How does women view (new/potential) relationship after experiencing ?

[Pulasari]

Dear Loveshack Community,

First of all, I would like to thank everyone for making this a constructive and educative platform. Learned a lot from here.

I (single/never married/never in any serious relationship before - still working on that due to my upbringing) was recently in contact with a woman who... eventually did not share the same "romantic" feeling as me (still moving on). She's a divorcée, and I am interested to learn more and understand her/women's point of view on relationship after experiencing separation/divorce.

Questions:

1. How do women view relationship after separation/divorce?
2. What are the "to do list" a single/never married man has to aware, understand and do when approaching a divorced woman?
3. How do a divorced woman view a relationship with a single/never married person?
4. What are her (general) expectations in her future relationship?
5. What triggers a divorced woman to settle down once more?

Thank you very much for your attention and your assistance on this matter.

Have a nice day!

[FMW]

There are no set answers to your questions.  All divorced women are not the same, their experiences are not the same, their needs and desires are not the same.

For your own sake, I would not recommend dating recently (within the past year) divorced women, it generally takes a while to transition emotionally from being married to being single again and you don't want to be that transition person.  

Treat a divorced woman like any other woman - only spend time and effort on a woman who shows interest in you, don't try to figure out how to change her mind or wait around hoping things will be different.  

[Pulasari]

Dear @FMW

Understood.

I did asked her about her previous relationship, and she was reluctant share. It was my mistake for not thinking through when I asked her that sort of like question.

I read a few articles on this topic and got some insights, and she did mentioned something like parent-children relationship. I believe that she was traumatised through that experience. I really need to set my mind, to really move on (subcontiously, I'm still 'up there' and I need to get my feet back on the ground).

Thank you for your recommendation, I will keep that in mind.

[basil67]

11 hours ago, Pulasari said:

1. How do women view relationship after separation/divorce?
2. What are the "to do list" a single/never married man has to aware, understand and do when approaching a divorced woman?
3. How do a divorced woman view a relationship with a single/never married person?
4. What are her (general) expectations in her future relationship?
5. What triggers a divorced woman to settle down once more?

Ok, here is an answer from one divorced woman who has remarried.  Please note that my answers may not apply to anyone else.

1. A fresh start

2. I can't think of any examples

3. I can't think of any examples

4. That I would have something which is a lot better than the previous failed marriage.

5. Finding the right guy.

[ShyViolet]

No one here is going to be able to answer those questions.  People are individuals, not science experiments to be studied and to find the "correct answers".  Any answers to those questions would be generalizations.

[smackie9]

It has nothing to do with her being divorced....she's a woman that wasn't interested in dating you pure and simple.