I asked my fwb if he wanted to like hang out/hook up this week and he replied, nah.

[Azincourt]

For sure. I'm watching The Place Beyond the Pines and I'm thinking the guy looks like a dreamboat in that movie. In every movie he plays, really. I'm pretty envious of how good-looking he is.  Eric Bana kinda looked older in Black Hawk Down. In Troy he looks like late 20s, in Black Hawk down he looks like he's almost 40. Still hot, but that curly long hair and super muscular build got me wishing I had that greek god body of his not gonna lie. Yes, Josh Hartnett has always been a cute guy.

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"Nah" is just so disrepectful. Even if one of my friends said it to me, I'd drop them. Move on OP!

What?

you invited the guy over, OP, and he only said ''nah'' to your invite and left it at that?

Jesus at least he could come up with an excuse. Cut off this guy from your life. There's lots of hot guys out there that, even if they might be too busy or not in the mood for a hook-up, will at least care about your feelings.

Edited June 22, 2020 by Azincourt

[salparadise]

10 hours ago, thefooloftheyear said:

Newsflash......Men turn down easy pussy....who'd have thunk it???

I know its hard for some women to comprehend, but just because a guy doesn't accept a lay down offer, doesn't make him weird, gay, stupid,  or anything else...

By definition, men that women are willing to do FWB with will probably have options, because they're equally appealing to other women as well. What women seem not to understand is that when they zoom in on a sexually desirable target, the supply-demand equation is often reversed. Even if he's not off chasing someone else, he just doesn't view easy pussy as as the opportunity of a lifetime... he may have been hungry and decided to make himself a hamburger.

 

[Cookiesandough]

The thing is even pretty  attractive guys do jump on the opportunity to be fwb with much less attractive women and jump at requests for sex from them every single time. This guy is just not that into /attracted imo . Get a new fwb

Edited June 22, 2020 by Cookiesandough

[Bluesky00]

57 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

The thing is even pretty  attractive guys do jump on the opportunity to be fwb with much less attractive women and jump at requests for sex from them every single time. This guy is just not that into /attracted imo . Get a new fwb

Come to think of it, I’m over reacting about why he I didn’t respond to the v picture. Usually he doesn’t “respond” to pictures anyway. Last time I told him I wanted to wear a sexy outfit for him and he wanted me to send him some pics which I did , he didn’t respond to those I know he saw them, then the next day he wanted me to send him a pic of my booty, he didn’t respond to those either. Even if he didn’t respond to pics, he still wanted more. And he did still reach out to me later on to hook up even though he didn’t respond to my pics.

I’m just over analyzing his nah response. He probably doesn’t feel like it this week, and at this point he is in control and he will reach out when he wants to. And this isn’t the first time he’s said no actually, other times he’s said he was busy that night or that he couldn’t. 

[Bluesky00]

1 hour ago, Cookiesandough said:

The thing is even pretty  attractive guys do jump on the opportunity to be fwb with much less attractive women and jump at requests for sex from them every single time. This guy is just not that into /attracted imo . Get a new fwb

You must never had gotten laid or have never remotely had a fwb. Attractive guys will go over after attractive women. Not sure where you heard attractive guys going after ugly, fat, trash, missing teeth women. Just like any other fwb, it may have run it’s course and they don’t last forever. I’ve had plenty of f-buddies. Yes, can’t you read? I’m looking for a new boy toy. DUH

Edited June 22, 2020 by Bluesky00

[Cookiesandough]

Whoa, not nice. I read a lot on here and other places men will date down for easy sex. It’s a common phenomenon that is talked about all the time. Not saying that is necessarily what happened in your case, just that it happens a lot, so hot guys are in abundance and this guy does not seem interested. Don’t know why you insulted  me... Was just giving my advice on a dating advice thread ! All the best, anyway 

Edited June 22, 2020 by Cookiesandough

[CaliforniaGirl]

37 minutes ago, Bluesky00 said:

You must never had gotten laid or have never remotely had a fwb. Attractive guys will go over after attractive women. Not sure where you heard attractive guys going after ugly, fat, trash, missing teeth women. Just like any other fwb, it may have run it’s course and they don’t last forever. I’ve had plenty of f-buddies. Yes, can’t you read? I’m looking for a new boy toy. DUH

You seem pretty riled up. Why did you ask anybody's advice here since you already apparently have it all wrapped up and are simply off to find another FB?

