I asked my fwb if he wanted to like hang out/hook up this week and he replied, nah.

[ExpatInItaly]

8 hours ago, Bluesky00 said:

What is it with women talking about “respect?” This isn’t 1950 and it’s sure not a nun/convent forum. So what if I sent pictures of my V to him, he isn’t the first guy I’ve sent dirty pics to. It’s purely sexual. And I know there is probably other women he probably became interested in lately. I realize I can’t solely rely on him and he has been my only f buddy at the moment. Yes, I do need to find some other guy to fulfill my needs and I will find it. It is what it is. If he wants it he will contact me, if not then there are other boy toys out there for me to have sex with .

You're missing the point entirely, and I think you're doing it willfully because the truth stings. 

The point about the respect is related to the fact that he shows you barely any interest yet you continue to ask him for sex and blew up on him when he didn't want it. You lost your dignity right there. You continue to do whatever he wants when he's demonstrating that you're just some chick who sends him pics and goes to bed with sometimes. You're losing your self-respect by exposing yourself to a guy who quite clearly isn't that excited by you. It's cringey, girl. 

You can try to spin the narrative to suit whatever you're telling yourself to make yourself okay with this, but if you were fine with everything, this thread wouldn't exist. 

Edited June 21, 2020 by ExpatInItaly

[Miss Spider]

It’s like the equivalent of a guy continuing to send d pics when u don’t want him. Thirsty and desperate. Arguably worse bc as a woman you should be able to get D in abundance and never have to stoop to that.  Do you wanna be that guy 

Edited June 21, 2020 by Cookiesandough

[Bluesky00]

1 hour ago, Cookiesandough said:

It’s like the equivalent of a guy continuing to send d pics when u don’t want him. Thirsty and desperate. Arguably worse bc as a woman you should be able to get D in abundance and never have to stoop to that.  Do you wanna be that guy 

Come to think of it, I’m over reacting about why he I didn’t respond to the v picture. Usually he doesn’t “respond” to pictures anyway. Last time I told him I wanted to wear a sexy outfit for him and he wanted me to send him some pics which I did , he didn’t respond to those I know he saw them, then the next day he wanted me to send him a pic of my booty, he didn’t respond to those either. Even if he didn’t respond to pics, he still wanted more. And he did still reach out to me later on to hook up even though he didn’t respond to my pics.

I’m just over analyzing his nah response. He probably doesn’t feel like it this week, and at this point he is in control and he will reach out when he wants to. And this isn’t the first time he’s said no actually, other times he’s said he was busy that night or that he couldn’t. 

[elaine567]

Would it not be better to have a guy that responded well to your pics and was pleased to hook up with you .
Wow Bluesky00 you look amazing.
OMG Bluesky00, you are beautiful.
Bluesky00, let's meet up tomorrow, can't wait to see you...

Why are you so  accepting of his bad treatment of you?

[Azincourt]

2 hours ago, Cookiesandough said:

It’s like the equivalent of a guy continuing to send d pics when u don’t want him. Thirsty and desperate. Arguably worse bc as a woman you should be able to get D in abundance and never have to stoop to that.  Do you wanna be that guy 

Yeah, but it's not like every woman can get 30 year old Enrique Iglesias D in abundance, is it now. Doesn't matter that she's a woman and can have a lot of sex with a lot of different men if they're not her type, and this guy she has her sights on happens to be her type.

In any case,  I feel that this guy is attracted to her.  You get snapchats from women naked and doing stuff, you enjoy it, you appreciate it, but it's not like you're going to get inside your car and drive because she's hot. You still have to get up at 5AM tomorrow to get to the job site. What you gonna tell your boss? 

 

''sorry boss, I just made you lose money because I was having sex and then I got too tired to drive back home and I didn't have my alarm clock and I woke up several hours later.''

[snowcones]

Has no one in this thread mentioned Covid-19 yet?  Maybe he just doesn't want to meet up during this time.

[Azincourt]

4 minutes ago, snowcones said:

Has no one in this thread mentioned Covid-19 yet?  Maybe he just doesn't want to meet up during this time.

Well, don't you know?

We guys can't control ourselves. When we  have an attractive   - or any woman at all - willing to have sex with us, we'll brave the Amazonian Forest at night with a broken arm, 1 swiss pocket knife and 1000 alien ships coming after us all so that we can have sex.

[CaliforniaGirl]

3 hours ago, snowcones said:

Has no one in this thread mentioned Covid-19 yet?  Maybe he just doesn't want to meet up during this time.

Then why wouldn't he just say so? 

[snowcones]

34 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

Then why wouldn't he just say so? 

I don't know.  Men are weird. You never know with them.  Maybe he thinks it makes him look weak.

[thefooloftheyear]

Newsflash......Men turn down easy pussy....who'd have thunk it???

I know its hard for some women to comprehend, but just because a guy doesn't accept a lay down offer, doesn't make him weird, gay, stupid,  or anything else...Who knows what the reason is? Maybe you aren't the only one making it easy for him...and he can't be in two places at the same time..

