Author TylerMc Posted June 30, 2020 Author Share Posted June 30, 2020 2 hours ago, GeorgiaPeach1 said: Worse than the begging is the "I'm here if you need me" part. Instead of her feeling the harsh and immediate consequences of deciding not to have you in her life any longer, you've all but told her she can come back at any time--even after sampling other guys 🍆🍆🍆 All you can do now is go immediate and total NC. Block her from everything, so that she has no way of knowing or seeing anything about you. Only then MIGHT she start to feel a sense of loss and curiosity. Ye i have done the meaning of it was more towards her mental health side of stuff as she has had depression before but i can see how it would of come across that way thank you Link to post Share on other sites
Calmandfocused Posted June 30, 2020 Share Posted June 30, 2020 Guys you have a point. You are correct that there are some women who have wanted an ex to reach out to them, one of them would have been me. I’m making reference to times when I’ve been the dumper but I was still very much in love. The motive for wanting them to contact me wasn’t to validate me, it was to validate the relationship. And it was about hope, hope that things could be different, things would change, any previous issues could be resolved and we could try again etc... yes I wanted to hear all of that so yes I admit that I did want them to fight for me. However, just because I wanted it and hoped for it, it didn’t mean that breaking no contact was the right thing to do. In fact it would have been very detrimental to my recovery. I’ve been “hoovered” umpteen tines and I’ve learnt that no good ever comes from it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
GeorgiaPeach1 Posted July 1, 2020 Share Posted July 1, 2020 23 hours ago, TylerMc said: Ye i have done the meaning of it was more towards her mental health side of stuff as she has had depression before but i can see how it would of come across that way thank you Her mental health is no longer your concern or obligation. She can't pick and choose which parts of you to have. You're a complete person and package. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JolliX Posted July 9, 2020 Share Posted July 9, 2020 I just went through a similar thing, and it sucks. Everyone that is saying no contact is correct. It sucks not having that person to talk to or share stuff with, but just stopping communication with her will be the best in the long run. It'll allow you to move on and eventually you will stop wondering about her. Nothing wrong with hoping the best for her, but after you hope that just move one and take care of yourself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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