That's rhetorical. I think you're kind of full of it, TBH. You have the feels for this guy, you're upset, insulted and you wanted to hear that somehow he does have the feels for you too, deep down. We haven't said that, and you've turned on the people trying to help you. Because we didn't tell you what you wanted to hear.

This is the truth: even when he's horny (he's asking for porn-style pics) he can't be bothered to be anywhere near you to get the job done. He apparently finishes himself, looking at pics, making sure they're not of anything that identifies you as you. Just literally a body part. Then he's all done and can't even be bothered to shoot you a quick "thanks." What does that say to you?

He thinks of you as less than nothing. It's pretty disgusting. This is NOT about how men "should want sex all the time." This goes beyond. The "nah," (WTF??? If I asked even a female friend out to do something and literally all she said was "nah" I'd be like...yeah, not asking again), not wanting to see you, "acting lovey-dovey" in person because he can obviously see in your eyes that that's what you want so badly...so he'll play act for 5 minutes since as long as he expended the energy to be there, he may as well get laid...come on...you know this is what it is. (Assuming you've described all this accurately. Nobody here really ever knows that.) He doesn't give a hoot, he can't even say "thanks" when you grab a dildo and start snapping pics at his command. But you want to know "if he can catch feelings." No. He can't. From somebody, maybe. Not from you. 1. If you want someone who can catch feelings then seeking FBs is never going to get you there. Stop pretending. 2. Stop getting mad at people who are trying to help you because you asked them to. 3. If it were as simple as, you want a FB and this guy isn't performing and you're cool with that, you wouldn't have joined a forum to ask about it. You'd just be getting it.

Stop lying to yourself, and stop this association unless you want to feel like you're garbage. Things won't get better from here. When you blew up at him for not Fing you that's...oh man. That's the most demeaning thing ever. If you want a FB go get one, no thread needed. But thanks very much, DON'T yell at us for trying to help you when you were the one who reached out.

You have some thinking to do. Go do it. Good luck. 

Edited June 22, 2020 by CaliforniaGirl

[CaliforniaGirl]

34 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

Whoa, not nice. I read a lot on here and other places men will date down for easy sex. It’s a common phenomenon that is talked about all the time. Not saying that is necessarily what happened in your case, just that it happens a lot, so hot guys are in abundance and this guy does not seem interested. Don’t know why you insulted  me... Was just giving my advice on a dating advice thread ! All the best, anyway 

And actually, dating down can mean a lot of things.

If the woman seems desperate, etc. then he is probably going to think of her as not all that great a catch. That's just a "thing." Does anybody ever think a desperate person is probably a catch? By definition if the person were a catch she or he wouldn't be desperate. Looking maybe; perhaps even lonely, anybody can get lonely and have trouble finding an SO, but once it reaches the level of demanding or begging for sex and having a fit when it doesn't happen - after agreeing to things you don't want to do and have said you don't want to do...then yes. The person will think less of you. (Not you as in Cookies, you as in the desperate party.)

A person who will jump through hoops it doesn't want to jump through, like a dog who wants to be fed for being a good boy, is not going to make a person seem like "a catch."

So it isn't always about looks or any other one thing.

JMO. (O as in observation, it isn't just an opinion.)

