Crazelnut Posted November 17, 2020 Share Posted November 17, 2020 Lauren, you are literally asking the same questions over and over. To summarizes months worth of answers: Yes, he keeps the number because he cares about HER and wants to maintain an avenue of communication. No, he isn't finished with her. It isn't over. He hasn't told her because he's afraid of losing HER. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LaurenEliz Posted November 17, 2020 Author Share Posted November 17, 2020 1 minute ago, Crazelnut said: Lauren, you are literally asking the same questions over and over. To summarizes months worth of answers: Yes, he keeps the number because he cares about HER and wants to maintain an avenue of communication. No, he isn't finished with her. It isn't over. He hasn't told her because he's afraid of losing HER. Look I know ok. I was just wondering if three weeks meant he was done or would he completely delete her if that was the case. That’s all I wanted to know if people think it’s more of a laying low situation rather than it’s over between them. yep to be honest I would have thought he’d of told her by now that we’d had another. Maybe his guilt from not telling her has set in or maybe it’s because he was almost caught had made him quiet again Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 17, 2020 Share Posted November 17, 2020 17 minutes ago, LaurenEliz said: I was just wondering if three weeks meant he was done or would he completely delete her if that was the case. That’s all I wanted to know if people think it’s more of a laying low situation rather than it’s over between them. No it's not over. She could have been pissed at him and went NC for a couple of weeks. No one knows what is going on between them except them. How is spying and not asking him about this helping you? How do you expect a bunch of strangers to know what is going on with your man? Link to post Share on other sites
Author LaurenEliz Posted November 17, 2020 Author Share Posted November 17, 2020 1 minute ago, stillafool said: No it's not over. She could have been pissed at him and went NC for a couple of weeks. No one knows what is going on between them except them. How is spying and not asking him about this helping you? How do you expect a bunch of strangers to know what is going on with your man? Well these ‘bunch of strangers’ have been pretty spot on so far. thanks for your input. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 17, 2020 Share Posted November 17, 2020 Just now, LaurenEliz said: Well these ‘bunch of strangers’ have been pretty spot on so far. Spot on how? You seem to be in the same position you were months ago. You still have not found out anymore information about them than you did back then. Strangers have told you to confront your husband about this, yet you are still afraid to. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted November 17, 2020 Share Posted November 17, 2020 You already know the answer, Lauren. Link to post Share on other sites
Crazelnut Posted November 17, 2020 Share Posted November 17, 2020 1 minute ago, LaurenEliz said: Well these ‘bunch of strangers’ have been pretty spot on so far. thanks for your input. Then please pay attention. NO, 3 weeks NC means nothing. You can read dozens of stories in this forum and the Other Man/Other Woman forum where cheaters lie low for a while and then somebody reaches out and it's going again. This is the nature of an affair. There are multiple possible reasons why they're quiet. The NC means nothing. Lauren, what are you afraid of? Why can't you just talk to him? If you have no intention to leave him, you need to learn to live with thus situation without tormenting yourself like this. Either confront him & get the truth, or accept his relationship with her. You can't keep on like this. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LaurenEliz Posted November 17, 2020 Author Share Posted November 17, 2020 7 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: You already know the answer, Lauren. If I knew I wouldn’t be on here asking Link to post Share on other sites
Author LaurenEliz Posted November 17, 2020 Author Share Posted November 17, 2020 5 minutes ago, Crazelnut said: Then please pay attention. NO, 3 weeks NC means nothing. You can read dozens of stories in this forum and the Other Man/Other Woman forum where cheaters lie low for a while and then somebody reaches out and it's going again. This is the nature of an affair. There are multiple possible reasons why they're quiet. The NC means nothing. Lauren, what are you afraid of? Why can't you just talk to him? If you have no intention to leave him, you need to learn to live with thus situation without tormenting yourself like this. Either confront him & get the truth, or accept his relationship with her. You can't keep on like this. Ok I know you’re right. I think part of me thought oh maybe this time it’s over and that’s why I asked if the number would be deleted Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 17, 2020 Share Posted November 17, 2020 6 minutes ago, Crazelnut said: Then please pay attention. NO, 3 weeks NC means nothing. You can read dozens of stories in this forum and the Other Man/Other Woman forum where cheaters lie low for a while and then somebody reaches out and it's going again. This is the nature of an affair. There are multiple possible reasons why they're quiet. The NC means nothing. Lauren, what are you afraid of? Why can't you just talk to him? If you have no intention to leave him, you need to learn to live with thus situation without tormenting yourself like this. Either confront him & get the truth, or accept his relationship with her. You can't keep on like this. Doesn't this remind you of Edith. