nospam99 Posted July 1, 2020 Share Posted July 1, 2020 Update to https://www.loveshack.org/forums/topic/591267-what-to-do-about-new-woman/ Have to start a new thread because the 90 day limit is WAY over. Nothing 'really' happening (yet). But I enjoy seeing updates on other people's searches so I'll contribute mine. Cliff notes: In December, I recognized a woman on meetup.com who I had a) sent an unread match.com message to in May '19 and b) had danced with at the most recent monthly community dance parties. She did not attend the January party. Because of covid, I did not attend the February party, there hasn't been another one since then, and there are none scheduled for the foreseeable future. RIP dance parties. She sent me an unsolicited message on match.com today. Based on the content of her message, she clearly recognized my profile. I responded to her message. The 'drama' continues ... :D 4 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 1, 2020 Share Posted July 1, 2020 That's a positive. Maybe you two can go hiking. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted July 1, 2020 Share Posted July 1, 2020 i agree with d0nnivain but instead of going hiking do something more romantic 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Caauug Posted July 2, 2020 Share Posted July 2, 2020 17 hours ago, alphamale said: i agree with d0nnivain but instead of going hiking do something more romantic Get a root? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted July 2, 2020 Share Posted July 2, 2020 1 minute ago, Caauug said: Get a root? i don't know what this means, pardon me Link to post Share on other sites
Caauug Posted July 2, 2020 Share Posted July 2, 2020 1 minute ago, alphamale said: i don't know what this means, pardon me Aussie slag, Google is your friend. Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted July 2, 2020 Share Posted July 2, 2020 18 hours ago, nospam99 said: I responded to her message. Don't screw this one up... Your responses should be the following (if asked). (1) If asked about job status. - You are semi-retired, not unemployed. You are calculating your finances/investments/savings and preparing for full retirement. (2) If the subject of Porn on the internet, comes up. - I never even knew such a thing existed. (3) Upcoming Election/President - I don't really follow politics, is the election this year?? (4) If asked about President Trump - Your response should be - "Oh yea I do remember him being elected, haven't really been following what he's been doing, though." (4) Any other controversial subjects - Feign ignorance. If that doesn't work, take the middle ground. Good luck with this one. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted July 2, 2020 Share Posted July 2, 2020 Bin the MAGA hat ... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author nospam99 Posted July 2, 2020 Author Share Posted July 2, 2020 @HL and elaine. ROTFLMAO Sounds like you both advise me to get a root, too :p Believe it or not, I don't have a MAGA hat! If the subject of masturbation or sex, comes up. - I never even knew such a thing existed. (My kids are the mailman's) 2 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted July 2, 2020 Share Posted July 2, 2020 16 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said: Don't screw this one up... Your responses should be the following (if asked). (1) If asked about job status. - You are semi-retired, not unemployed. You are calculating your finances/investments/savings and preparing for full retirement. (2) If the subject of Porn on the internet, comes up. - I never even knew such a thing existed. (3) Upcoming Election/President - I don't really follow politics, is the election this year?? (4) If asked about President Trump - Your response should be - "Oh yea I do remember him being elected, haven't really been following what he's been doing, though." (4) Any other controversial subjects - Feign ignorance. If that doesn't work, take the middle ground. Good luck with this one. Yikes! Except for (1) which sounds legitimate, are not all the others not just telling him to lie? Guess the whole morals and values thing goes out the window for sex. If you think she won't remember what you say and notice if it changes later then that is pretty naive or worse. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted July 2, 2020 Share Posted July 2, 2020 53 minutes ago, SumGuy said: Guess the whole morals and values thing goes out the window for sex. Umm... yes. You have been living on Earth, right. Guys lying to have sex and the sun rises in the East, what is your point. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted July 2, 2020 Share Posted July 2, 2020 The problem being that nospam is looking for a companion not a hook up and that sooner or later his new woman will realise he is a Trump supporter and that he uses porn and if these are dealbreakers or lying is a dealbreaker, then he is back to square one tout de suite. