datingvirgin Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 Met him on a dating app, video call and met twice in a park casually. He started calling me almost 3 times a week recently and I like him too. We went out to a fancy dinner place and he paid for the entire dinner. I found out that we work for the same company. He is in a junior position than I am. So I insisted on paying half the bill as my share but he paid he paid the entire bill. He was also very thoughtful and got cookies for my kids future birthday. Anyway I have 3 drinks and spent until 2 am at the restaurant. I did move close to his chair as the night passed by, thought he would get the hint to kiss? Nothing.... He dropped me where I parked and nothing again .....just a hug. Did I make him nervous when I offered to pay? He didn't really compliment me or anything. He did mention that it has been 6 years since he was in a relationship. He told me she broke his heart. or maybe he is being cautious! So ladies and gentlemen, let me ask, we are going on another date again but damn if he doesn't kiss me again, what else can I do to strongly hint without having to actually grab him and kiss lol I'm fully aware of how this sounds like which is why I want to clarify I'm only interested in LTR.
Miss Spider Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 I have been in your position and of course you can but do this first : Make a triangle from eye to eye to mouth to back to eye with your eyes. Then look back into his eyes and hold eye contact with them slowly back down to lips. 4
Author datingvirgin Posted June 13, 2020 Author Posted June 13, 2020 hahaha I will try..sounds like I will do this and laugh while doing it... Guess what I did though I drunk texted that he didn't kiss me. Of course I have to embarrass myself where is the fun is not doing that! I need help
Haydn Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 Of course! I was almost suffocated yesterday when i cooked the perfect vegan meatballs. 4
nospam99 Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 (edited) Just grab ... by his shoulders ... at six inch distance ... with a slight smile, a slight tilt to your head, and eye contact. Say something about how much you enjoyed the date and want to do it again. If HE doesn't kiss YOU at that point, he's gay :p Edited June 13, 2020 by nospam99 1
Gaeta Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 Say something like right now would be the perfect time for you to kiss me. 1 1
princessaurora Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 I initiated the first kiss with my husband. I kind of had to because I had a boyfriend at the time and I told him I could only hang out with him if he promised not to kiss me. So he didn't, but he did lean over and small my perfume which drove me nearly insane. About 10 seconds later, my lips were on his. lol Just make your signals as clear as possible, eye contact, smiling, touching his arm. If he likes you, as long as he's not too shy, this should give him the confidence to kiss you. If he still doesn't but you're getting all the signs he's interested, I would kiss him on the cheek and see how he reacts. He'll most likely go in for the kiss right after. If he doesn't, but you're still getting clear signs he likes you, he's probably shy and needs a little nudge. At that point, I would escalate to a soft kiss right on his lips and let him take it from there. Good luck:) 1
simpycurious Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 It happens more than you may realize.....sometimes out of the blue with mixed reviews I might add
simpycurious Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 13 hours ago, datingvirgin said: Met him on a dating app, video call and met twice in a park casually. He started calling me almost 3 times a week recently and I like him too. We went out to a fancy dinner place and he paid for the entire dinner. I found out that we work for the same company. He is in a junior position than I am. So I insisted on paying half the bill as my share but he paid he paid the entire bill. He was also very thoughtful and got cookies for my kids future birthday. Anyway I have 3 drinks and spent until 2 am at the restaurant. I did move close to his chair as the night passed by, thought he would get the hint to kiss? Nothing.... He dropped me where I parked and nothing again .....just a hug. Did I make him nervous when I offered to pay? He didn't really compliment me or anything. He did mention that it has been 6 years since he was in a relationship. He told me she broke his heart. or maybe he is being cautious! So ladies and gentlemen, let me ask, we are going on another date again but damn if he doesn't kiss me again, what else can I do to strongly hint without having to actually grab him and kiss lol I'm fully aware of how this sounds like which is why I want to clarify I'm only interested in LTR. I am so glad that he PAID FOR THE ENTIRE DINNER..........he may indeed be nervous or "out of practice". He seems like a good guy he may just need a little encouragement 1
poppyfields Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 (edited) 10 hours ago, Cookiesandough said:Make a triangle from eye to eye to mouth to back to eye with your eyes. Then look back into his eyes and hold eye contact with them slowly back down to lips. That sounds so contrived. Spontaneity is best imo, don't plan it or how to do it, when you feel like kissing him, just kiss him! The element of surprise is so fun and can be quite intriguing. Edited June 13, 2020 by poppyfields 1
simpycurious Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 ^^^ Wow.........some just get it. OP, you may end up HAVING to make the first move.