TFY

[basil67]

On 6/18/2020 at 10:19 PM, Bluesky00 said:

Okay, I understand the new and fresh part, but he specifically told we were going to have sex consistently after I got on the birth control and I just told me that I’m on it already, so I guess I was expecting a different answer. Did he give me false promises?  

It's more likely that he changed his mind.   People can and do change their minds and this is OK.

[snowcones]

1 hour ago, thefooloftheyear said:

Newsflash......Men turn down easy pussy....who'd have thunk it???

I know its hard for some women to comprehend, but just because a guy doesn't accept a lay down offer, doesn't make him weird, gay, stupid,  or anything else...Who knows what the reason is? Maybe you aren't the only one making it easy for him...and he can't be in two places at the same time..

TFY

I said men are weird because they often don't communicate what they are thinking or feeling clearly.  I responded to someone who asked why. Yes, some men turn down women for sex, but most of them won't be forthright and say why.  Then we all, including you, me and the OP are left to guess why.  We are ALL guessing.

[Azincourt]

5 hours ago, snowcones said:

Newsflash......Men turn down easy sex....who'd have thunk it???

men turn down ''easy'' sex all the time.  Sometimes we are tired after a long day at the work site. Sometimes we've gotten bad news from our family or from our friends and sex is the last thing on our mind. Sometimes we're just not feeling it. There have been times when I've had beautiful women naked in front of me and I simply could not perform.  I'm as fit as a 18 year old professional soccer player despite being much older, so it's not a lack of fitness. Sometimes you're just not in the mood no matter what.

Or your dog who've you've had in the family for the last 10-15 years died, and you're sad and you really are not in the mood for sex.

Sometimes it's summer time and the air and the wind is hot and stiffled and stale, you are sweating harder than a man exiled to the desert. You think you want to walk or drive all the way to a woman's house, or have her do it to yours, when it's so hot rubber melts?

So many reasons for a guy to decline sex even if it comes from a foreign hottie like Kelly bailey.

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I know its hard for some women to comprehend, but just because a guy doesn't accept a lay down offer, doesn't make him weird, gay, stupid,  or anything else...Who knows what the reason is? Maybe you aren't the only one making it easy for him...and he can't be in two places at the same time..

Yeah, I never figured out this one. 

''I'm attractive and he's a man. He turned down sex????? he must be gay or he must suffer from erectile dysfunction.''

Wonder how would women react if a guy  was like

'''?????? but I just put on my best armani suit and I oil-sleeked my abs and my shoulders. I've also spent 500 dollars on her dinner and she's not rushing to have sex with me??? what's wrng with her?''

Lol

And there's no such thing as ''easy'' sex. 

A woman will sleep with you either because she likes your shoulders, your eyes, your six-pack, or the stuff you tell her about like how beautiful she is despite the fact that every other woman is as equally attractive as she is and she knows it.

Women also don't get ''free'' sex.

They're more at risk of catching a std than we are, they can get pregnant, and they don't know if this guy or that guy who is a stranger to her is going to turn out to be Prince Charming or the Beast from Beauty and the Beast before he turns into Prince Adam.

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Yes, some men turn down women for sex, but most of them won't be forthright and say why.  Then we all, including you, me and the OP are left to guess why.  We are ALL guessing.

Because women don't take sexual rejection well, and we're afraid they might lash out and tarnish our reputation, and a man's reputation is everything.

Edited June 22, 2020 by Azincourt

[basil67]

I find the idea of expecting a man to turn up on demand (and wanting answers when he's not available) to be rather entitled.  If one wants sex on demand, the answer is to pay for it.  

 

[Azincourt]

5 minutes ago, basil67 said:

I find the idea of expecting a man to turn up on demand (and wanting answers when he's not available) to be rather entitled.  If one wants sex on demand, the answer is to pay for it.  

 

Or hit the gym hard, get that sweet Ryan Gosling body in ''Only God Forgives'' and there will always be a supply to fulfill the demand, same goes for women. Hit that sweet spot that Kendall Jenner is at and there will be very few men who will reject the gal for casual sex. But it does happen. Even the hottest of women get rejected for sex all the time. No matter if she's offering to do this and that and tell him she's gonna let him do to her whatever he wants, if he hooks up with her.

There's more to life than sex. Like playing with newborn puppies.

[basil67]

haha, what is it with men and Ryan Gosling?    I can't say I'm familiar with Kendall Jenner.  

[Azincourt]

Ryan Gosling has the perfect look.

A shade over 6 feet, barefoot,  which ain't bad but could be better.

Natural blonde.

A broad, wide face with a strong chin and a square jawline.

Wide shoulders and a well-built body that can be appreciated in movies like Blade Runner 2049, The Place Beyond the Pines, and in Only God Forgives.

He's the strong, silent type. Stoic. Rarely shows emotion but he's powerful and a titan in his own way.

