Love a girl but how to know it...?

[to_ranjith]

Hi all, my case i feel is a different. Iam aged 26 and i saw a girl in my office. I got loved in first sight. Previously i had 3 good relations with girls. So i dont find problems basically talking with girls. But this is some what different. For the past 4 months i was just walking around her to know her name. This is because our office is a big one and has around 3000 employees. She sits in a big confrence room and occationaly comes out to just take some printouts. The printer room is near my cabin. She knows iam watching her from 4 months. 2days back i too went into printer room to know her name. Previous 5-6 attempts i did but failed. But this was a successful one. I also told her the truth that i was following her from 4 months. The conversation was for just 2mins and she left the place saying its ok.

My problem is that my body seems to get paralized when i approch her. I dont know why and never felt before like this. Second is that she sometimes gives me a good look (occationaly) and i get the feeling she too likes me. She is a reserverd girl. But mostly she ill be serious to me(never looks at me). After this incident she is not at all looking or minding me. Today i sent a card to her when she moved in the printer room. I gave a print to a card stating some touching words. She got it that it was me. She is really serious now.

Iam not able to do my jobs because of this. I really love her and also doesnt know whether she loves me or not...? I cant ask her as i never get her outside her cabin except during printouts. 2-3 times a day.

If u all can back me help me with some ideas how to make her feel my love to her.... i would be gr8tfull ...

 

Iam a medium complex person where girls wont say no because i got some good offers from some girls... But she is too good .

 

Waiting for ur reply...

[slubberdegullion]

Whoah there, back off, Romeo!

 

You're leaving romantic cards by the office printer? Does anyone else think that this is just plain creepy?

 

Sorry, dude, but if I were in her pumps that would just give me the creeps.

 

Do you know if she's involved?

[loony]

Are you American or Indian? And where are you?

[crazy_grl]

I'm with slubberdegullion. You need to back off. You probably don't want to hear this, but I think you need a reality check. There's no way you can love this woman or that she can love you. You don't even know her. You can't love someone without ever having spoke to them.

 

If I was her, right now, I might be a pretty creeped out. It depends on how much you've told her and what the card you sent to the printer said.

 

I also told her the truth that i was following her from 4 months.

 

If you phrased it like that, I imagine this girl is really creeped out. Saying you've been "following" someone for 4 months screams stalker. If you said you noticed her or something less threatening, then you could still be okay.

 

Today i sent a card to her when she moved in the printer room. I gave a print to a card stating some touching words. She got it that it was me. She is really serious now.

 

That was a bit out of line if she hadn't responded to you since you spoke to her. What did the card say and what do you mean by "She is really serious now."?

 

Iam not able to do my jobs because of this. I really love her and also doesnt know whether she loves me or not...? I cant ask her as i never get her outside her cabin except during printouts. 2-3 times a day.

 

If you was really into you after you spoke to her, she would make some effort to talk to you, stop by to see you on her way to the printer, etc.

 

If u all can back me help me with some ideas how to make her feel my love to her.... i would be gr8tfull ...

 

Back off. You're coming on way too strong. Don't send her anything, don't follow her to the printer anymore. Don't go out of your way to see her. If you do happen to see her, say hi. If she likes you, she'll stop and talk to you on her own.

 

If you continue to send her things and she's not interested, she could very well report you to management and you could find your job in jeopardy for sexual harassment. Granted, women are usually supposed to ask you to stop before they reports it, but that doesn't mean she's going to, and your company might not require that she does. So please be careful.

 

For future reference, if you're interested in a girl, talk to her to start off. Don't wait 4 months and build her up into a fantasy woman who you think you're in love with. Get to know the real woman in the beginning before your strong feelings set in and you'll be a lot less likely to come on so strong and scare the woman away.