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LaurenEliz Posted November 17, 2020 Author Share Posted November 17, 2020 Just now, stillafool said: Doesn't this remind you of Edith. Can people stop comparing me to ‘Edith’ please. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 17, 2020 Share Posted November 17, 2020 1 minute ago, LaurenEliz said: Ok I know you’re right. I think part of me thought oh maybe this time it’s over and that’s why I asked if the number would be deleted Why won't you ask your husband if he's still cheating with her?????? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 17, 2020 Share Posted November 17, 2020 Just now, LaurenEliz said: Can people stop comparing me to ‘Edith’ please. Sorry, but It's too hard not to because you both sound like the same person. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LaurenEliz Posted November 17, 2020 Author Share Posted November 17, 2020 Just now, stillafool said: Sorry, but It's too hard not to because you both sound like the same person. Well we aren’t, I’ve been told of their story and to be honest I don’t want to get involved with others because I don’t want to make comparisons. I don’t actually want to end up like her and I’m more than aware that’s where I’m heading. I only came on here to ask people’s take on something, I don’t deserve this. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 17, 2020 Share Posted November 17, 2020 1 minute ago, LaurenEliz said: I only came on here to ask people’s take on something, I don’t deserve this. Sorry Lauren, no one is trying to hurt you here. It's just frustrating for people to continue to tell a poster the same thing over and over and then they come back and ask the same question. Yet you won't answer our questions so we can get a better idea of how to answer you. Have you tried a psychic because all we're doing here is guessing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LaurenEliz Posted November 17, 2020 Author Share Posted November 17, 2020 3 minutes ago, stillafool said: Sorry Lauren, no one is trying to hurt you here. It's just frustrating for people to continue to tell a poster the same thing over and over and then they come back and ask the same question. Yet you won't answer our questions so we can get a better idea of how to answer you. Have you tried a psychic because all we're doing here is guessing. Yeah thanks for that. You know what, don’t worry about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Crazelnut Posted November 17, 2020 Share Posted November 17, 2020 Lauren, what are you going to do? Link to post Share on other sites
Author LaurenEliz Posted November 17, 2020 Author Share Posted November 17, 2020 2 minutes ago, Crazelnut said: Lauren, what are you going to do? I have no idea which is why I came on here. Thanks for your advice. Will take it on board. Link to post Share on other sites
Crazelnut Posted November 17, 2020 Share Posted November 17, 2020 The advice of virtually everyone on both threads is to confront him. Talk to him. If you can't do that, find a way to live with this other woman in his life. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 17, 2020 Share Posted November 17, 2020 Sorry to hear this. You want to hear he has it for some other reason like he 'forgot' to delete it. However knowing you are upset by the situation and asked him to stop romantic contact, unfortunately he didn't forget. It's odd he keeps it on his phone in such a high profile manner. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LaurenEliz Posted November 17, 2020 Author Share Posted November 17, 2020 5 minutes ago, Crazelnut said: The advice of virtually everyone on both threads is to confront him. Talk to him. If you can't do that, find a way to live with this other woman in his life. Would you say she’s still in his life even IF they aren’t speaking right now? Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted November 17, 2020 Share Posted November 17, 2020 Definitely laying low. You obviously have access to his phone, so text her a photo' of your baby from it with a message saying "Hey Homewrecker, how about not banging my daddy and screwing up the start of my life", and then just wait for the explosion. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Crazelnut Posted November 17, 2020 Share Posted November 17, 2020 8 minutes ago, LaurenEliz said: Would you say she’s still in his life even IF they aren’t speaking right now? Yes, definitely. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted November 17, 2020 Share Posted November 17, 2020 3 hours ago, LaurenEliz said: If I knew I wouldn’t be on here asking No, I think you’re hoping to hear a different answer. Your marriage is still way off the rails no matter how you phrase the question. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LaurenEliz Posted November 17, 2020 Author Share Posted November 17, 2020 32 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: No, I think you’re hoping to hear a different answer. Your marriage is still way off the rails no matter how you phrase the question. I’m not hoping for a different answer. I’m more than aware that whilst that number is still in his phone he’s not committed to our marriage - it’s just a difficult thing to say outloud. Yes part of me was hoping maybe this break in contact was the end. But by the looks of things if it was the end he would have deleted her. So he’s just laying low. And he still hasn’t told her about the fact he now has another baby Link to post Share on other sites
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