He's basically perfect. His on-screen image is at least. 

Now most guys can't change their jawline or their hairline or their height, but they sure can change their body and develop a strong, masculine, powerful body that will draw the sexual attention of many a hot young woman, and the admiration of the men who lack the self-confidence and the drive to develop a body like that.

Kendall Jenner is one of the hottest fashion models in the world. She's one of the sisters belonging to the Kardashian family.

Of course there are other great body builds for men.

Eric Bana in Troy(2004) is looking like a snack, with his huge biceps and triceps and pecs.

Edited June 22, 2020 by Azincourt

[jspice]

Sounds like you’ve checked Ryan Gosling out more than any woman has. 🙄
 

Just stop with the hyperbole already.

[Azincourt]

13 minutes ago, jspice said:

Sounds like you’ve checked Ryan Gosling out more than any woman has. 🙄
 

Just stop with the hyperbole already.

What hyperbole?

I'm just trying to help out OP

there's millions of women who think Ryan Gosling is hot, so there's nothing wrong with motivating young men to pursue the Ryan Gosling look.

I remember hanging out at Avalon Hollywood and at  Chateau Marmont’s Bar Marmont and Ryan Gosling(seen Chris Pine and Chris Pratt in there too amongst others) just happened to show up there.

Women were throwing themselves left and right at him. I remember this Indian woman from Mumbai that was recently arrived to Los Angeles, someone that I had been trying for 2 straight days to take to bed with me, and as soon as she saw him she stopped talking to me and went up to him. She didn't even know who he was, but he was hotter than me so I lost out. 

Can't really blame her.  I'd pretty much dump everyone for a chance at Selena Gomez.

Edited June 22, 2020 by Azincourt

[ExpatInItaly]

Woman here. I have to say that while I appreciate his acting chops, and that many consider him attractive, Ryan Gosling does nothing for me personally. Different strokes. 

Anyway, to return to OP - don't bother with a guy who's hardly showing any interest and doesn't even bother responding after you've sent him a naughty pic he requested. 

 There are better guys out there to have NSA sex if that's what you're after. This dude is "meh" about you. 

[Roswell91]

14 hours ago, snowcones said:

Has no one in this thread mentioned Covid-19 yet?  Maybe he just doesn't want to meet up during this time.

Someone who responds "nah" is unlikely  a person who cares about covid 19. 

[Roswell91]

16 hours ago, Bluesky00 said:

Come to think of it, I’m over reacting about why he I didn’t respond to the v picture. Usually he doesn’t “respond” to pictures anyway. Last time I told him I wanted to wear a sexy outfit for him and he wanted me to send him some pics which I did , he didn’t respond to those I know he saw them, then the next day he wanted me to send him a pic of my booty, he didn’t respond to those either. Even if he didn’t respond to pics, he still wanted more. And he did still reach out to me later on to hook up even though he didn’t respond to my pics.

I’m just over analyzing his nah response. He probably doesn’t feel like it this week, and at this point he is in control and he will reach out when he wants to. And this isn’t the first time he’s said no actually, other times he’s said he was busy that night or that he couldn’t. 

Don't  take this the wrong way.

But why do you care about this guy so much in particular?

His attitude towards you is basically conveying he doesn't  care if you exist or not pretty much. He is totally indifferent. 

My advice is find someone else. Im sure you can. 

[dangerous]

"Nah" is just so disrepectful. Even if one of my friends said it to me, I'd drop them. Move on OP!

[Miss Spider]

Yea Even if one of my friends said nah  to my invitation to hang out with no qualifier I would find that rude. wouldn’t do that to my friends either . Seems like he’s showing he doesn’t respect you much 

Edited June 22, 2020 by Cookiesandough

[snowcones]

3 hours ago, Azincourt said:

Ryan Gosling has the perfect look.

A shade over 6 feet, barefoot,  which ain't bad but could be better.

Natural blonde.

A broad, wide face with a strong chin and a square jawline.

Wide shoulders and a well-built body that can be appreciated in movies like Blade Runner 2049, The Place Beyond the Pines, and in Only God Forgives.

He's the strong, silent type. Stoic. Rarely shows emotion but he's powerful and a titan in his own way.

He's basically perfect. His on-screen image is at least. 

Now most guys can't change their jawline or their hairline or their height, but they sure can change their body and develop a strong, masculine, powerful body that will draw the sexual attention of many a hot young woman, and the admiration of the men who lack the self-confidence and the drive to develop a body like that.

Kendall Jenner is one of the hottest fashion models in the world. She's one of the sisters belonging to the Kardashian family.

Of course there are other great body builds for men.

Eric Bana in Troy(2004) is looking like a snack, with his huge biceps and triceps and pecs.

Ryan Gosling is freakin' HOT!  Eric Bana? He was good in Troy, but I like him better with shorter hair like in "Black Hawk Down".  He was hot in that but not as hot as Josh Hartnett in Black Hawk Down.  Josh was SMOKIN'!