Cchance11 Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 (edited) Me (24) and my ex girlfriend (24) split up 3 years ago today. She broke it off with me because I had become complacent and lazy in the relationship. We went on to No Contact for a few months after my pathetic pleas until she had reached out again saying she missed me and signs of a possible rekindling. I blew that opportunity and she went on to date a new guy 4-5 months after we split (end of 2017). I went forward with my life and practically got to the point where I would stop checking her social media and go a few days without thinking of her. Well last week she had text me “hey”. I was shocked. She had posted ex bashing posts a lot on her socials even when dating her new man. I thought she would never speak to me again, as I had vouched I would leave her alone as well out of respect. When I got the text I did not know the reason quite yet. I was torn between answering to find out or deleting it to not open the emotional wound I’ve worked hard to heal. I opted to delete the text. Curiosity got to me and I looked her up to see her and her new relationship of 2.5 years was over. It had been just under a month ago from when she sent me “hey”. What do you guys make of this and my choice to delete it? Why would she text me? Was there any chance to rekindle anything in this situation? I do not know if I made the right decision because I truly don’t know what I would honestly want. I miss what we had, I haven’t dated anyone, but I haven’t dwelled until now Edited June 26, 2020 by Cchance11 Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 You made the right decision not answering it. If you two were a good match, the relationship wouldn't have fallen apart in the first place. Not only that, but you attempted to reconcile and even that didn't work out. You and her are clearly not compatible, and the same thing would probably just happen all over again. Do you really want to go through this cycle with her over and over? What's the point of that? Find someone new who you are a better match with. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 She reached out to you out of nostalgia. It's not easy to meet somebody during pandemic. You were available so she said "hey". It was a bread crumb because she was bored. Do yourself a favor & disconnect on social media. She's your past. Leave her there. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 15 hours ago, Cchance11 said: What do you guys make of this and my choice to delete it? Why would she text me? Was there any chance to rekindle anything in this situation? Respectively: Questions 1 and 2) She reached out because she's bored and wanted attention, resulting from both her recent break-up and the pandemic. She figured you might bite, so she cast her line in your direction. I highly doubt there was more to it than that, so you were smart to delete it. 3) No, I don't think there was anything to indicate a viable opportunity to rekindle. She likely would have taken off again once she'd gotten her ego scratched by you. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted June 30, 2020 Share Posted June 30, 2020 (edited) She was taking your temperature because her rebound fell apart. You did the right thing by not feeding her curiosity. If she wanted more, she'd have said more than "hey". Edited June 30, 2020 by kendahke Link to post Share on other sites
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