d0nnivain Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 You also have to think Covid might be holding him back. Swapping spit with a new person sounds very risky right now, no matter the attraction. 1
Lotsgoingon Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 (edited) I wouldn't initiate a kiss because I see other red flags here. First, he mentions that he hasn't dated for six years on account of a woman breaking his heart. Am I right about that? Red flag. We all get our hearts broken in love and dating at some point. Was he a victim of intimate-partner violence? Was he battered and left with PTSD? I don't mind someone who simply says hey, just haven't met anyone to date seriously in a while ... or I've been going to night school and taking care of my aging parents or whatever. But not dating for heartbreak usually means the person isn't healed and isn't even on the path of healing. We all have heartbreak and couples get to each other's heartbreak stories in due time. But that's a no-no for first date. When people out that "I was hurt" energy on a first date, that's a problem--because you will be tempted to try to reassure him. No, he a big boy. He has to reassure himself. Trying to reassure others is a fool's errand. The relationship becomes imbalanced from the start--because the person reassuring will tend to neglect their own desires in order to make the other person feel secure. Another red flag: you felt ready for a kiss and positioned yourself to signal for him to kiss and he missed it. Also, he didn't compliment you?Well, did he make clear through his smile and energy that he was having a blast with you? If the answer is anything other than a loud 150 percent yes, then you want to back off. He needs to step up and show interest. Reading between the lines here, you might have signaled interest without getting a sign of interest from him. When you're connecting with someone on a good level, moving close and all of that will naturally happen. A woman doesn't have to purposely signal things. The fact that you consciously signaled for him to kiss tells me this date wasn't all that good in the first place. Edited June 13, 2020 by Lotsgoingon 2 1
mark clemson Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 In answer to your basic question (per the title): yes. 2
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 3 hours ago, Gaeta said: Say something like right now would be the perfect time for you to kiss me. I love this!! 1
RecentChange Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 Sure women can make the first move for a kiss. Once I said "if there weren't so many people around I would kiss you" he whispered "you can kiss me" and it was on. I initiated the first kiss with my husband. It was the end of the night, we were sitting on a bench and I could tell he really wanted to (but honestly I think a bit intimidated), so I leaned in for the kiss. Honestly it has never crossed my mind that because I am a female, that I couldn't do what felt right at the time. 5 1
Happy Lemming Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 Many years ago, I was working on this "fixer-upper" house and I guess my neighbor noticed me working on the roof or in the yard. (She was divorced). Any how, she came over and asked if I could fix a few minor items her home (nothing major). So I went over with some basic tools and took care of it. When I finished she kissed me and said she had been wanting to do that for a long time. I kissed her back and we made out for a little while. The next night she invited me over for dinner, after dinner we were sitting on the couch and I initiated a kiss and things went great from there. I ended up spending the night. We were together for about 6 months until I moved away. But yes... I thought it was very hot that she initiated our first kiss. 1
Ellener Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 4 hours ago, princessaurora said: I initiated the first kiss with my husband. I kind of had to because I had a boyfriend at the time and I told him I could only hang out with him if he promised not to kiss me. we don't make things easy for one other do we
introverted1 Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 17 hours ago, datingvirgin said: I found out that we work for the same company. He is in a junior position than I am Could this be part of his reticence? Some people avoid office romances and it sounds like you two didn't know you worked for the same company prior to your date. He may also feel self-conscious about being junior to you.
princessaurora Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 45 minutes ago, Ellener said: we don't make things easy for one other do we I know, right? I was trying to be a good girl.
Ami1uwant Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 I have no problem if women show something that they are interested. It doesn’t have to be a kiss. It could be something like touching or holding hands. how did he react to finding out you worked together and you were higher ranked. This is something that coukd concern him with company harassment policy. 2
Lotsgoingon Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 Yes Amiluwant, I also wondered if he was intimidated by her higher job position.
Interstellar Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 Well, if the woman has high interest level in the guy then yes, she can give the guy mouth to mouth resuscitation. 1
Alexa 95 Posted June 14, 2020 Posted June 14, 2020 22 hours ago, datingvirgin said: Met him on a dating app, video call and met twice in a park casually. He started calling me almost 3 times a week recently and I like him too. We went out to a fancy dinner place and he paid for the entire dinner. I found out that we work for the same company. He is in a junior position than I am. So I insisted on paying half the bill as my share but he paid he paid the entire bill. He was also very thoughtful and got cookies for my kids future birthday. Anyway I have 3 drinks and spent until 2 am at the restaurant. I did move close to his chair as the night passed by, thought he would get the hint to kiss? Nothing.... He dropped me where I parked and nothing again .....just a hug. Did I make him nervous when I offered to pay? He didn't really compliment me or anything. He did mention that it has been 6 years since he was in a relationship. He told me she broke his heart. or maybe he is being cautious! So ladies and gentlemen, let me ask, we are going on another date again but damn if he doesn't kiss me again, what else can I do to strongly hint without having to actually grab him and kiss lol I'm fully aware of how this sounds like which is why I want to clarify I'm only interested in LTR. I've never initiated a kiss and probably wouldnt. But that's just me The man has always been the one to grab me lol You could give him little signals and hope he does. Or just plant one on him 1
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