Share Posted June 10, 2020 2 minutes ago, basil67 said: I'm not angry. Just pointing out how dating works. There are also gems in those used car lots - don't over look them. What happened to me wanting perfection and trying to attain the impossible? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hopeful30 Posted June 10, 2020 Author Share Posted June 10, 2020 Just now, enigma32 said: If you have found who/what you are looking for, you are in a LTR or more, and you are both happy, then good for you! That's great. Really. My post is directed towards the people that are single and cannot seem to find someone, yet they think that a guy that is literally paid to be good looking, is not good looking enough for them. I see people like that all the time and they generally stay lonely. Just because you are paid to be good looking doesn't mean you magically become universally attractive to every single woman on the planet. It's not immune to differing tastes. 3 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 1 minute ago, basil67 said: Fair enough. Sorry I took it out of context. It's okay, this post is getting hard to follow. 😆 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 Whoa someone here clearly wants to have sex with Ryan Reynolds 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 Maybe you ARE Ryan Reynolds??? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 3 minutes ago, enigma32 said: If you have found who/what you are looking for, you are in a LTR or more, and you are both happy, then good for you! That's great. Really. My post is directed towards the people that are single and cannot seem to find someone, yet they think that a guy that is literally paid to be good looking, is not good looking enough for them. I see people like that all the time and they generally stay lonely. I know...and I see it too...not as much IRL but online...I get it. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 (edited) 1 minute ago, Cookiesandough said: Maybe you ARE Ryan Reynolds??? If I were Ryan Reynolds I'd hurry to get a Henry Cavill face transplant, just sayin'. Instantaneous upgrade from weirdo who gets the girl anyway to "how can this guy not be the love interest?" : D Edited June 10, 2020 by CaliforniaGirl Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hopeful30 Posted June 10, 2020 Author Share Posted June 10, 2020 3 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said: It's okay, this post is getting hard to follow. 😆 It went off topic several pages ago. 3 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 3 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Whoa someone here clearly wants to have sex with Ryan Reynolds Only the men do, what does that say??? Run, Ryan! 😂😂 (kidding tho) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 5 minutes ago, Hopeful30 said: What happened to me wanting perfection and trying to attain the impossible? Since writing that, you justified ditching a guy who was a few inches short and who hoped that fudging his height may get him a chance with you. You talk about ego and lack of compassion in the dating world, yet still justify doing the same thing as those you criticise. Perhaps this guy was worthy of love, but just not by you? Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 7 minutes ago, Hopeful30 said: What happened to me wanting perfection and trying to attain the impossible? I know, all of a sudden you're a Yugo. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 I'm sure she's not a Yugo. She would have been scrapped years ago Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 (edited) 3 hours ago, enigma32 said: I still can't get over all the ladies criticizing Ryan Reynolds a few pages back. Wow. You ladies really are unrealistic. Good looking guy charming, in great shape, millionaire, famous...he's got it all. He's also been tied to some of the most beautiful women around. Can y'all compete physically with Scarlet Johansson? I think I was wrong before. Some of you ladies really do need to settle if that guy ain't good enough for you. No, it simply demonstrates that there is no universal "not settling for" person or type. there just isn't. The idea that really, we'd all take movie stars of we could, is so silly. FWIW I've always thought Reynolds seemed like a real jerk (sorry, Ryan), like...douchey, unless that's just what he plays best which is possible. He is not sexy to me...at all. But if it makes you feel any better I wouldn't kick Chris Pratt out of bed for eating crackers. Or Sean Astin...yeah, really. (IF his personality also loosely matches the characters he plays...and it might not. Do you see what I mean now? Settling can mean a lot of things.) The idea that we all naturally want the same group of people - actors - and anything else is settling, is so odd. What if they're total jerks? What if they're awful in bed? What if they don't have a sense of humor? What if these rich hot celebs are racist and psychotic? (Hi, Mel Gibson.) Just...come on now, people...and BTW...these hot celebs age and get ugly too. (Hi again, Mel Gibson...) What then? If someone stays with them are they now settling even though they weren't before? Just so one-dimensional and untrue that it's all about looks and money. Edited June 10, 2020 by CaliforniaGirl 1 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 (edited) If someone said the guy has to look like Ryan Reynolds that argument would make more sense. Are you seriously attracted to everyone Hollywood labels hot and shoves down your throat ? I don’t know anyone who is - taken or single Pretty sure only Ryan Reynolds would get this defensive about people not finding him universally attractive. I’m onto you. 🧐 Edited June 10, 2020 by Cookiesandough 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 (edited) 5 minutes ago, enigma32 said: I will remember this the next time someone accuses a guy of waiting around for supermodels. 😁 Okay, but we've just heard on this thread (from the men) that men don't care if a woman is a success, if she's smart or funny or has her career or whatever I guess, because it is about looks...if she wants a chance she'd better wear something tight and put on more make up but of course that might not matter anyway because every year she's a year older...so... 