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 2, 2020 Share Posted July 2, 2020 NoSpam Given where you live & your firmly held beliefs, the subject of politics will eventually come up, in part because you may need to assess where she stands. You know you would be highly incompatible with a far left wing liberal. Heck I'm too liberal for you & I'm only trying to drag the GOP back to a place of sanity. 😎 Be true to yourself but unless you met her on a Trumpetter site dial back the rhetoric initially. Say things like you are very conservative & if you can, at least acknowledge that his demeanor could be more diplomatic. alpha -- remember nospam is in NY. Although he doesn't live in the city, there aren't romantic public options around here right now. Since the lady in question likes to dance (a huge plus for nospam) it stands to reason that she would be active enough to agree to a hike / easy long walk. It can be very picturesque at some of the suburban state parks. Anybody our age who asks about masturbation or porn usage on an early date should be written off as troubled so if those subjects some up, run! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted July 2, 2020 Share Posted July 2, 2020 1 minute ago, d0nnivain said: Anybody our age who asks about masturbation or porn usage on an early date should be written off as troubled so if those subjects some up, run! It is brought up as the famous "Natalie" dumped him unceremoniously when she found out he uses porn. It was an immediate dealbreaker. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 2, 2020 Share Posted July 2, 2020 I missed Natalie but it sounds like he dodged a bullet. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 2, 2020 Share Posted July 2, 2020 5 hours ago, elaine567 said: Bin the MAGA hat ... I agree. OP...if you want a hope in hell of getting laid...heed the advice... Just kidding. I am dying to know what happens. I have my fingers crossed. I know dating during COVID has been tough. I need to hear a success story! Make us all smile. Keep us up to date on what happens... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 3, 2020 Share Posted July 3, 2020 9 hours ago, SumGuy said: Except for (1) which sounds legitimate, are not all the others not just telling him to lie? I read it as being comically extreme....with the underlying message being to tone it down a bit. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author nospam99 Posted July 3, 2020 Author Share Posted July 3, 2020 Keeping y'all 'up to date' because it's a bit weird ... First contact was Wednesday. I responded to all three of her messages. She's only been responding at 10:30pm. Ends of last exchanges: Me : and .... discuss whether you'd like to meet. What do you think? Her: Perhaps we can talk and exchange dance steps Me (full message): Talking sounds like a good 'next step'. Would you like my phone number? I ask about her interest in discussing meeting. She keeps messaging going, but only speculatively ('perhaps'), and specifically limits the topic to dancing. Is she being 'tongue in cheek', cautious and standoffish in the OLD jungle, juggling contacts with other men? Taking her last message literally, if that was all I had to go on, I might assume 'this woman is not really interested' and 'next' her. However I have met her IRL (99.99%) and she made first contact by sending me an unsolicited OLD message. So I responded once more, offering my phone number. Really, as OLD goes, her actions are not yet that far out of line, just rather unusual. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted July 3, 2020 Share Posted July 3, 2020 Not really unusual in the middle of a pandemic I guess. She is about 60 after all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author nospam99 Posted July 3, 2020 Author Share Posted July 3, 2020 @elaine. She's 69. If she dates me, she'll be 'robbing the cradle' :p 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted July 3, 2020 Share Posted July 3, 2020 At 69 even more reason to not rush into meeting you in the middle of a pandemic. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted July 3, 2020 Share Posted July 3, 2020 I would not bother with such a person, if I were you. She sounds like a time waster and I know you can do better. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted July 3, 2020 Share Posted July 3, 2020 (edited) 9 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: She sounds like a time waster and I know you can do better. He has had hardly a bite in two years... This woman ticks a lot of his boxes. How can he do better? Edited July 3, 2020 by elaine567 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted July 3, 2020 Share Posted July 3, 2020 Random question: why did you offer your phone number rather than asking for hers? Link to post Share on other sites
Author nospam99 Posted July 3, 2020 Author Share Posted July 3, 2020 (edited) ^^^ Working on the (disputed) assumption that women want to avoid being phone-bombed, IMO offering my number is less threatening/aggressive than asking for hers. elaine is correct that I've had few 'bites' and fewer 'catches' for many months. So I'm slow to 'release' even a marginal 'nibble' (like this one). Edited July 3, 2020 by nospam99 Link to post Share on other sites
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