QuietRiot Posted July 5, 2020 Share Posted July 5, 2020 Since crossfit is more popular, I was wondering if the non-cross fitters, non-hardcore types would be compatible with those into that type of work out. Mudruns, 5K's, cross fit, vs the average joe (or jane) that just works out on a home gym or casually goes 3 days a week to a gym. Doesn't follow a regimand or posts constant selfies online about their work outs. Though both are "in shape" technically...but one is certainly not into any hardcore, high impact kind of stuff. Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 5, 2020 Share Posted July 5, 2020 Why would they not be compatible? A couple can easily both be into fitness but not work out together. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted July 5, 2020 Share Posted July 5, 2020 I was a cross-fitter for 2-3 years and really enjoyed it. It definitely upped my fitness game, although I never adopted their nutrition program (not a fan), and the number of selfies I have ever posted online can be counted on one hand! I think compatibility goes a lot deeper than exercise routine, and I don't see any reason why an avid cross-fitter/runner/cyclist/whatever can't date a more casual fitness participant. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted July 5, 2020 Share Posted July 5, 2020 In general, the more you have in common with your partner, the better and likelier it is the relationship will last. Crossfit people have a reputation for being pretty extreme fitness nuts. It's not likely that an extreme fitness person would click well with one who's not into fitness at all. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author QuietRiot Posted July 6, 2020 Author Share Posted July 6, 2020 1 hour ago, Ruby Slippers said: In general, the more you have in common with your partner, the better and likelier it is the relationship will last. Crossfit people have a reputation for being pretty extreme fitness nuts. It's not likely that an extreme fitness person would click well with one who's not into fitness at all. You know what's ironic...is people who claim and won't date, those they have "too much" in common with. Apparently, being "too much" alike is 'boring". I was like "huh?!" Link to post Share on other sites
major_merrick Posted July 6, 2020 Share Posted July 6, 2020 My GFs and I are quite different when it comes to fitness. They aren't into CrossFit, but they go to the gym daily, lift weights, and swim. Somehow, two slender, toned, beautiful girls still want to be with me. And I like to eat cheesecake, I hate swimming, and I think lifting something I don't have to lift is unpleasant. Unless your partner's fitness routine is taking tons of time each day, or having other effects on your relationship like cutting out your mutual sexercise, I don't see how it would affect compatibility. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 6, 2020 Share Posted July 6, 2020 1 hour ago, QuietRiot said: You know what's ironic...is people who claim and won't date, those they have "too much" in common with. Apparently, being "too much" alike is 'boring". I was like "huh?!" TBH this is an excuse. Something else was up. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 6, 2020 Share Posted July 6, 2020 1 hour ago, QuietRiot said: You know what's ironic...is people who claim and won't date, those they have "too much" in common with. Apparently, being "too much" alike is 'boring". I was like "huh?!" Having a lot in common is over rated because a lot of us change our interests over the years. I'm happy with simply having similar morals, ethics and food tastes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted July 6, 2020 Share Posted July 6, 2020 1 hour ago, major_merrick said: Unless your partner's fitness routine is taking tons of time each day, or having other effects on your relationship like cutting out your mutual sexercise, I don't see how it would affect compatibility. I've dated a few athletic men who had inactive partners at some point in the past. They all said it was so much better to be with someone who's fit and enjoys doing active things with them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted July 6, 2020 Share Posted July 6, 2020 9 hours ago, Ruby Slippers said: I've dated a few athletic men who had inactive partners at some point in the past. They all said it was so much better to be with someone who's fit and enjoys doing active things with them. Now this I would agree with. I don't need someone to be into the same style of fitness I am, but I am active and it's important that my guy also be active, or at least capable of it. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author QuietRiot Posted July 6, 2020 Author Share Posted July 6, 2020 10 hours ago, major_merrick said: My GFs and I are quite different when it comes to fitness. They aren't into CrossFit, but they go to the gym daily, lift weights, and swim. Somehow, two slender, toned, beautiful girls still want to be with me. And I like to eat cheesecake, I hate swimming, and I think lifting something I don't have to lift is unpleasant. Unless your partner's fitness routine is taking tons of time each day, or having other effects on your relationship like cutting out your mutual sexercise, I don't see how it would affect compatibility. So do you even work out, if not that, at least stay active? Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 22 hours ago, basil67 said: Having a lot in common is over rated because a lot of us change our interests over the years. I'm happy with simply having similar morals, ethics and food tastes. I don't know...you often hear "we drifted apart" or "we just didn't do things together anymore, we went in different directions over the years" as reasons people do break up. I feel like you need to at least start out having things in common. Then as you each age you can probably at least find some sort of common ground. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 13 hours ago, introverted1 said: Now this I would agree with. I don't need someone to be into the same style of fitness I am, but I am active and it's important that my guy also be active, or at least capable of it. This is what I've generally seen between couples. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 51 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said: I don't know...you often hear "we drifted apart" or "we just didn't do things together anymore, we went in different directions over the years" as reasons people do break up. I feel like you need to at least start out having things in common. Then as you each age you can probably at least find some sort of common ground. Yes, there needs to be some common things. Morals and ethics are especially important. Hubby and I have always bonded over our shared love of enjoying a wide variety of food. But I worry when I see some people who think that there needs to be a wide variety of shared interests....and especially those who think that shared interests are crucial to having good conversation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 46 minutes ago, basil67 said: Yes, there needs to be some common things. Morals and ethics are especially important. Hubby and I have always bonded over our shared love of enjoying a wide variety of food. But I worry when I see some people who think that there needs to be a wide variety of shared interests....and especially those who think that shared interests are crucial to having good conversation. Oh, I don't worry about that. This post is actually only about one common interest. I don't know a lot of people who want to have a whole roster of stuff that makes them identical, but that's just my experience. I think any adult can decide for him- or herself how much he or she wants to have in common with an S.O. Link to post Share on other sites
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