[Roswell91]

41 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

Whoa, not nice. I read a lot on here and other places men will date down for easy sex. It’s a common phenomenon that is talked about all the time. Not saying that is necessarily what happened in your case, just that it happens a lot, so hot guys are in abundance and this guy does not seem interested. Don’t know why you insulted  me... Was just giving my advice on a dating advice thread ! All the best, anyway 

I've heard that  too. From my own friend who is a man lol. He said any woman parts will do. Doesnt matter how  attractive  the woman is or not. Th at is how desperate some men are. 🤔😂.

I was surprised at that. But i guess its just how it is

[Roswell91]

9 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

And actually, dating down can mean a lot of things.

If the woman seems desperate, etc. then he is probably going to think of her as not all that great a catch. That's just a "thing." Does anybody ever think a desperate person is probably a catch? By definition if the person were a catch she or he wouldn't be desperate. Looking maybe; perhaps even lonely, anybody can get lonely and have trouble finding an SO, but once it reaches the level of demanding or begging for sex and having a fit when it doesn't happen - after agreeing to things you don't want to do and have said you don't want to do...then yes. The person will think less of you. (Not you as in Cookies, you as in the desperate party.)

A person who will jump through hoops it doesn't want to jump through, like a dog who wants to be fed for being a good boy, is not going to make a person seem like "a catch."

So it isn't always about looks or any other one thing.

JMO. (O as in observation, it isn't just an opinion.)

This is true.

He doesn't value this woman one bit. 

And by having a fit will make him think she is desperate and without options. Therefore decreasing her value even more

[Roswell91]

53 minutes ago, Bluesky00 said:

You must never had gotten laid or have never remotely had a fwb. Attractive guys will go over after attractive women. Not sure where you heard attractive guys going after ugly, fat, trash, missing teeth women. Just like any other fwb, it may have run it’s course and they don’t last forever. I’ve had plenty of f-buddies. Yes, can’t you read? I’m looking for a new boy toy. DUH

From your reactions. It appears you quite like this guy. 

Just an observation. 

Fwb is or fb is tough for women. More often than not emotions will get in the way.

[basil67]

2 hours ago, Bluesky00 said:

You must never had gotten laid or have never remotely had a fwb. Attractive guys will go over after attractive women. Not sure where you heard attractive guys going after ugly, fat, trash, missing teeth women. Just like any other fwb, it may have run it’s course and they don’t last forever. I’ve had plenty of f-buddies. Yes, can’t you read? I’m looking for a new boy toy. DUH

The lady doth protest too much

[Azincourt]

I'm not sure why this guy is angry at women for him to be talking about hot guys do or don't do. 

[ExpatInItaly]

10 hours ago, Bluesky00 said:

You must never had gotten laid or have never remotely had a fwb. Attractive guys will go over after attractive women. Not sure where you heard attractive guys going after ugly, fat, trash, missing teeth women. Just like any other fwb, it may have run it’s course and they don’t last forever. I’ve had plenty of f-buddies. Yes, can’t you read? I’m looking for a new boy toy. DUH

OP, didn't you also go off on this guy?

You might want to cool your jets a bit, girl. Your temper is going to stand in your way. 

[Bluesky00]

Well, surprise he just texted me and said,”sorry I have a girlfriend, but I’m still down to have sex.” Um ok, like whatever. I really doubt he even has one..why would he want to cheat on her anyway? 

I replied back and said I was dating Someone now, even if he didn’t need to know that, I just wanted him to see that I do have other options.

Edited June 25, 2020 by Bluesky00

[CaliforniaGirl]

8 hours ago, Bluesky00 said:

Well, surprise he just texted me and said,”sorry I have a girlfriend, but I’m still down to have sex.” Um ok, like whatever. I really doubt he even has one..why would he want to cheat on her anyway? 

I replied back and said I was dating Someone now, even if he didn’t need to know that, I just wanted him to see that I do have other options.

Ouch, I wouldn't have added "I have a boyfriend now," it doesn't sound believable in light of the fact that he had just said it, but otherwise, yeah, you're probably well rid of all this.

And yes. That poor girlfriend.

This guy sounds like a real winner.