🤷 Unless...hey, wait a minute. Unless these ridiculous truisms are bogus because people are all different? What..???? Oh nah...never mind...that's impossible. Edited June 10, 2020 by CaliforniaGirl 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 31 minutes ago, enigma32 said: I see it in person enough too. I've got friends that are perpetually single because of it. One of them just called me earlier, in fact. The guy hasn't had a real date in over 10 years and he turned a girl down today because she was annoying to him. He's a fat, broke guy who only seems to be attracted to thin women 10 years younger than he is. He will die alone. There are other people just like him. He's scared of something... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 1 minute ago, enigma32 said: What? That's preposterous! I would stay and debate you further but Blake...I mean my wife is calling me. Enigma is crushin' it. 😂😂😂 OMG that was funny. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 3 minutes ago, enigma32 said: Evidently, I am not attractive according to the ladies here, so I need to at least be funny. OMG...it is only you guys who think this dude is hot! 😂😂 Look. Don't worry about the Reynolds thing. As long as you're sort of a younger, tighter Hemsworth you're probably okay. Link to post Share on other sites
QuietRiot Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 10 hours ago, miranda561 said: Whatever i said is in relation to how various men I've crossed or know of have behaved. Your perspective is just one opinion of a certain type of man. Yeah...if FOTY is having such success... I am curious as to why he is a long time regular here. I mean, what's the attraction to dating and relationship sites if you don't struggle with dating and/or relationships? Link to post Share on other sites
miranda561 Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 1 hour ago, QuietRiot said: Yeah...if FOTY is having such success... I am curious as to why he is a long time regular here. I mean, what's the attraction to dating and relationship sites if you don't struggle with dating and/or relationships? Yeh exactly. But then again ..there are a lot of people here posting who are already in a relationship (who are happy) apparently. So who knows 🤔 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilie Jolie Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 25 minutes ago, miranda561 said: .there are a lot of people here posting who are already in a relationship That's a fair point. The 'dating game' or whatever, has changed dramatically over the last 15 years or so, so someone who hasn't had to date in a while will have a completely different experience to someone dating in this modern world of selfies, apps and relationships forming online. Observing it is different to experiencing it, I'm sure. It's not just a generational thing either. Even if the premise is the same (you meet, you like each other, you see how it goes), the ways in which people make connections is different - work relationships are more strictly defined, there is more awareness on personal safety, a lot less spontaneity, people are a bit more guarded now than they used to be, the work commutes are longer, you get instant access to more 'choices' on the swipe of a finger etc. Things have changed, basically. 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 1 hour ago, QuietRiot said: Yeah...if FOTY is having such success... I am curious as to why he is a long time regular here. I mean, what's the attraction to dating and relationship sites if you don't struggle with dating and/or relationships? I'm not having any relationship problems either but I'm here. It's my hang out place. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 2 hours ago, QuietRiot said: what's the attraction to dating and relationship sites if you don't struggle with dating and/or relationships? I came on a site like this years ago to ask some Qs. I found some nice people. When that site closed I found this one. I stuck around because even though my marriage is generally fine, I occasionally have other relationship concerns with friends, in-laws, colleagues etc. Plus as somebody who has been there, screwed that up, fixed it & moved forward, I think I have a valuable perspective to offer those who may still be struggling. I suspect other long time members / users feel the same way. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
miranda561 Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 (edited) 28 minutes ago, Emilie Jolie said: That's a fair point. The 'dating game' or whatever, has changed dramatically over the last 15 years or so, so someone who hasn't had to date in a while will have a completely different experience to someone dating in this modern world of selfies, apps and relationships forming online. Observing it is different to experiencing it, I'm sure. It's not just a generational thing either. Even if the premise is the same (you meet, you like each other, you see how it goes), the ways in which people make connections is different - work relationships are more strictly defined, there is more awareness on personal safety, a lot less spontaneity, people are a bit more guarded now than they used to be, the work commutes are longer, you get instant access to more 'choices' on the swipe of a finger etc. Things have changed, basically. Yeh exactly, you summed it up. So for those seeking advice, it would serve them well to take on board the experiences and advice of a wide range of people on here. If i give others advice and then am told i am wrong or my views are incorrect, it is wrong of the person ( other posters) to dismiss what i say. Since i'm currently in the dating scene now, i have very recent experience of men and how they behave and what they like or dont like. Granted these men are maybe significantly younger (in their 20s 30s). But still. Edited June 10, 2020 by miranda561 Link to post Share on other sites
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