4x4storm Posted June 13, 2020 Share Posted June 13, 2020 Hello Everyone, I'd like to seek advice before my girlfriend get's home from work. Last night before bed I was about to turn the lights out when I noticed a condom container left out on the floor next to the sex draw. We never use condoms anymore but it's from when we did. Didn't think anything of it and placed it back in the draw. After dropping my girlfriend of at work this morning I came home and noticed two condom packets open on the kitchen bench. I immediately got suspicious and went through all the bins and didn't find any condoms. The thing to keep in mind is I emptied all the bins and cleaned the apartment on Thursday and found the condom container on the floor Friday night and found the open packets Saturday morning. This tells me if anything happend it would have been Friday. On Friday I left for work before she did and I also got home before she did. She came home a bit later that night but her story seems to match up. I'm really confused at this point... Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted June 13, 2020 Share Posted June 13, 2020 I know it's awkward, but just ask her about them. She may have a simple explanation (no clue what that would be). But ask and see what her reaction is. If she acts uncomfortable then you'll probably need to dig further. But to start - just ask. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Poutrew Posted June 13, 2020 Share Posted June 13, 2020 1 hour ago, FMW said: I know it's awkward, but just ask her about them. She may have a simple explanation (no clue what that would be). But ask and see what her reaction is. If she acts uncomfortable then you'll probably need to dig further. But to start - just ask. Hmmm... let's see. She was invited to a sudden bachelorette party Friday night and thought it would be cool to bring a couple condom balloons along as a gift for the lucky bride, or: she was showing a young cousin how to apply a condom to a banana for safe sex, or how about: she has a sausage making machine, and didn't have any pig intestine to form said sausages with, so she used a condom instead...The truth is usually not so funny: she had sex Friday night, and just got lazy or overlooked sweeping up the wrappers... You mentioned you never use condoms anymore. Perhaps it would be wise to start back up if you choose to keep her around. At any rate, let us know what she says. If you need any moral support we'll be here. Good luck. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 13, 2020 Share Posted June 13, 2020 It seems odd, if she were cheating, that she'd leave condom wrappers literally lying out in the house. And two of them? Just ask... Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted June 13, 2020 Share Posted June 13, 2020 Usually the biggest mistake a betrayed SO makes is to confront without overwhelming evidence. It's too easy for a practiced cheater to lie their way out and go underground making it tougher to catch them. In your case though I have to side FMW an CG: ask about it. She would have to be really dumb to leave such obvious evidence for you find. Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted June 13, 2020 Share Posted June 13, 2020 LOL what explanation could there possibly be other than the obvious one? She was making balloon animals out of condoms? If it's not from the two of you, then SOMEONE had sex in your house and it wasn't you. Confront her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted June 13, 2020 Share Posted June 13, 2020 (edited) Is this a rental? If it is, someone like the landlord has access. I would be thinking someone else has been there. Does someone like her friend or a family member have a key? Has she recently moved in there? Maybe an ex has a key or a previous tenant. Edited June 13, 2020 by smackie9 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted June 14, 2020 Share Posted June 14, 2020 Try asking her. Is she the type to lie about things? How did you two get together and was she with someone else that she left for you? Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted June 14, 2020 Share Posted June 14, 2020 (edited) It’s very suspicious. Not one, but two. I don’t know what that means. People don’t even use thosexD Edited June 14, 2020 by Cookiesandough Link to post Share on other sites
usa1ah Posted June 17, 2020 Share Posted June 17, 2020 On 6/12/2020 at 8:55 PM, 4x4storm said: Hello Everyone, I'd like to seek advice before my girlfriend get's home from work. Last night before bed I was about to turn the lights out when I noticed a condom container left out on the floor next to the sex draw. We never use condoms anymore but it's from when we did. Didn't think anything of it and placed it back in the draw. After dropping my girlfriend of at work this morning I came home and noticed two condom packets open on the kitchen bench. I immediately got suspicious and went through all the bins and didn't find any condoms. The thing to keep in mind is I emptied all the bins and cleaned the apartment on Thursday and found the condom container on the floor Friday night and found the open packets Saturday morning. This tells me if anything happend it would have been Friday. On Friday I left for work before she did and I also got home before she did. She came home a bit later that night but her story seems to match up. I'm really confused at this point... Why are you confused? She used 2 condoms with someone that wasn’t you. There is nothing confusing about it. Did you ask her about it? Link to post Share on other sites
Interstellar Posted June 17, 2020 Share Posted June 17, 2020 (edited) the good part is she’s using protection. the bad part is they’re not yours. tell her you’re going away for one night then wait, then go back. you just need concrete evidence right? and whatever you do, don’t ever, ever grab a deer rifle or do something stupid. there are tons of women out there willing to have high interest level in you. it’s better you find this sooner rather than later when you have three kids and a 30 year mortgage. Edited June 17, 2020 by Interstellar 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted June 22, 2020 Share Posted June 22, 2020 On 6/12/2020 at 6:55 PM, 4x4storm said: Hello Everyone, I'd like to seek advice before my girlfriend get's home from work. Last night before bed I was about to turn the lights out when I noticed a condom container left out on the floor next to the sex draw. We never use condoms anymore but it's from when we did. Didn't think anything of it and placed it back in the draw. After dropping my girlfriend of at work this morning I came home and noticed two condom packets open on the kitchen bench. I immediately got suspicious and went through all the bins and didn't find any condoms. The thing to keep in mind is I emptied all the bins and cleaned the apartment on Thursday and found the condom container on the floor Friday night and found the open packets Saturday morning. This tells me if anything happend it would have been Friday. On Friday I left for work before she did and I also got home before she did. She came home a bit later that night but her story seems to match up. I'm really confused at this point... well it's been over a week...what's the verdict OP. Link to post Share on other sites
Cali4Dude Posted June 28, 2020 Share Posted June 28, 2020 On 6/13/2020 at 1:55 AM, 4x4storm said: Hello Everyone, I'd like to seek advice before my girlfriend get's home from work. Last night before bed I was about to turn the lights out when I noticed a condom container left out on the floor next to the sex draw. We never use condoms anymore but it's from when we did. Didn't think anything of it and placed it back in the draw. After dropping my girlfriend of at work this morning I came home and noticed two condom packets open on the kitchen bench. I immediately got suspicious and went through all the bins and didn't find any condoms. The thing to keep in mind is I emptied all the bins and cleaned the apartment on Thursday and found the condom container on the floor Friday night and found the open packets Saturday morning. This tells me if anything happend it would have been Friday. On Friday I left for work before she did and I also got home before she did. She came home a bit later that night but her story seems to match up. I'm really confused at this point... Trust your gut and go ahead and confront her. As I found out the hard way recently, your instincts are probably correct. Link to post Share on other sites
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