[Bluesky00]

2 hours ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

Ouch, I wouldn't have added "I have a boyfriend now," it doesn't sound believable in light of the fact that he had just said it, but otherwise, yeah, you're probably well rid of all this.

And yes. That poor girlfriend.

This guy sounds like a real winner.

I really don’t think he has a girlfriend though, since I demanded answers last week and told him to be a man/have the decency to tell me why he didn’t want to hook up, instead he told me he as someone. Geez. At least he could have told me he wasn’t interested anymore. Or...since most of you guys have said that I came off as desperate, he probably thought I was acting like a girlfriend and instead told me that he HAS a gf for me to take a hint that he just thinks of me as a v and nothing more

 

 

[snowcones]

On 6/22/2020 at 8:35 AM, Azincourt said:

For sure. I'm watching The Place Beyond the Pines and I'm thinking the guy looks like a dreamboat in that movie. In every movie he plays, really. I'm pretty envious of how good-looking he is.  Eric Bana kinda looked older in Black Hawk Down. In Troy he looks like late 20s, in Black Hawk down he looks like he's almost 40. Still hot, but that curly long hair and super muscular build got me wishing I had that greek god body of his not gonna lie. Yes, Josh Hartnett has always been a cute guy.

The movie Black Hawk Down was made before Troy, so Eric Bana was younger in BHD than he was in Troy.  You probably just like long hair on men, whereas I don't like long hair on men.  You couldn't really see Eric Bana's build in BHD like you could in Troy, but I assume it was nice considering the role he was in.  He was especially hot towards the end of the movie. Also, I tend to be more attracted to the skinnier lankier type of guy with a pretty face like Josh Hartnett.

[Kamchatker]

Just call me. We'll spend a great time.

[ExpatInItaly]

19 hours ago, Bluesky00 said:

I really don’t think he has a girlfriend though

Neither do I. 

He definitely doesn't want to hear from you anymore either, though. Delete this person's number.

[Bluesky00]

3 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Neither do I. 

He definitely doesn't want to hear from you anymore either, though. Delete this person's number.

I’ve told guys the “I have a boyfriend” line to guys that I clearly knew were interested in me but I didnt like them back in that way, so they could back off. Because if I told them that I wasn’t interested, they assumed I would change my mind and became very persistent. 

Edited June 26, 2020 by Bluesky00

[Cookiesandough]

I mean... he could also have a gf and down to sleep with you on the low  ... explains why he was reluctant last week at least. Totally don’t put it past these dudes out here. 

[Roswell91]

On 6/25/2020 at 11:41 PM, Bluesky00 said:

I really don’t think he has a girlfriend though, since I demanded answers last week and told him to be a man/have the decency to tell me why he didn’t want to hook up, instead he told me he as someone. Geez. At least he could have told me he wasn’t interested anymore. Or...since most of you guys have said that I came off as desperate, he probably thought I was acting like a girlfriend and instead told me that he HAS a gf for me to take a hint that he just thinks of me as a v and nothing more

 

 

He has a gf lol. This guy. 😂. Man some people are moral less. 

[Bluesky00]

There is no way he has one, why would he say that and yet still says he wants to hook up? I mean I would imagine if he likes the sex with her he would stop fishing for different pussay and stop talking to me all together. Most guys will never cheat, he could have just said he’s hooking up with other girls which would make sense why I was left behind for awhile, maybe he’s covering up the Pandemic to make him not look weak

[Cookiesandough]

My opinion... to let you know what’s up...that he is emotionally unavailable to you as he has a gf but still willing to sleep with you. Some guys have the luxury to be honest because they don’t see much to lose. Most guys might be loyal, but many do cheat , and you have no idea if there is “no way” he’d cheat because you don’t really even know him... 

It makes sense to me because when he was with her when you messaged he said “nah” he was probably focused on his gf, now that that newness has worn off a bit, he might be going back to his old ways of “fishing for different poos” It happens all the time.