Bluesky00 Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 (edited) after high school my parents were really overprotective, and when it came to boys that was a no go. I remember I met a guy in junior college and didn’t want me to do “anything bad” with him. If her only concern was that she was worried that I was going to get knocked up then why not Suggest birth control? 19 and in college it’s normal for ppl to have sex, why was she holding me back and didn’t want me to experience it? I don’t get it. It’s not like I’m going to be a whore and work at a brothel! Geez If I had an 19 year old daughter then I would encourage her to get on birth control because I know she will met guys and go on dates, that’s normal, but for me to “forbid” her from having sex is stupid. She’s an adult. Anyone see the difference? I wouldn’t be a bad parent if I forbid my adult daughter to go on dates and have sex, would I? Edited June 26, 2020 by Bluesky00 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 You're smarter than they are. Some parents have a hard time facing reality that their children are becoming young adults. It really was remiss for your parents not to talk to you about birth control. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MJJean Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 9 minutes ago, Bluesky00 said: If I had an 19 year old daughter then I would encourage her to get on birth control because I know she will met guys and go on dates, that’s normal, but for me to “forbid” her from having sex is stupid. She’s an adult. If you're waiting til age 19 to get your daughter on birth control you're late. Many don't wait until 18+ to have sex. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bluesky00 Posted June 26, 2020 Author Share Posted June 26, 2020 16 minutes ago, MJJean said: If you're waiting til age 19 to get your daughter on birth control you're late. Many don't wait until 18+ to have sex. Ahh, I forgot about that. Well, 15 then? 13 is a bit too young. But what I’m saying is for someone like what I experienced 18, 19 when I was i college and interested in dating and boys my mother didn’t like that idea which was ridiculous. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 It's not so much about age, but rather, what the kids are doing. Keep the dialogue open and easy and work with the kids as the time is right. I was watching my 15yo with her boyfriend and I posed the question: do you think it's time to discuss being on the pill? She said "yep" Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bluesky00 Posted June 26, 2020 Author Share Posted June 26, 2020 41 minutes ago, basil67 said: It's not so much about age, but rather, what the kids are doing. Keep the dialogue open and easy and work with the kids as the time is right. I was watching my 15yo with her boyfriend and I posed the question: do you think it's time to discuss being on the pill? She said "yep" Well, my mom didn’t want me near boys at 14, 15, 16, 17, 18+ i remember when I was 14 and went to a school dance with friends, my mom looked down at the idea, she didn’t want boys near me because they like to get touchy feely with girls and one time when I was 17 a boy from school called the house she answered and questioned him. She told me that boys like to talk dirty on the phone. But that’s a whole different story. Link to post Share on other sites
MJJean Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 12 hours ago, Bluesky00 said: Ahh, I forgot about that. Well, 15 then? 13 is a bit too young. But what I’m saying is for someone like what I experienced 18, 19 when I was i college and interested in dating and boys my mother didn’t like that idea which was ridiculous. 13 was when my mom let me know that she would make a birth control appointment if/when I was ready to have sex. 15 was when I took her up on that offer. There were so many girls at my school who were pregnant or had kids it was ridiculous. My city school district and a neighboring city district partnered to create an "alternative" school for teen mothers that had daycare in the building and parenting classes as part of regular studies. Apparently, not much has changed. My own daughters had a few pregnant or recently gave birth friends from school. Either a lot of parents don't talk to their kids, don't talk until it's too late, or the dang kids aren't listening. One of my daughters made me a grandmother when she was 19 and I was 42. I know damn well she was educated on birth control by me and our family doctor. That one just didn't listen. Link to post Share on other sites
siren8272 Posted August 6, 2020 Share Posted August 6, 2020 My mom was overprotective even into my late 20s she went as far as to come to my job simply because I hadnt introduced her to my boyfriend i was TWENTY EIGHT....whoooo chile I moved and didnt talk to her much for TEN YRS almost....since then things have improved but guess what now im 38 and shes butthurt she has no grandkids....I remind her welp you got in the way of my dating in my teens and twenties along with not allowing me a social life so Im making up for lost time ...no grandkids for you. Remember parents if you want grandkids dating and sex is how you get them...so yea you might not care when they are 19 but dont come whining when they are 30 plus not married and childfree.....*shrugs Link to post Share on other sites
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