AnaSingh831 Posted July 2, 2020 Share Posted July 2, 2020 10 years ago I got divorced 2010 no kids and block my ex-husband on my phone and social media. I moved on with my life and 1 year later 2011, I started dating but that didn't last. This breakup was hard for me. I really thought I was gonna marry this guy. Then I think I unblock my ex-husband on my phone on 2014. Anyways, I think my ex was using some other phone but I didn't talk to him until I think 2015 or 2016. I knew and heard from his sister that he got married. And I remember I called him to ask him for money to help me for my mom breast cancer treatment. But he wanted to meet me in person to give me the money and I didn't want to see him. I thought I might open a can of worms. With this convo, he told me that he has son and turning 1 in the following year which is 2017. Anyways, he always calls randoms times and especially on his birthday. I knew it was him but I didn't talk to him until in the last year or more, here and there. But this lockdown I don't know what's gotten to me. In the last 10 years I've been abstinence good christian lady. I've finally visited him at his own business in Feb. Then heard from him on April but I didn't talk to him. Until a month later. I called him. He was happy. He was content with just my voice, he always want to see my face. This is my dilemma, after all those 10 years I want him back. I mean I don't know if he wants me back. But we are still sexually attracted with each other. Its just wrong, he is married. Will he divorce his wife? Or how can I really move on? I know I'm just all over the place with this story, can't think straight. Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted July 2, 2020 Share Posted July 2, 2020 There is a reason you two divorced. No one here can answer that question for you. In a normal married man single OW I would say it is not likely, but this is a different situation so who knows. Sometimes we have that one person who we just can't let go of. I think that fact that you avoided him for so long and he kept trying suggests you two might be that for one another, still that doesn't mean you should be in a relationship, especially since he is married. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 3, 2020 Share Posted July 3, 2020 I'm sure as a good Christian lady you do not wish to interfere with their marriage. There are too many men out there to break up someone else's marriage and have to deal with the karma that comes with it. Definitely no. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Buffer Posted July 3, 2020 Share Posted July 3, 2020 Why did you divorce in the first place? Infidelity? one day at a time Buffer 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 5, 2020 Share Posted July 5, 2020 On 7/3/2020 at 12:03 AM, AnaSingh831 said: I mean I don't know if he wants me back. But we are still sexually attracted with each other. Its just wrong, he is married. Can you clarify - are you two having sex again? Sexting? How often do you talk to each other? I'm just trying to get a sense of what the current situation actually is. In any case, yes, it's wrong. He is married and you know this. Since you pride yourself on being a Christian woman, do the right thing and stop engaging with him. Unless and until he is single, there is really no point in keeping in touch. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnaSingh831 Posted July 5, 2020 Author Share Posted July 5, 2020 (edited) I caught my husband then only on phone bills that we was consistently talking. I called the number it was a woman and she said that they were only friends. Ex-H said the same thing. It was never been the same after that, I just couldn't trust him anymore. I left to the other side of the country to think and clear my head. Then came back because I love him. But the dynamics living with 5 other in-laws didn't help and I had this fear that he might cheat on me again and bring home a new girl then kick me out. So I got my own place in the same city but he didn't move in with me. They have this culture that he needs to stay with family (mom & dad), he's the eldest son. If you know what culture is that. We stay together like boyfriend & girlfriend but he never move in. I stayed for 1 year with that situation then sick and tired of it so I moved to Las Vegas, where my friends had move to. We stay together long distance, almost every weekend or every other weekend he would fly to California to stay with him. He always try to convince me to move back but I always try to convince him to move in together just us where he's at. But neither of us compromise I didn't want to go back to the same dynamics with him and in-laws. I just didn't feel we were married. So I filled our divorce. Edited July 5, 2020 by AnaSingh831 Link to post Share on other sites
AnotherExWife Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I went into an affair with my now married ex husband. We were divorced 10 or so years ago and had no children, divorced because of family pressure and I still loved him deeply. I can't tell you how much I regret doing this. It started with just checking in, then discussing our relationship, quickly ended up with us meeting up and sleeping together. After some time our past issues came back, I knew he wasn't going to leave his current wife for his ex wife and I was back to feeling terrible about our relationship. I will say that at least this time I ended things on my terms. Everything that was wrong in your marriage is still there, his family and culture are still the same and you will not change this. You are only setting yourself up to be hurt. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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